(Closed) Anyone NOT have a bridal party??

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
Post # 16
1262 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We each had our one sibling stand up on our side. That was it. No bridal party, no ugly matching dresses, no added expenses, no pleasing others or drama. Nothing. BEST decision I ever made. My friends all were free to drink and have fun and wear whatever they wanted. You won’t regret it. 🙂 

Post # 17
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - The George, Christchurch

I am having a Maid/Matron of Honor as she has been my best friend for 22 years.  My Fiance is having a best man (also long term best friend). We are paying for their outfits and anything else as they are both coming from another country. but are not having any other bridesmaid or groomsmen. And also I have decided not to have a ring bearer or flower girl. These are costs that seem unnecessary, and they can all enjoy the wedding and celebrate with us. I think it’s all personal preference but I do get people commenting that I should have bridesmaids. I just ignore them. 

Post # 18
481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We had a small wedding, and didn’t have a traditional bridal party. My sister was my maid of honor, and DH’s dad was his best man. They served as our witnesses and helped each of us with getting dressed and ready. Sister held my bouquet and engagement ring throughout the ceremony, and Father-In-Law held onto our wedding bands. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 4 months ago by  danibelle.
Post # 19
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016


nurseybee:  We aren’t planning on having one either, and like you we are having people come and get ready with us. So much less stress and less worry about friends/family being butt hurt. Glad to read about others doing the same and it working out well for them 🙂 Great topic!

Post # 20
9130 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

nurseybee:  We didn’t have one.  It was great.  We have a good number of close friends plus siblings, but we just wanted the ceremony to be about we two, and also to reduce the overall hassle.  We had our siblings walk down the aisle but then just sit in the front with our parents, and we had parents / siblings / good friends hang out with us and have a couple drinks while we were getting ready ahead of time.  There was no drama over the decision and it was just nice and easy.  Highly recommended.  And I think the ceremony didn’t look like it was missing anything.  (If anything, I find the line of matching men and women kind of weird in a “traditional” ceremony.)DSC_2333_2_2

Post # 21
1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI

We didn’t have a bridal party at all. All of our friends were long distance, we had a super small intimate wedding, and we wanted a stress free wedding. The day of I got ready with just my stepmom and he had his parents and sister help him get ready. I wouldnt have changed a thing!

ETA a photo of the ceremony 

Post # 22
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m not having one, just my best friend and his brother as witnesses.  We didn’t choose or pay for their outfits… actually at 5 days out, my BFF still hasn’t decided what she is wearing, and his brother is deployed with the Navy, so I don’t know what he is planning to wear either!

Post # 23
5365 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

We’re having a small Destination Wedding in Hawaii with only 12 guest so there is no point in having one. My bff and his 4 sisters (one is 4 so she would be flower girl if we had one lol) will still be there, which would be my Bridesmaid or Best Man anyways, but they won’t be in matching dresses or anything like that. We will all be in Hawaii for a week together, in the same house, so they will get ready with me and all that good stuff! 

Post # 24
4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We didn’t have a bridal party either! I personally think they’re a strange concept and take away from the intimacy of saying vows to each other.. We wanted our wedding to be just about us and ultimately left out a lot of ‘traditional’ stuff because it felt distracting and unnecessary.

We had my brother and his sister act as our witnesses and they just came up from their seats when prompted by our officiant.

Post # 26
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - North NJ

I was going to but last minute got swept up in wedding planning and changed my mind. 6 wedding party members in total. TOTALLY regret it.

Anyway, i figured we are so low key and i won’t make any demands of them (i bought their dress, mom is planning the shower), so thought it would be easy. I’ve never had drama with these friends.

Now, all of a sudden, DRAMA. i can already predict this friendship will end over this and all could have been avoided by just not having a wedding party.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 4 months ago by  laur371.
Post # 28
2134 posts
Buzzing bee

We are only doing a Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) and Best Man (his twin) and his older brother is officiating. Best decision we’ve made because I honestly think that’s where everyone’s stress comes from and so far, it’s been stress-free!

Post # 29
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Alexander Homestead

nurseybee:   I have to co-sign on everything that somethingbee: said.  We aren’t getting married until August 15, 2015 but I knew from the beginning I wouldn’t have a bridal party.  I actually think my closest girlfriends are relieved.  They are able to help me with wedding planning to-do’s and participate in showers and bachelorette parties all without the added responsibiity of buying a dress, being there for each and every activity, being a part of the rehearsal, etc.  I actually think because I am not having a bridal party, I have had more people to volunteer to help me with things! They know they aren’t obligated to do it but want to do it just because they care for me and I think everyone has been able to be happier through every step of this planning process.  If you say “No” to a bridal party, you are definitely well on your way to a Low Stress/No Stress wedding planning experience!

somethingbee:  (see the shout out above )

Post # 30
854 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Nope, no bridal party here either. We each have a 21 year old kid and we may ask them to do a few things, hold the rings, hold my flowers…

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