(Closed) anyone not have a MOH?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Im not having one, just got my oldest friend and SIL as adult BMs and then my 12 yo neice. The older two are splitting responsibilities and I wouldn’t have it any other way as I love them both equally 🙂 x

Post # 18
1502 posts
Bumble bee

@akbroker:  I don’t have one.  When my best friend got married she had me as her Maid of Honor and I’d return the gesture, but I also have two sisters.  I am not going to choose between the three of them. It’s best to keep everyone without a title, because I love everyone too much to hurt feelings over something so trivial.

Post # 19
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

No Maid/Matron of Honor in my wedding.  No attendants, either.

Of all the little things that I’d change if I could go back in time, this particular decision is not one of them.

Post # 20
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m not having a Maid/Matron of Honor either for many of the same reasons. I do not want to choose one above the rest! I am very happy with my decision, but I am having trouble splitting the duties as well! Having a lot of the same dilemmas. I am thinking of splitting them like this: 

Bridesmaid or Best Man1: Stand Up Beside Me

Bridesmaid or Best Man2: Hold the Ring/Hand it to Groom During Ceremony

Bridesmaid or Best Man3: Sign as Witness

Bridesmaid or Best Man4: Hold my Bouquet During the Ceremony + This Bridesmaid or Best Man gets to do a speech on her own (I will explain below)

Bridesmaid or Best Man5:  Sit Beside Me at the Head Table During the Reception 


As for speeches, two of my BMs are sisters so they will do a speech together, and 2 are very good friends so they will do one together. Bridesmaid or Best Man4 will do a speech on her own (They have all indicated they would like to say something and I feel as long as I give them a good time limit each, it will work out okay). 

@akbroker:  I hope this helps to give you some insight into what I am doing, and helps make your organizing easier! 

If you, or anyone else in this group have any suggestions or comments for me, I would love to hear them as well! Thank you 🙂 

Post # 21
43 posts
  • Wedding: February 2014

I won’t be having one either.  I just didn’t want to pick.  Prior to getting engaged, I knew I’d have this one friend be Maid/Matron of Honor becasue she is the most organized person I knew.  However, when I called to tell her I was engaged, she told me she was pregnant lol  Since her baby will only be a couple months old when we get married, I didn’t want to put the extra stress on her, so she isn’t in the wedding at all.  The three remaining bridesmaids are great friends, there just wasn’t an obvious Maid/Matron of Honor choice to me, so I just didn’t pick.

My fiance does have a best man (his brother).  We have a different number of attendants too (I have 3, he has 2).  Oh, and one of my bridesmaids is wearing a tux.

Obviously, we didn’t pay a whole lot of attention to established conventions in regards to our wedding party. 🙂

Post # 22
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m not having a moh, my sister had me be her moh and doc and I didn’t want to have to choose between her and my friends, so I’m just having 2 jr bridesmaids (my daughter and step daughter), 1 flower girl (my youngest daughter) and my oldest nephew. I told them I only wanted the kids in the party to make it easier for everyone and I’m glad I did! No complaints yet! Lol

Post # 23
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I picked a friend who I wasn’t super close to, because I couldn’t possibly choose between my three best friends. That was a huge mistake, she dropped out and spread rumours about me a week before the wedding. And apparently she was badmouthing me as early as when I went to pick a dress. 

Post # 24
19 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have two bridesmaids, I didn’t want to make just one the Maid/Matron of Honor so they’re both equal.

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