Post # 1
After going to numerous weddings this past year, the one thing that I always notice is how many people barely touch their slice of wedding cake. So that’s why I have decided to do an alternative. I’m actually getting a fake cake just for pictures and one layer that is real for the slicing. For the guests, I’m going to do some sort of desserts.
I absolutely LOVE having the idea of doing an ice cream catering bar for my wedding. I’m also having a vintage wedding, so this decor would fit so perfectly with how this ice cream catering company does it. They have this retro 50s ice cream cart or truck that they bring to your private party. Originally, I was planning to get little mini desserts from this amazing bakery close by and have them placed on the table for guests to grab. But after looking at this, and knowing that it’s about the same price…I TOTALLY want to do the ice cream. Plus I’m having an August summer wedding in Los Angeles too! So it would be perfect…especially if it hits triple digits!
The only problem is, my mom HATES the idea. I feel like my mom is sometimes the one that ultimately makes the final decisions for me. If she says no…then I feel like I can’t do it. Should I just say screw it…I’m paying for it…I’m going to do it because it’s an amazing idea. Or should I just do the mini dessert display because Mom said so??
They both turn out to be the same cost.
Mini Dessert Display:
Ice Cream Catering Display:
Post # 3
While they are both great ideas, and there isn’t a cost difference, you need to explain to your mother (gently) that this is your day, and you feel like she is taking the veto power from you. Unless your mother is paying for your wedding, I don’t think she should have final say on anything IMO. And if she is, I think she should still listen to your requests. After all, it is YOUR wedding, right? Hope this helps…
Post # 4
@WineAndCupcakes: yea definitely. She’s paying for a little bit of it. But it’s mostly my dad that’s helping out. And my dad doesn’t care as long as it’s cost efficient.
Post # 5
I don’t know how well this will roll with her, but maybe try limiting her “veto control” of items to equal the cost that she is helping with. Say she gave you $XXXX money, and it covers A, B, C and D wedding things. Say this dessert dilemma is E. Let her know you’ll take her feelings into consideration, and leave it at that. Let her know your decision after it has been made (deposit has been given, etc.)
Post # 6
You sound totally psyched about the ice cream truck! Do it! It sounds fun and memorable.
Post # 7
We are having a SMALL wedding cake and then a dessert buffet. mini pies. mini cheesecakes. brownies. cookies. truffles. this is the part of the reception i’m MOST excited about!!!
Post # 8
@strawberrybanana:ooo that sounds delicious! Sometimes I wish I had a SMALL wedding. I have 400 invites!! So the mini desserts I was thinking about getting are like 1.5″.
Post # 9
Personally, I hate ice cream so I voted for mini desserts, but do what you want. Though if you’re having a night wedding it’ll probably be fairly cool by dessert time.
We’re doing pie, because that’s what we like. 🙂 You should do what you like too.
Post # 10
We are having cake but not your traditional style cakes.
I would describe it as cakes you would find in a diner.
It will be 3 seperate cakes. Marble Cake w/ fudge frosting, Red Velvet Cake and Carrot Cake.
They won’t be decorated just frosted.
Post # 11
We got married on New Year’s Eve, and our ceremony didn’t start until 7:30, so we opted for mini-cupcakes instead of traditional cake. They were a big hit!
Post # 12
I am baking my own cake but LOVE ice cream. The cart is adorable and I think it might be hard for your mom to embrace this new idea but I would go for it.
Post # 13
go for the ice cream! you can bake a lot of the desserts yourself…just prepare ahead of time and freeze them. that way mom is happy because you still have “regular” desserts, and it’s cheap. or you could go to costco — their desserts are usually pretty good!
Post # 14
@kitzy: Great idea COSTCO! I can’t believe they’re going to start selling wedding dresses soon. They do everything!!!!