(Closed) Anyone not doing the unity candle or sand?

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re not doing a unity candle because ours is a Catholic wedding, and for Catholics a lit candle represents the light of Christ, so it just would have felt weird having candles in the church that represented ourselves instead.  We’re not doing the sand thing either, just because for some reason it never held enough significance to me.

We are borrowing a nice Mexican tradition from my FI’s family, though.  During the communion rite, we’ll have a long white and silver rope draped around us in a figure-eight, symbolizing our spiritual union.

Post # 18
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Busy bee

enbrandner: I love that tradition. I’m not Mexican, but am Hispanic so I would love to borrow that for the ceremony. It’s so lovely.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We are just keeping it short and sweet! No rituals, readings, etc. Just ceremony and vows 🙂

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ceremony, a reading and vows.  It didn’t seem like we needed anything more than that.

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’re doing a water ceremony. We’ll mix two colors of water and make green.  We’re getting married outside of an aquarium and it just seemed better then a sand ceremony.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We did a Japanese sake ceremony instead of the usual sand or unity candle.  My husband’s grandmother is from Japan and it was a way of welcoming me into the family.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

sand ceremony and unity candle just doesn’t make sense to us, we just might not do anything, or we will have a fingerprint guest book and do our fingerprints during the ceremony…

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

We did not do either.  Just skipped right through that place.  It didn’t matter and no one noticed that there was anything missing.  We had an outdoor ceremony so the candle would have been difficult and we were not at a beach so sand would have been weird.  It worked out fine!

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

We didn’t do either ceremony and like Farfromachildbride, we just kept going with the ceremony.  No one mentioned anything to us about it.  We just weren’t really feeling that invested in either idea and figured we didn’t need it.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are not doing either…just a sweet ceremony 😉

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We aren’t.

We are doing the blessing of the hands reading though.

The symbolism of the unity candle/sand ceremony etc. just didn’t resonate with us personally so we decided not to include it.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We aren’t doing any kind of special ceremony besides our vows.  The sand and candle ceremonies really aren’t for us.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We didn’t do any of that stuff.  I think a unity candle or sand thing would be cool, but my husband would’ve thought it was a waste of time, haha.  We had a very SHORT and sweet ceremony.  Basically a hello – vows – you’re married type of thing.  The whole thing probably lasted like 5-10 minutes tops.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We are not doing those things either…

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m surprised that alot of people aren’t doing anything during the ceremony. We plan to do the wine box ceremony.

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