Post # 1
I don’t know what to tell them when they ask me (it will be a destination wedding). I was thinking of saying it’s a small wedding just for the family. I went to my supervisor’s wedding and I can’t just invite him because 80% of my co-workers are related and my supervisor’s sister is getting married next year and she already told me I’m invited. I was planning on not telling them anything about the wedding- period and just come back and tell them we eloped but I am afraid other guests will post pictures on facebook.
I never thought I would care so much about this, I thought I would be able to tell people “it’s for family only” until it happened to me.
Post # 3
Sounds like you just say it’s a small wedding for family and very close friends only.
Post # 4
I am not. I have just said that I am having a small wedding with our closest family and friend (really not that small, we invited 150, I just didn’t want to invite them)
Post # 5
@Jullsz: Just try to think of how many weddings you weren’t invited to – did you feel angry or slighted? Probably not! Most people realize weddings = $$$$ so if someone isn’t a Vanderbilt and can’t afford a 350 person wedding, it shouldn’t be a big deal. I’ve had a few people at work say things like, “I better get an invite!” or “Keep me in mind when you’re sending out those invites!” and I was completely flabberghasted! I’ve never asked anyone to invite me to their wedding – even years ago when I had no idea how much they cost – and this includes a few weddings of people I considered pretty good friends. I’ve had plenty of co-workers get married and invite some people from work and not me and I’ve been totally fine with it. I think just stick with your original plan of nicely telling anyone who directly asks that you have to work within your budget and will have to keep the wedding small.
Post # 6
Like PP said, I would just tell them it’s a small private wedding. Just because they invite you to their wedding does not mean you are obligated to invite them to yours.
Post # 8
I hope most of my co-workers don’t show up, but I’m still going to invite them for etiquette sake