Post # 1
my ex bestfriend and I had some issues and decided it would be better for both of us to no longer be friends. She was my MOH but now, im not close to anyone that I would want them to be my MOH. Im not close to any of my siaters and dont have really close friends. So my question is, did anyone decide to not have a MOH and just have bridesmaids? How did that work out?
Post # 3
I’m only having a MOH and no BMs. So…I’m not the right person to answer, sorry! Anyway, I’ve seen it happen IRL where there is no MOH, just bridemaids and it all worked out fine.
Post # 4
@akbroker: honestly it’s your wedding you can have it anyway you want it to be. There’s no right or wrong way. 🙂
Post # 5
@akbroker: the wedding that I am in now, the bride is not having any maid of honors because she didn’t want to put anyone on a pedestal and make one friend seem better than another.
Luckily, we are all super-organized bridesmaids and have been doing more of the planning of the bridal shower/bachelorette party, than the bride has been of her wedding! lol
If your bridesmaids aren’t organized, you could always delegate tasks to ‘spread the maid of honor duties’ evenly.
Post # 6
I was also thinking about doing all MOH but like I said, im not close to anyone really. But I do like all bridesmaids and splitting up the MOH tasks evenly. Thank-you!
Post # 7
@akbroker: that’s what I did. No MOH. 3 BM’s and we split the “duties” up between them.
ETA – it was a brilliant plan and worked really well!!!
Post # 8
I have two bridesmaids but have no made one of them a ‘MOH’ – I just didn’t feel the need to rank them or whatever. They are both good friends and will just share the hen’s night organising. There is nothing else in particular I would require a MOH to do over regular bridesmaids so I didn’t feel the need to assign roles.
Post # 9
@akbroker: i’m not having a MOH because i didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. i have 2 sisters and they were both eachother MOHs so i chose to not have any MOH
Post # 10
I’m not! Just couldn’t choose one over the others. I had a sleepover with all of them there so they could meet and they hit it off/split “duties” from there. As someone who was just a MOH while in grad school and living in a different state, I hope my bridesmaids (3 of whom live in a different state) appreciate the non-obligatory title 🙂
Post # 11
@akbroker: I’m not having a MOH either! My girls are all so so special to me that I didn’t feel right picking one above the others.
I have one bridesmaid in particular (a gorgeous friend I’ve had since we were very young) who even in these early stages of wedding planning has really stepped up and been incredibly supportive and helpful and has essentially taken on the MOH role unofficially – Our wedding is still 17 months away so I may decide I do want to give her that title but for now I’ve just got my four bridesmaids!
My FI is also having a hard time deciding on his best man (between his brother and his best friend) – I told him he doesn’t need to have one either! (or another idea which my step-dad did and I think is super cute, is having three ‘best men’ rather than groomsmen, it was really lovely 🙂
All that said, it’s your wedding and you can do it however you want, there’s no right or wrong! Whatever makes you happy!
Post # 12
I am having 4 BMs and no MOH! I am close to all of my girlfriends in different ways and didn’t want to put more responsibility on any one person or single anyone out. Also, I originally felt like my cousin would be my MOH but she has been kind of MIA since my engagement, leading me to believe that not having a MOH was a great decision! It spreads responsibility evenly and you can really see a lot of about people and who prioritize your wedding/and takes the reign and responsibility by seeing which friends organize the best for you during your special time! Good luck!
Post # 13
@akbroker: I’m miffed. My cousin was my MOH & she decided that she cannot be in my wedding. My FSIL is my matron and I have 2 maids but no MOH. So now I’m wondering if I should upgrade my cousin who is a maid to the MOH but then I didn’t want her to feel like she’s ‘2nd best’. Sooooo, no MOH & I’m thinking it’ll stay that way.
Post # 14
I didn’t have a maid of honor – instead I had a man of honor. I’m closer to my friend Chris than any of the other women I know except for my sister, but she’s only 17 so I had her as a bridesmaid. I didn’t have anything specific for either of them to do – I went dress shopping by myself (online) and I didn’t have a bachelorette party or anything like that. I almost didn’t have a shower, but my mother in law planned one for me. I had Chris sign as a witness and help set up/tear down on the day of and my sister there to help with the girly stuff. It worked out really well.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA
I’m having my 16yr old cousin stand up there with me, not really a MOH. for the past few years it’s been me and my FI so i wasnt close to one person to name them my MOH lol.
Post # 16
Do it however you want! I kind of don’t like the idea of MOH because I feel like it can hurt other peoples feelings. In all honesty though, I have struggled with the idea of even having bridesmaids, because of some… complicated matters. My fiance and I plan to elope because of various matters, but they are cumulative. We might just throw a party at a later date to celebrate. But, if we were going the more traditional route, I don’t think I would have a maid of honor. Possibly not even bridesmaids!