Post # 1
I need help bees…I know the “etiquette” way is to give favors for thanking people for coming to the wedding…but…Isn’t giving them a 4 hour open bar, free food, free cake, dancing, etc good enough? I know that sounds kind of B***y BUT, I’ve been to SOO many weddings where people don’t even take the favors home, and if they do (and i’m guilty of this), they throw them away as soon as they get home, so to me theyre a waste of money….So are YOU doing favors for your wedding or no??
Post # 3
Gah, I am so with you on this one! They seem kind of pointless to me unless they’re edible or something awesome 🙂
Therefore, we’re doing a donation of $1 per person to our local humane society (we have 2 furbabies)…
Of course, I’d rather cut it because our budget is so small to begin with, but now that we’re donating, I can’t justify cutting that cost now!!
Good luck, I know I wouldn’t be offended if I didn’t get a favor, I say do whatever you want. If you don’t have them it saves both time and money.
Post # 4
Thanks!! Glad I’m not the only one that thinks this!!
Post # 5
I completely, 100% agree with both of you. And I am also guilty of throwing out favors. I really don’t want to do favors but my mother keeps guilting me. If I do anything I think I will make it edible – who could turn down chocolate or candy?
Post # 6
I’m doing a destination wedding, and we are putting almost everyone up for the wknd. Everyone else that is coming is super close to us, and they are choosing to sty somewhere else. That being said, I feel like food, drinks, and a wknd getaway is more than enough. On the other hand, a lot of people have suggested that I do a welcome bag. I haven’t made a decision on that yet.
Post # 7
I much rather NOT do them but my g’ddamn Future Mother-In-Law is on my back about it! (And NO, she is NOT willing to buy them or pay for them if we buy them.) Ugh! So little chocolates it is…
Post # 8
I’m totally with you on this one. I have received cds with the couples’ picture on them, beer coozies with the couple’s names and wedding date on them, little candles with the wedding date on them…and they’ve all ended up in the bin (well, not the CD…it has good music on it!). So most of the time, they are a waste of money IMO.
I am still going to do favors for my wedding, but they are going to be homemade chocolates in a paper box. So hopefully people will just eat them, then they can throw away the box (hopefully into the recycle bin!).
Post # 9
We did favors but it was two little chocolate hearts at each place setting. Anything non edible will be left, thrown out, or in the case of my husband who is incapable of throwing things out (seriously.. I fear we will be on “Hoarders” some day) it will end up in a junk drawer. Either find a cute little candy or cookie, or skip it all together. Believe me.. I’d take the open bar over a cookie any day! : )
Post # 10
No favors from us. Most weddings I’ve attended, they get left behind anyway (why waste the money). I agree, with the free food, alcohol, entertainment, etc….they don’t need a useless favor.
Post # 11
We’re doing little bottles of my FI’s fave taco sauces, but only as a compromise so we didn’t have to all eat fast food burritos at the wedding :). I never planned on doing favors before then, and I would never miss them at a wedding.
Post # 12
I think it’s nice to have favours, if I was a guest I’d sort of expect them and as a bride I can’t imagine not having them.
Having said that, I don’t think favours should be expensive! There are tons of budget options, and you can choose something which might be of some use to your guests!
For example, I think the best budget options might be:
– A CD compilation;
– Edible favours (like hot chocolate mix or chocolates or jam)
– Donation to a charity (you give each guest a small note saying that instead of favors you gave a donation to xxx charity)
But ultimately you should do what’s best for your wedding!
Post # 13
I totally agree. I think you should either do something edible, or nothing at all. No cookie cutters, bottle openers, wine stops, candles, soaps, etc. The only other thing I was possibly considering (and probably still won’t do) are personalized lip balms that I found on eBay.
I’m doing a candy buffet and leaving it at that.
Post # 14
We have 150 guest and we are donating 1 dollar for each guest to the American Heart Association and the American Cancer Society. My fiance and I both have lost loved ones to heart disease and to cancer, so this is our way of remembering them.
Post # 15
We are going the donation route too. We will also have welxome baskets, since everyone is traveling.
Post # 16
i asked about this recently too and was told i didn’t need to do them. i am however putting together awesome welcome bags for my guests who are all travelling to Jamaica. and at the ceremony on the beach, they will get sandalwood fans. other than not, no official “favors”