(Closed) Anyone not looking forward to valentines day?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Blushing bee

Our 2  year is on Valentines Day, sooo cheesy and weird. So we’re celebrating on the 15th, and going out to the shooting range, rock climbing and drinks with our single friends on the dreaded 14th. Try not to get caught up in all the hoopla, and really just tell him you want to do something out of the ordinary and fun and romantic. A nice dinner where you two first went on a date or something? Keeping it simple will put him at ease and have no serious pressure. 

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t care much for Valentine’s Day, but I also don’t hate it. My ring is coming sometime this week or next, but I already told SO I don’t want a V-Day proposal, even if it means it comes in tomorrow and I have to wait an extra day. We take advantage of the sales at the grocery store and always get “surf and turf”, which for us means I have the surf (I don’t really eat red meat) and he has the “turf” (despite growing up in Maine, SO HATES seafood). It works out really well for us, this will be our 4th year of doing the exact same thing!

Post # 19
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52 posts
Worker bee

I’m planning on deactivating my facebook account for at least a week, because I don’t want to see how many more of my friends get engaged, but mostly so I don’t see all of the posts detailing all of the sweet things they and their SOs did together. *Sorry, feeling a rant coming on, so feel free not to read any further if you don’t want to be subjected to my immature rage…*

I know I’m not getting a proposal any time soon, and I’m alright with that. However, I know that *nothing* will happen tomorrow. Maybe it’s puerile and stupid and it’s just a greeting card holiday and blah blah blah…but when I met my boyfriend, he made himself out to be an old-fashioned romantic. He’s proved to about as romantic as a pair of wet socks. Okay, that’s exaggerating- he does do some sweet things on occasion. 

But nice dinners out, romantic plans and surprises for our anniversary or Valentine’s? Never happens. This is how it will go: (and how it did on our anniversary) I will feel a little down prior to the event, because I know that nothing is going to happen. When he picks up on my concern, he acts like he has all sorts of little things planned, and doesn’t want to spoil them. In the end, he might do something small. Then it starts: ‘well, what do *you* want to do? Where do *you* want to go out to dinner?’ Nothing has been planned, no reservations made, no surprises hidden.

I’ve told him repeatedly, he doesn’t have to do anything. But if he wants to do something nice for me, I would like *him* to plan it for a change. When i have to make all the decisions, it just makes me feel bad. It makes me feel like he doesn’t really want to do anything with me, and I’m just dragging him through it.

 I swear that when he does get around to deciding he wants to propose, I’ll have to buy the ring, tell him where, when, how and the exact words, put the ring in his hand, an then take it out of the box and put it on my finger myself.

 I don’t need anything expensive and elaborate- just something to, as he said word for word the other day, show me how special and loved I am.

 When he comes home tomorrow and asks me what I want to do, I am going to tell him that I want to bake a pan of brownies, eat the whole thing, drink an entire bottle of wine, and read really smutty fan fiction all night. 

tl;dr: No, I am not looking forward to Valentine’s Day. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I was looking forward to it, but once again my SO’s job has ruined what could’ve been another great day. We were supposed to go have a romantic getaway tomorrow night but my boyfriend is out of town working, so that’s not gonna happen. I can’t even pretend not to be mad about him not being here tommorow. Wish I could, but I can’t. He kept telling me he had a very special surprise for me tomorrow and now I’m not even gonna get whatever it was.

Post # 21
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Busy bee

I’m kind of apathetic about valentine’s day this year, I kinda almost forgot about it until the other day. But I bought my bf some reese’s because everytime I see that commercial it makes me think of him because he loves reese’s and I made him a card. Other than that I’m just kinda blah/whatever about it this year. It’s our fifth valentine’s day together.

Post # 22
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713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Valentines day shouldnt be such a big deal but it is hard to ignore when my best friends husband goes all out every year and does something really romantic for her.. This morning she posted a pic on facebook her bathroom was covered in love heart post it notes that he had written i love you on.. he even put up some fridge magnets on their fridge he does such sweet romantic things..My fiance and i dont live together yet so its hard to do that kind of stuff not having a place of our own but in general he isnt the most romantic guy ever… he does do sweet things like bring me lollies and stuff when i’m sick which is really sweet but he’s never really gone all out for me and done something really romantic before.. i wish he would he knows i like romance and how im in awe of my best friend every v-day but yea.. this year i asked him to book a table for us at a restaurant and he said he would then on sunday he texts me when i was out and says he forgot and can i go and book it myself as i was nearby.. i replied saying ‘ok i’l do it’ but i think that’s when he realised that probably wasnt the most romantic thing to do and it takes 2 seconds to make a phone call himself.. he sorta said this year lets not worry about presents but if we see something eachother likes while out shopping we can buy it for each other but thats kinda pointless id prefer to get something on vday otherwise he will just forget.. he might get me some chocolate when i see him tonight which is better than nothing but i think he defines romance as giving me lollies and chocolate lol if only he could think outside the square for once id just love him to do something romantic that doesnt involve lollies oh well thats pretty petty of me i shouldnt really care so much!

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

@Moto:  boo hiss bah humbug…I AM RIGHT THERE WITH YOU. Although I am super excited about V-day πŸ™‚ I have always loved valentines day and proposal or not I am excited to go on a date with my boo and spend some quality time with him πŸ™‚ I would be lying if I really didn’t wannnnnnt the ring tomorrow buuut…I cant get my hopes up because I want to enjoy the day we have together tomorrow. trying to focus on the positive πŸ™‚

Post # 24
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Worker bee

Having a rubbish v-day – wished everyone much romance and giggles today, whilst opening my card he put in our shopping basket last night because we happened to be shopping.  Not that I’m going to see him tonight because he’s working late.

I’m sure there’s a silver lining in there somewhere!! πŸ™

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@Berkana:  my Fiance is just like that “what do you want to do? what do you feel like for dinner?” I can’t be the one planning everything!

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

every year he buys me chocolates and roses. both of which he buys at the supermarket, i have never gotten nice flowers that were bought at a florist. I am grateful for him buying me things, but it would be nice if he had something planned beyond that. talking about it the other day he said he would cook for me, today “I feel like sizzler, but it would be too crowded. I can cook something for you, what do you want for dinner?” I appreciate it, but seriously would be nice if he had something planned rather than asking me, surprise me for once, and we will probably end up getting pizza delivered…

Post # 27
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

but i am glad i do get to spend time with him πŸ™‚

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@VickyAurea:  I thought you said Laptop, which I think would be quite cool.  Battery, less so.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@Moto:  Try not to be sad, just make the most of being together: ring or no ring πŸ™‚

Post # 30
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Busy bee

It’s the reverse way for me and my SO.  For Christmas he got me roses and chocolates and a digital ornament that showed a bunch of pictures of us from over the year.  I got him a pasta maker (but it was a really nice pasta maker!).  Today he got me a giant teddy bear.  I got him some nice ties (but he needed them for his new job that requires him to wear a tie every day).  He always acts like he loves them but sometimes I’m worred I’m not romantic like he is.  Do guys like mushy stuff too?

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I hate valentines day bc Darling Husband has had duty the past two years in a row. Duty is when he has to be on the ship (military) for 24 hours. Only this year he stays on the ship 5 days a week every other week and two days the next week, and this happens to be the 5 day week. I probably won’t even get a “Happy Valentines Day I love you” because the military works him till about 1am, and then he has to be up at 6am to start all over again…

On the bright side my two girlsfriends’ husbands are working too so we’re going bowling and having a girls night! =]

ETA: ooopsies I see this is in the waiting category so I’m not really allowed to comment. Sorry =[

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