(Closed) Anyone NOT have their "Dress" moment until the Fittings?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@csteen85:  You know, I never had *that moment* with my dress. I always knew I loved it but I never had a moment where I cried over it.  Seeing the complete look together did make me insanely happy, but that was about it!  I wouldn’t worry too much about having your moment. 😀

Post # 4
6110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@csteen85:  My actual dress hasn’t come in yet but I didn’t have “the cry moment” when I said yes. I was absolutely in love with and seriously didn’t want to take it off (when we went to look for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses I put it back on and paraded around the store in it for about an hour lol). That’s how I knew it was “the one”. (Every other dress I tried on, I couldn’t wait to take it off so I could try on more). Secretly I hope that I’ll cry when I put on my actual dress but I doubt it, I’m just not a “happy” crier. And my consultant said the crying moment isn’t very common, it’s more for tv.

Post # 5
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s SO funny that you say this! I am a big crier… I cried just thinking about walking down the aisle. I did not have *THE* moment when I picked my dress. I knew it was the one and really liked it but didn’t go crazy or cry. Though I am a street size 8, I ordered the dress in a 16 because it was a trumpet style and I am bigger on the bottom. When it came in I had lost 15 lbs and it wouldn’t even stay up without holding it! After pinning I still liked it… but then I had my second fitting when they had done the alterations, and I brought my veil. Once that dress was on me and I came out I was in awe of how beautiful I looked. I never thought I could look that great, which sounds shallow but I don’t mean it in that way! Once they put my veil on me… that was it, I started crying. I finally felt like a beautiful bride, and knew that the dress and veil was perfect!


I never would have thought that would have happened… I just accepted not having the moment… but I did… just later!


I hope you will feel this way as well! 🙂

Post # 6
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I never had that moment either! After I bought my dress I kept second guessing if I had made the right decision because I went by myself and I didn’t have that happy crying moment. It wasn’t until My mom came to the dress shop with me to see my dress that I realized I didn’t need to second guess, and that I had made the right decision , and I did get a feeling but still no tears etc. Sometimes I guess it just doesn’t happen, and I”m ok with that 🙂 But honestly It might take the whole look coming together for you to have that special moment, once you see your whole vision come together! 

Post # 7
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Add me to the pile of people who never had the moment. I do truly love my dress, and I liked the way I felt in it on my wedding day and the way the pictures look, but no more than any other piece of clothing I particularly liked. Because at the end of the day, that’s what it is- a piece of clothing. The fact that you wear it to your wedding does make some people tear up/ have a moment, but for the rest of us it’s a super awesome pretty dress, and i think that’s OK.

Post # 8
1144 posts
Bumble bee

I didn’t cry or anything because I had pictured that exact dress on me for months before I bought it so I guess I kinda knew what to expect. lol All I knew is that I loved it and that it had to be the dress I was going to get married in. No tears, it was a logical purchase to me. Yes, I was excited and couldn’t stop smiling but it wasn’t merely as much of an emotional ordeal as some people.

Also, the dress didn’t fit me and I didn’t get to try the veil that goes with it on as it had to be a special order. I think I may get more emotional once it comes in and I get to try everything on in my size. I can’t wait!!!

Post # 9
1625 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I also didn’t have that crying moment.  I did however have a moment where I really was stunned by how I looked and how much I loved it during the fitting.  But I didn’t cry at the wedding, so why would I cry at the dress??  

Post # 10
2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

Well, Im a bit different because I got a free tulle strapless dress. That was exactly the kind of base I had always envisioned, and i knew I was going to “bling it out”. But I had tried it on a couple times and never really felt anything. I trusted I would love it when we were done with it!

I went to my first fitting last week and I was blown away!! I didnt cry, maybe because Im not really a cryer, but I “bounced” a lot, which is kind of my happy tic. I think it will feel totally different when you begin to see the final product in its entirety!! Also, I highly recommend “jacking yourself up” as they do on say yes to the dress: veil, makeup, jewelry, the works!!

Post # 11
539 posts
Busy bee

@csteen85:  I had the ‘Dress moment’…on my last fitting. Similar experience, loved having my dress on the day i bought it, but it didn’t feel right after i bought it. Then I lost some weight and went to my fitting, put it on w/ my veil and FINALLY had the moment.

Post # 13
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I was second guessing my dress decision for months. And it was SO hard because I wanted to make some massive alterations that I couldn’t make until a few weeks before the wedding. (You know, in case I suddenly gained or lost 20 pounds.)

Anyway, I went from loving, to liking, to hating my dress. Then, when I put it on for my first fitting, with all the alterations… I totally had to hold back the tears. My eyes were definnitely cloudy and my throat was choked. It was fantastic!

Gratuitous dress pic:

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