Post # 16
I didn’t do either the traditional way.
I didn’t want a bridal shower because they’re just not my style/idea of fun and I’m not even remotely domestic. My mum and sister REALLY wanted to throw one though so we just did a BBQ and they made it a “books or bottles (wine/beer)” theme.
We didn’t do a traditional bachelor or bachelorette party either. Hubs really wanted to do it together so we had our wedding party and other close friends out to a cabin for a rager for a weekend. We all made ridiculous tie dye shirts and beer cozies and drank by a river all day.
There are lots of different ways to get together with your friends and family, you definitely don’t need to go the traditional route. You can totally plan a bachelorette ish one yourself too! But I’d be wary of doing a bridal shower type one because people find it a bit gift grabby. You could do a luncheon/bbq type gathering instead.
Post # 17
I am not going to have a bridal shower. I too, feel like it’s just an excuse for gifts and quite frankly, I plan on buying all of my household items myself.
In terms of a bachelorette, I am not into the traditional party. I wouold rather do a tea party, brunch, dinner, spa day, or slumber party. Something laxed and low-key with the girls.
Post # 18
I’m not doing either! For a “bachelorette party,” I’m meeting my best friend (Matron of Honor) at the beach for a weekend in June, just the two of us, since we live in different states now. Not doing a shower either! I think the wedding is plenty celebration for me and don’t want extra attention/gifts!
Post # 19
I am not having a shower and didn’t have an engagement party at all. I have two maids of honour and the three of us are thinking of just spending a day at a spa instead of a traditional bachelorette. It just is what it is. I would have liked a shower/engagement party but my friends wouldn’t think to throw one and my mom basically hates all the pre-wedding traditions and told me they are pointless so she isn’t going to throw me one either. Oh well. As long as people are there for my wedding that is all the celebration I think I need and I don’t need the extra gifts. I will say though that seeing my friends getting thrown showers though is making me a little jealous.
Post # 20
rojo : I think I’m also going to do a relaxing beach day with 2 friends in June :). See you at the beach? lol
stephf22 : I know, man I’m so prone to jealousy sometimes, but it’s sad when you have different personality and interests than your loved ones. My fiance and I (much to his chagrin lol, he’s quite introverted) threw our own engagement party for 10-15 people and decorated everything ourselves.