Post # 1
I’m starting my final semester of undergrad tomorrow. I’m going to end up with a pretty useless degree- Social Science with a concentration in Communication- but at this point I just want to be done with it and I don’t really have a particular passion for anything else.
I don’t know exactly what I want to do. I’ve worked in public relations/ journalism for the college as an internship and I did really enjoy that, but most positions for working in higher ed require a Master’s degree (probably in Communication, for that position). I’ve also considered getting a Master’s in school counseling or marriage and family therapy… and then some of the other things I’m drawn to don’t require much schooling at all, like real estate agent or wedding planner.
But the thing is… all of these sound like they could make me reasonably happy, but I don’t feel a PASSION for any of them like they tell you you’re supposed to. I kind of thought going to college was about finding a job I love, but honestly I don’t know if that’s going to happen. There have certainly been CLASSES that I loved, but all in different fields.
At this point I’m just hoping that I can get something I don’t actively hate that will pay me enough money to persue the things that do make me happy, like traveling and spending time with friends and family and buying enough books to have my own home library. Unfortunately the things I’m interested in also don’t rake in that kind of money.
Does anyone else feel like this?
Post # 3
Huh, I am 34 and I still haven’t found a job I love entirely. I worked in my degree based field for 8 years, and then decided that I really didn’t enjoy all of it anymore, and took a career break (fortunately, in Australia becoming a croupier pays fairly well so taking a career break worked).
I am still not sure what I want to do with my life. I will figure it out eventually.
Post # 4
@Miss Fish: I’m in university and feel this way. I’m already staying an extra year because I switched my major fairly late, and I thought I could grow to love it (computer science) and while I like certain classes, programming is NOT for me.
I went into it because I didn’t want to go to grad school and I wanted to make good money… But I did talk to someone at a company recently that gave me hope.
“you’ll start out at an entry level job for 2-5 years, then you’ll transfer out to find your niche. It’ll be something you never even knew was a job, but you’ll love it and be good at it.”
basic summary haha. I think her example was that she now does advertising for some kind of paper product at a tech firm? really really specific and weird but she loves it.
Post # 5
I’m currently under the impression that being a “real grown-up” is a lie because I don’t think anyone REALLY knows that they’re doing. Or maybe they do and I just suck at life?
I think maybe some of my issue is that literally 90% of the people I interact with are Marines, and there’s a certain level of purpose that goes along with that (despite the fact that they all complain about work, lol). I’m over here without any purpose/direction/clue while a bunch of people my age and younger actually have an objective in their daily lives. But I realize that’s probably not an accurate sample of most 19-23 year olds!
Post # 6
Yep that me for sure. I’m envious of the people who go straight from school into college or university and go into their careers and love it. I’m not one of them either 🙁 I’m starting to realise that not everyone gets to have a career they love or are totally passionate about and as long as it pays the bills and I have my outside of work hobbies and passions then I’m ok
id love to do journalism or something but that would require at least 3 years doing a degree and I’m just not keen to give up full time work to be a student (obviously I don’t have the passion for it like your also talking about)
Post # 7
@nearlymarriedlass: That’s how I feel, too. The thing is, there are definitely things I would LOVE to do- coach high school speech and debate is one of them. But that’s not really a job, so I kind of just need to find something that would let me work regular hours so that I could be off in time to do what actually makes me happy.
I don’t need a lot of money. With $3500 in the bank, my husband and I have more than double what our parents have COMBINED. We certainly aren’t accustomed to lavish lifestyles and don’t really feel like we need them. I kind of just want to feel like I make an impact on people in some way and as long as I have enough money to pay the bills and maybe go on a little vacation with my husband once in a while I’ll be good.
But I kind of feel like someone should have told me this before I racked up a small fortune in student loans.
Post # 8
@Miss Fish: student loans are a pain in the ass. I studied Social work for something to do , waste of time! Hinesight is a bitch!!!
Im the same. I’d love to be a wedding planner or something but not much business for that around my area.
I would love to be “somebody” instead of “what do u do?” oh just “admin” type work…. I wish I had like an important title. But the older I get (I’m 26) I’m realising that without people like me none of those big places like hospitals etc would run as there would be no one to do all the paperwork and schedules etc, and there are always gonna be people who aren’t as career minded and hve jobs like me. So I’m not as worried as I used to be…. :S
Post # 9
I feel kinda the same.. I was that kid that changed my mind twice a day about what I wanted to do. As an adult, it’s been much the same.. I happen it have stumbled across urban & regional planning, which I enjoy enough to comit a chunk of my life to.
Post # 10
Yup. 33, never finished my bachelors (after 7+ years at it. Five changes in major will do that.). I just never found what I wanted to do and wound up just treading water. We get sold this line that something will make us passionate, something is our ‘purpose’, and nothing less will do. I can’t even stay focused on something longer than a few months, much less long enough to make a stab at a career at it.
You’re at least a step ahead. You’ve done something you enjoyed. I’ve just sort of stumbled around, bumping into various minimum wage jobs. That’s my option with my educational background and the decade I wasted searching for ‘passion’.
Post # 11
I feel the same way. I started college right out of high school, however, I had to drop-out due to unforeseen family circumstances. Currently, I’m stuck in a decent paying job that I have absolutely no passion for. I’ve been here 8 years now and, on a daily basis, feel like my career is going nowhere. FI and I have decided that after the wedding when things have settled down, that I can go back to school. The problem is, I don’t know what to go back for. I worry that whatever I choose will make me more unhappy than I am at my current job, or, I won’t be good at anything. For example, I’ve thought about going back to school for non-invasive type nursing. My fear is that I won’t be able to handle the hours a nurse puts into her job. Don’t feel bad, I’m in a similar boat! Just be proud of yourself that you will have a degree!
Post # 12
YES! I was thinking of starting my own thread about this. I don’t have any advice as I’m struggling with this right now but you are certainly not alone.
I graduated with a civil engineering degree. I’m not really sure why I went into it but I didn’t realize that until close to the end of my degree and I decided to just finish it.
I’m in a job that I like but it’s not my passion and I don’t see myself staying in this field and being happy forever. So now I’m struggling with going back to school or to just keep trying to love it.
Post # 13
A job is just a way to make money for me. If I was rich, I’d stop working. Passion comes from my life, not the means I use to fund my life. I chose what I’m good at simply because it would be easiest to get a job.
Careers that truly interest me I would be no good at it. So, I do what I know – write. I would write even if I wasn’t being paid but I wouldn’t do it for a gigantic multinational organization. I’d have time to do it for myself.
Post # 14
Nope. I switched majors like 5 times and still never felt a calling. I was good at a lot of things and never had an issue getting good grades. Most people, I think, are pulled toward what they’re good at, but its hard when you do pretty well in all subjects because then where do you go? I ended up completing the pre-med program and never bothered applying to med school just because I didn’t feel passionate about it. I have a degree in Chemistry and Public Relations (random combo, right? But like I said, I couldn’t decide and wasn’t pulled in any one direction) and now I work in a completely unrelated field to anything I ever studied in college – I’m an analyst for the federal govt. I considered grad school, but when I thought about it I couldn’t decide what on earth I’d pursue so what was the point? I still don’t know what I would do if I could do it all over again haha.
Post # 15
I legitimately enjoy my job, but I’ve never felt a strong calling to a job, and I don’t doubt that if this one doesn’t offer room to grow (It’s a department that is less than a year old) I’ll find another job after hanging around long enough to not look like a rapid switcher.
Post # 16
@Miss Fish: I’m 25 and graduated almost 4 years ago. Still have no clue what I want to do for a career. I took the first full-time job that offered me a position (took me about 9 months to find one) and have been there almost three years. I like the people, but thats really the only thing I like about it. Lol!
My issue was majoring in something I was good at and loved – English (minor in Journalism; I didn’t like the Journalism part though). Everyone always told me that a Liberal Arts degree like that gives you a lot of options for careers, but its too broad and I found myself wishing I had more direction in career choices. The jobs I really wanted – working in the Editorial department of a publishing house – are all located in NYC, which is way too expensive for me to travel to every day (not to mention the competition for those few jobs).
The only two things I’ve always known about myself are that I love to write and I want kids one day. . . neither of which really offer great career options.
I think most people feel the way we do. Some people are lucky enough to find a job that they actually love, but I think most people are just doing what they need to do to get by in life.
@MrsPanda99: Thats actually a really good way of looking at things. I have trouble keeping that kind of attitude though because I spend so much time going to work – I’m there a total of 9 hours, with an hour for lunch, and my drive is about 40 minutes now. I’m going to try and be more positive and look at it from that view more often though.