Post # 1
We are having a garden wedding and a standing ceremony (20 min.) and although my father is walking me “towards” the groom, we will all be informally gathered prior to the ceremony with lots of people who haven’t seen each other in awhile who will no doubt all be visiting. We have been together 10 years and are having a civil ceremony. It seems we can all just gather (1PM), then begin once the marriage commissioner arrives (1:30). Sorry if it’s not very romantic but it feels natural to us. Are we being total weirdos? Thanks!
Post # 3
We’re also having an shorter outdoor ceremony. There will be no ‘aisle’ and my Dad probably won’t be walking me anywhere (we would just be quietly teasing each other under our breath, and probably end up laughing like hyenas, or me falling over).
I don’t really care for the whole ‘theatrical’ entrance. I’ve been living with my SO for 4 years, together for 6, so it’s not like it’s the first time we’ve met or anything (plus I’m not a big fan of the chattel connotations).
And If I’m not parading myself down the aisle then why would anyone else have to proceed me in the theatrics?
I am pretty well of the same mindset, why can’t we all just meet @ a specific time and gather by the big X, and go? haha. I don’t think you guys are being weirdos, but that’s coming from a like minded-bias. 😉
Post # 4
I think you’re absolutely fine. Despite giving an overwhelming amount of thought to most wedding decisions, there are some early ones I wish I had considered with more insight. Such as the processional. Matching bridesmaid dresses, father drama, uncoordinated flower girl…you have no idea what you’re missing out on! lol
Post # 5
Thanks so much!!! I had to look up “chattel” and I’m glad I did! It put a word to my feeling that there was this insidious meaning being perpetuated by the father walking the daughter. I haven’t met anyone who has had a ceremony without processional or anyone considering having one until now so thank you very much. Babymilka, I knew I would be missing out!!!! lol
Post # 6
Same here! We’re not “center of attention” people, so the processional idea is VERY contrary to who we are and our relationship. Obviously the wedding is very “us-centered” already, so we don’t feel the need to emphasize the drama! We’re going to father all of our guests at 6:45, drink wine and eat gourmet treats, then about 15 minutes later, we’ll have our Rabbi or coordinator grab everyone’s attention for a 15-20 minute (or less?) ceremony.
@livewell: we’re probably also going to have my father lead me, arm in arm, to my Fiance as a symbolic “giving away.”
It’s to nice to meet other “no processional” brides! I felt like the only one! And to the “not romantic” issue — it seems perfectly romantic (and natural!) to us. We want to gather our loved ones around us, circling us with their hearts and arms, as we pledge to spend the rest of our lives together. What could be unromantic about that?