Post # 1
I’ve got, I think 45 days now until the wedding. In between the stress of planning, and my mother’s illness not to mention a car accident that made me gain back almost all the weight I lost, I haven’t had the willpower to try and lose weight.
I decided a while back to make healthy lifestyles decisions whether or not I lost weight and just attempt to not gain anymore.
My wedding shouldn’t be about fitting the high idea of what beauty is in my head, but being content and happy with who I am and who my partner is.
When I got engaged a year ago, I weighed 172 and now I’m at 192. I’m on the small side of plus, but I carry a lot of it in my mid section because I have a delcious affinity for beer as my choice liquor.
I’m trying to be proud of my body! Becuase I know my fiance is, but it’s difficult to feel like in some way I’m not letting him down by not being “at my best” which is what my mind tries to tell me.
Is there anyone else who has sort of given up on weight loss?
Post # 3
I feel mostly the same! I didn’t really ‘try’ to lose weight for the wedding, even tho I sometimes felt I ‘should’.
BUT, I am 95% happy with the way I look. I know my Fiance loves me as is, and what everyone else thinks shouldn’t matter!
I’m also on the small size of plus size, and screw anyone who doesn’t love our curves!
Post # 4
@DarthBetty: I never had any intention of losing weight for my wedding. I did however lose about 10 pounds right before our big day, but that was due to stress and the crazy running around…it was not planned.
Post # 5
@DarthBetty: I’m not. I lost about 20 pounds, but I wasn’t trying to, not really. My blood pressure was pretty high and I started getting healthier. I haven’t lost anymore weight, but I’m trying not to gain anymore either.
Post # 6
Technically I’m not overweight (at the very top edge of “normal” for my height), although short and quite curvy, so my build can definitely read as heavy. Would I LOVE to lose those vanity pounds? Sure. Is that a constructive way to approach my health and body image? Is it even remotely related to my happiness on my wedding day? No on both counts.
I feel a lot of internal pressure to lose weight for the wedding, but am not sure exactly where it’s coming from… Fiance loves me just as I am, my friends tell me I look great in my dress… it’s just the stupid wedding mindset messing with me. I am trying to be healthier for other reasons, without letting myself fixate on the chimera of “perfect wedding photos.”
Post # 7
i’m not trying to. honestly, i have had such terrible luck lately with losing much of anything. add onto that a whole shit ton of stress and life changes.
i know that once i’m into a routine, i’ll lose a little bit. but aside from that, i’m not planning on losing anything huge. but if i do? i do. if i don’t? so be it. i just can’t gain anything.
Post # 8
Yeah, I have this problem of looking at pictures from when I got engaged and being like
“OMG I LOOKED SO PRETTY” But I know that when we took those photos I felt as insecure as I do now.
Crazy nonsense. Being on the small size of plus size is so irritating! You can never figure out what section to be in and your always inbetween sizes.
Post # 9
I definitely didn’t try to lose weight. Didn’t feel the need to since my (now) hubby loves the way I look – I am an hourglass size 12. The most dramatic thing I did was cut out drinking about a month before the wedding. I thought it could cut out a bunch of calories I didn’t need. Though I don’t think it did too much. LOL
Post # 10
@DarthBetty: what you said really resonates with me! We are moving to a new city 2 days after our wedding, where we will start new jobs, and we just bought a new house and are in the process of selling our current house, so I really understand feeling stressed! The wedding is the least stressful thing in my life by a mile.
But, I started trying to lose weight about a year ago. Lost 30 lbs, gained 10 back. I could stand to lose 50 more. I get married in 31 days, so that’s not happening before the wedding! I know my fiance loves me the way I am, but I always pictured myself being “at my best” for my wedding. I feel like a little bit of a failure, on top of all the other stress in my life. But I have to accept it at this point and just be excited about marrying a great man who loves me just how I am.
Post # 11
@DarthBetty: I’m not losing as much as I want to because I am not trying hard enough. I am being a lazy butt about eating.
Post # 12
@DarthBetty: I haven’t tried and I don’t plan on it. I have tried in the past with almost no results. I was working my ass off 5-6 days a week, drinking gallons of water. I never lost more than 10 lbs. What’s the point in killing myself over 10 lbs.? I’d rather just eat what I want and have time for things other than exercise. Blah.
Post # 13
@DarthBetty: I say good for you! I lost 22 pounds for our wedding (going from a size 6 to a size 2). I felt MORE insecure tiny! I kept poking my arms and was like “Well, if I run with 5 pound weights for my two-hour run today, I bet they’ll look better!”
No. They definitely never got that much better! And I went down two band sizes, but I also lost two cup sizes! And my butt (which was GLORIOUS) is GONE. My poor DH (then FI) was like “STOP LOSING WEIGHT” and I COULDN’T.
It was definitely a problem. So good for you! You are going to look amazing and be confident!
Post # 14
I’m not planning on it and I’m not tracking my weight, but I wouldn’t be surprised if I do just because of the stresses of life.
Post # 15
Me too. I’ve started trying to have salalds (which are yummy) but then I’m like damn I’m still hungry. Then I overeat.
I work a lot as well. Sitting down all day is terrible, and I’ve recently become addicted to caffeine. Never had a probalem with it until I got engaged lol. But I’m just done. I need to improve my self image anyway.
Post # 16
Had every intention of losing weight, dropped about 10lbs just by eatting healthier and exercising a bit more, but now that my final alterations appointment has been booked I’m pretty set on not losing any more. My dress makes me feel beautiful so it’s all good.