Post # 17
basically i meant if you have no purpose for your favors, then you don’t need them. i see a purpose in my welcome bags since they all traveled to my wedding and the fans on the beach are in case its very hot! i don’t care if they keep them after or not. they were only 99 cents each!
Post # 18
Nope, no favors either. I have never received a favor that I was really excited about…always ended up leaving them or throwing them away. So, we are having a photo booth, open bar and maybe a late night snack of some kind
Post # 19
I don’t think we’ll do favors either. I have to admit that I threw away a lot of the favors I’ve gotten over the years (little picture frames, tchotkys). and at the last wedding, the catering staff threw away our coffee favors from the bride and groom!
I think we’ll probably donate to the tutoring program where my fiance has been volunteering for two years, instead.
Post # 20
I am doing welcome bags too. Mine will mostly contain snacks, water and a handwritten letter. I found some bags that you can have personalized with the names. I was thinking of having it personalized with the female guest name as a favor/ welcome bag.
Post # 21
@nursein10: I agree with you completley!!! and i have been guilty of throwing away favours, many times.
BUT, when you dont give one people do notice…and im no etiquette police but i think some sort of gesture needs to be made.
We didnt do a favour at each seat but we had a candy buffet where people loaded up on goodies, they ate some there and took it home.
(it should be noted that I had an open bar all night, wine at the tables, and a photobooth and welcome bags)
Post # 22
We are doing a candy/popcorn table … those who want to take some candy, fill a bag and enjoy. if not, that’s fine too. the candy will get eaten either way.
Another thing I decided to do was order 16oz plastic stadium cups. They are white with purple (main wedding color) writing. One side says “Eat, Drink, & Be Married” and the other side has our names and the date. I just got them in this week. They are AWESOME! People can use them while at the reception to make their mixed drinks, drink beer, drink tea, water, whatever…and then they can take a couple home! I ordered 375 cups for a little over $200. Not bad 🙂 I’ve never been to a wedding where I got a souvinere cup so I think people will love these!
Post # 23
Def doing favors, something edible that people can enjoy on the ride home.
Post # 24
I’m not doing favors. They remind me of a kid’s birthday party where you need a plastic prize for showing up, not a grown-up event. Of all wedding spending, I think you get the least bang for your buck. You end up spending a couple hundred dollars while each guest gets a bite of chocolate or a trinket that they’ll throw away. To me, that’s not worth it.
Bonus: Miss Manners agrees with me! “Who told you that you had to give out wedding favors? Etiquette has never thought of weddings as comparable to children’s birthday parties, where the guests might need consolation for not being the center of attention. –>You owe them only the hospitality of the occasion.”
Post # 25
Our favors fell apart as we were leaving to go out of town for the wedding. I felt bad about it, but it happened, no one said anything, and they loved our Two Hearted IPA and food. So I think it’s okay.
Post # 26
In lieu of favors we made a donation to our favorite charity and put a note at each place setting.
Post # 27
I just realized I went to a wedding last weekend and the bride didn’t have favors for the guests and I didn’t even notice until now!! So I think I made my point to myself…that theyre pointless! 🙂
Post # 28
Yep, waste. I’m not doing it.
Post # 29
Were not doing them either. Instead we are giving to a charity close to us! Seems like a better use of the money and you can deduct it from your taxes if you want.
Post # 30
Total wast in my opinion so we aren’t having any, all weddings I went to they were left behind so yea… besides I have a really low budget lol =)
Post # 31
We aren’t doing favors either.
If we do ANYTHING at all, it will be a donation.