(Closed) anyone not have a MOH?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2027 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m only having a Maid/Matron of Honor and no BMs. So…I’m not the right person to answer, sorry! Anyway, I’ve seen it happen IRL where there is no Maid/Matron of Honor, just bridemaids and it all worked out fine.

Post # 4
303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@akbroker:  honestly it’s your wedding you can have it anyway you want it to be. There’s no right or wrong way. 🙂

Post # 5
922 posts
Busy bee

@akbroker:  the wedding that I am in now, the bride is not having any maid of honors because she didn’t want to put anyone on a pedestal and make one friend seem better than another.

Luckily, we are all super-organized bridesmaids and have been doing more of the planning of the bridal shower/bachelorette party, than the bride has been of her wedding! lol

If your bridesmaids aren’t organized, you could always delegate tasks to ‘spread the maid of honor duties’ evenly.

Post # 7
3146 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@akbroker:  that’s what I did. No Maid/Matron of Honor. 3 BM’s and we split the “duties” up between them. 

ETA – it was a brilliant plan and worked really well!!!

Post # 8
918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I have two bridesmaids but have no made one of them a ‘MOH’ – I just didn’t feel the need to rank them or whatever. They are both good friends and will just share the hen’s night organising. There is nothing else in particular I would require a Maid/Matron of Honor to do over regular bridesmaids so I didn’t feel the need to assign roles.

Post # 9
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@akbroker:  i’m not having a Maid/Matron of Honor because i didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. i have 2 sisters and they were both eachother MOHs so i chose to not have any Maid/Matron of Honor

Post # 10
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m not! Just couldn’t choose one over the others. I had a sleepover with all of them there so they could meet and they hit it off/split “duties” from there. As someone who was just a Maid/Matron of Honor while in grad school and living in a different state, I hope my bridesmaids (3 of whom live in a different state) appreciate the non-obligatory title 🙂

Post # 11
970 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@akbroker:  I’m not having a Maid/Matron of Honor either! My girls are all so so special to me that I didn’t feel right picking one above the others.

I have one bridesmaid in particular (a gorgeous friend I’ve had since we were very young) who even in these early stages of wedding planning has really stepped up and been incredibly supportive and helpful and has essentially taken on the Maid/Matron of Honor role unofficially – Our wedding is still 17 months away so I may decide I do want to give her that title but for now I’ve just got my four bridesmaids!

My Fiance is also having a hard time deciding on his best man (between his brother and his best friend) – I told him he doesn’t need to have one either! (or another idea which my step-dad did and I think is super cute, is having three ‘best men’ rather than groomsmen, it was really lovely 🙂

All that said, it’s your wedding and you can do it however you want, there’s no right or wrong! Whatever makes you happy!


Post # 12
6 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

I am having 4 BMs and no MOH! I am close to all of my girlfriends in different ways and didn’t want to put more responsibility on any one person or single anyone out. Also, I originally felt like my cousin  would be my Maid/Matron of Honor but she has been kind of MIA since my engagement, leading me to believe that not having a Maid/Matron of Honor was a great decision! It spreads responsibility evenly and you can really see a lot of about people and who prioritize your wedding/and takes the reign and responsibility by seeing which friends organize the best for you during your special time! Good luck! 


Post # 13
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@akbroker:  I’m miffed.  My cousin was my Maid/Matron of Honor & she decided that she cannot be in my wedding.  My Future Sister-In-Law is my matron and I have 2 maids but no Maid/Matron of Honor.  So now I’m wondering if I should upgrade my cousin who is a maid to the Maid/Matron of Honor but then I didn’t want her to feel like she’s ‘2nd best’.  Sooooo, no Maid/Matron of Honor & I’m thinking it’ll stay that way.

Post # 14
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t have a maid of honor – instead I had a man of honor.  I’m closer to my friend Chris than any of the other women I know except for my sister, but she’s only 17 so I had her as a bridesmaid.  I didn’t have anything specific for either of them to do – I went dress shopping by myself (online) and I didn’t have a bachelorette party or anything like that.  I almost didn’t have a shower, but my mother in law planned one for me.  I had Chris sign as a witness and help set up/tear down on the day of and my sister there to help with the girly stuff.  It worked out really well.

Post # 15
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA

I’m having my 16yr old cousin stand up there with me, not really a Maid/Matron of Honor. for the past few years it’s been me and my Fiance so i wasnt close to one person to name them my Maid/Matron of Honor lol.

Post # 16
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

Do it however you want! I kind of don’t like the idea of Maid/Matron of Honor because I feel like it can hurt other peoples feelings. In all honesty though, I have struggled with the idea of even having bridesmaids, because of some… complicated matters. My fiance and I plan to elope because of various matters, but they are cumulative. We might just throw a party at a later date to celebrate. But, if we were going the more traditional route, I don’t think I would have a maid of honor. Possibly not even bridesmaids!

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