Post # 1
Are there any bees out there who didn’t do a grand entrance? Or any who don’t plan to? If you didn’t do it, do you regret it?
I’ve only been to one wedding where they didn’t do it, but to be honest I didn’t even notice until about halfway through the reception. And even then I think I only noticed because I was in wedding-planning “mode” and was thinking about these types of things. I kind of loved how it made the whole thing seem a little more relaxed and less “showy.” But I’m really interested to hear what others have to say on the topic!
Post # 3
I’m realizing I should add that we’ll be at the cocktail hour, so it won’t be like this is the first our guests are seeing us. We’ll have hopefully chatted with many of them before the ballroom portion even starts.
Post # 4
I’m not! Like you said it feels a little showy to me. Plus they will have just watched us get married-no need to announce who we are/that we are there, they will know! I’m really looking forward to just mingling and enjoying cocktail hour with my guests.
Post # 5
@wvc412: Posting to follow. We’ll be participating in our coctail hour too and having a receiving line so I’m not so sure what to do…
Post # 6
I didn’t have one and I’m very glad with the decision! I find them awkward and a little self important (not that the entire wedding isn’t, but this really bring it into focus). And i’ve never yet seen a bride get through one without doing a bouquet fist pump thing. And that’s not really me. I don’t need applause. Plus, we did an outdoor wedding so it’s not like we were entering a room.
Basically everyone was enjoying food and drinks and games and socializing during cocktail hour in an area set up beside the reception tent. Towards the end of the cocktail hour the DJ made an announcement for everyone to head for their seats and our DOC encouraged everyone along. We went and sat at our table with our Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor and their families. I changed into my dance shoes. Then we did our first dance. We weren’t planning to do parent dances either, but my dad surprised me by having some friends play/sing I Loved Her First with a slideshow – so we did the parent dances (thank goodness the DOC scambled and got together a mother-son dance while my dad and I were dancing). Then dinner and toasts as people were finishing dinner. Then lots of partying! Worked out great!
Post # 7
@wvc412: i’m not going to because i think we’ll get enough attention as the freaking bride and groom, i don’t need to be backstage waiting in the wings for a cheesy dj intro. they just feel wierd to me – like, we know you got married! we were there! it was an hour ago!
also, i think they seem like a good idea in theory (to some) but can go awry. like, the curtain is sheer, so everyone can see you standing there waiting for your ‘moment’, or people are having a good time munching away and drinking and everyone gets interrupted. i’ve been a guest where we couldn’t go inside/get a drink/whatever because ‘the bride and groom are making a grand entrance’ which meant we were all standing around waiting for them for 20 minutes.
Post # 8
@wvc412: Ugh I hate the grand entrance. It feels like when you’re at a ball game and the announcer is giving the starting line up or something!!!
I did NOT do a grand entrance when I married my ex-husband. It was fine. No one noticed or cared.
Post # 9
@wvc412: We did not…for one thing, I abhor anything similiar to a curtain call when I was not in fact treated to a show and secondly, we were married by the windows in a small room, turned around, and hugged everyone in attendance, of which there were about 25 people, sat down and started eating….it was a very casual and intimate affair.
When I am at weddings that do this, I really have to struggle to look interested and happy, because I honestly don’t care, I don’t need to know who everyone is, I don’t want to watch them dance, or hop or crawl into the room while I clap…although, I don’t know why I’m clapping….no one did anything other than walk into a room….? Am I clapping because everyone else is clapping? Good LORD, how much longer can this take???? How big is this bridal party? It didn’t look that big at the altar! I hope this ends soon…I can’t feel my hands and I have to pee.
Post # 10
@wvc412: We’re not planning a grand entrance, or a receiving line, or any special announcements. We will be doing group photos during the cocktail hour, and the reception is just steps away in another room, so we plan to go from one area to another with our guests. Neither Fiance nor I enjoy being the center of attention.
Post # 11
We did one…..but I planned it and ws very clear to the DJ what we wanted/didnt’ want. Gave him a script! We’d been off doing photos while everyone was having drinks/apps. The intro just got everyone seated and we brought in the bridal party (just 2 each) and us, and went right into our first dance. Just flowed better. Honestly, if I hadn’t had an awesome AC/DC song, I wouldn’t have been as interested to do it. It was exciting to have them open the doors for us and everyone was cheering and clapping. 🙂
I say, it is your wedding, you do what you want!
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
We didn’t do one. We took photos for about 45 minutes during cocktail hour, and then we just kind of wandered back and joined the party. We mingled for a while and then our MC got everyone seated for dinner (cocktail hour and dinner were in the same area), and we made a little speech thanking everyone. Done and done!
It was great. We figured the fewer showy, kinda cheesy elements, the better – the first dance, parent dances, and cutting the cake were enough.
Post # 13
You guys are all making me feel so much better about this! When I suggested it to my mom she looked at me like I was nuts.
I read on another thread here that a few couples went into the reception room first, so they were able to greet people as they walked in. I don’t think I’d like to do it as formally as a true receiving line (we’ll probably be doing one after the church ceremony), but just to be near the entrance to see people who maybe weren’t at the ceremony. It might even cut down a little bit on the pressure later to make it to every.single.seat. at every.single.table.
Post # 14
NO. I really don’t like the grand entrance things. I think they’re a bit cheesy and, as a guest, never thought they looked very nice.
We didn’t do a grand entrance. We entered the reception venue right after signing our license as cocktail hour was going on. We got to mingle and speak to our 60 guests right from the get-go. No big curtain call for us.
I think it’s so much more intimate that way.
Post # 15
We didn’t and loved it! We got there, enjoyed cocktail hours, mingled with our guests, and ate the yummy appetizers. When it came time for dinner, we sat and ate. No grand entrance, no unnecessary spotlight on us 🙂
ETA: The DJ introduced us as “Mr. and Mrs ____” before our first dance in a “and now, the new Mr and Mrs ___ will share their first dance”. I don’t feel like I missed out on anything, and that it was the best decision for us.
Post # 16
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
@wvc412: We’re not having a DJ or MC to announce us, and even if we were, we wouldn’t be doing the grand entrance. It seems a bit odd to me, and as you said, we are having a cocktail hour before dinner (most of which we will be taking photos, but still). The whole thing is outside, anyway, so there isn’t really anywhere for us to enter!