- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
FH and I have been torn back and forth with the idea of not having wedding party.
One thing we have both agreed upon is a small intimate wedding we are only having around 60 guests-70 guests and want things to be fairly small and low key. We are pretty much spending more than half our budget on our honeymoon and keeping our wedding fairly simple.
He really does not have many male friends but has a big family of brothers and sisters. He has 4 brothers and 2 sisters ranging in ages from 8 to 24.
He says he doesnt want me to have Bridesmaids because he doesnt know who he would pick to be BestMen and such and he doesnt want to add on to the budget by adding people to our wedding.
I myself would like to have a bridesmaids and feel that perhaps it would be beneficial for us to have a wedding party. But I do agree that I would not like them to actually stand with us during the ceremony.
I have a 6 year old daughter who will be part of the wedding no matter what…. She just cant decide what role she wants to play.
I have 2 sisters only one that I am close with though… and would like to include her in my wedding somehow.
And I have only 3 girlfriends I have ever really been close too… but one who has been my friend for over 10 years has kinda forgotten about me when she moved back here and got a new group of friends.One of those friends who I go to all of her events and her kids parties and all that but she never has time to come to mine.
The other two are still good friends and one is a fellow co worker or mine.
So here is the problem I run into….
How could i Pick just one sister? SHould I pick just the 2 friends I am close to?
My other fear is….. My two friends are on limited budgets? What if they cant afford to buy their dresses? FH already said he didnt want to if it was gonna cost way more… and I really dont want to have to shell over the money for all their dresses either.
Also it would be terribly rude to just include some of his family and not include them alll.
So I am just torn on what to do….. also If anyone is not having a wedding party how are you handling the things your wedding party would traditionally do?
I would love some opinions and such … and any suggestions, ideas or comments