Anyone not having a bach party/shower?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
2802 posts
Sugar bee

I didn’t do either the traditional way. 

I didn’t want a bridal shower because they’re just not my style/idea of fun and I’m not even remotely domestic. My mum and sister REALLY wanted to throw one though so we just did a BBQ and they made it a “books or bottles (wine/beer)” theme.

We didn’t do a traditional bachelor or bachelorette party either. Hubs really wanted to do it together so we had our wedding party and other close friends out to a cabin for a rager for a weekend. We all made ridiculous tie dye shirts and beer cozies and drank by a river all day. 

There are lots of different ways to get together with your friends and family, you definitely don’t need to go the traditional route. You can totally plan a bachelorette ish one yourself too! But I’d be wary of doing a bridal shower type one  because people find it a bit gift grabby. You could do a luncheon/bbq type gathering instead. 

Post # 17
102 posts
Blushing bee

I am not going to have a bridal shower. I too, feel like it’s just an excuse for gifts and quite frankly, I plan on buying all of my household items myself. 

In terms of a bachelorette, I am not into the traditional party. I wouold rather do a tea party, brunch, dinner, spa day, or slumber party. Something laxed and low-key with the girls. 

Post # 18
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m not doing either! For a “bachelorette party,” I’m meeting my best friend (Matron of Honor) at the beach for a weekend in June, just the two of us, since we live in different states now. Not doing a shower either! I think the wedding is plenty celebration for me and don’t want extra attention/gifts!

Post # 19
135 posts
Blushing bee

I am not having a shower and didn’t have an engagement party at all. I have two maids of honour and the three of us are thinking of just spending a day at a spa instead of a traditional bachelorette. It just is what it is. I would have liked a shower/engagement party but my friends wouldn’t think to throw one and my mom basically hates all the pre-wedding traditions and told me they are pointless so she isn’t going to throw me one either. Oh well. As long as people are there for my wedding that is all the celebration I think I need and I don’t need the extra gifts. I will say though that seeing my friends getting thrown showers though is making me a little jealous. 

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