Post # 1
I’ve never been a bridesmaid and only been to a handful of weddings. I don’t know if this is expected of me or not! We’re having a casual wedding, my BMs are my cousins and my Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister. They all picked out & bought their own dresses because I wanted them to each feel comfortable in their own style, and so they could wear them again, not only for my wedding.
I would personally rather us all get ready together & have them do their hair and makeup however they feel comfortable doing it. The only reason I want to get mine done is because I know next to nothing about makeup…I don’t wear much as it is and what I do wear is pretty basic. I have also never gotten along with curling irons and although I’ve been practicing, I don’t trust myself to do my hair the way I want it to look on my wedding day!
Has anyone ever had their weding hair/makeup done by their BMs or friends? Or is it expected of me to pay for a hair stylist & makeup professional for me & my girls?
HELP! And thank you 🙂
Post # 2
I’d say its only expected of you to pay, if you’re requiring that they have their hair and make up professionally done. All my girls are having their hair professionally done, by their choice and they’re paying for it. Make up, I’m helping them all with(I love makeup).
Post # 3
If you are not requiring them to get it done professionally, then it is certainly not expected of you to pay for it. You can tell your gilrs that you are getting it at a certain place and they are welcome to make their own appointments to get it done with you if they want, however they are free to also do their hair and make up themselves or anywhere they like. You can also tell them the pricing before they call to make an appointment so they know exactly what the cost is.
I have 9 girls, so it would be expensive for me to pay for all of them. I just told them I would like them to all wear their hair down in curls so if they want to do it themselves, they can otherwise they can make their own hair & makeup appointments anywhere they like.
My SIL had some drama durng her wedding becuase she wanted everyone to get it done at the same place and the place scheduled people at 4AM to make sure evryone was done in time and some girls were upset becuase they were also paying a lot and this stressed my SIL out so I decided that all of my girls are on their own. They seem happy they can choose where to go and how much to spend on their hair and makeup.
Post # 4
I’m having my hair and makeup done professionally and I gave all my girls the option to have either service, they have all chosen to have both done but it was comepletely their decision since it was coming out of their wallets. I think the only time you need to pay for the BM’s hair and makeup is if you’re requiring them to have it done.
Post # 5
No, it is not a requirement. Like PP said, you pay for it if it is required by the bride. I’m paying for their hair and makeup as their bridesmaids gift instead of buying them a traditional gift.
Post # 6
I’m having my hair and makeup done and told my 3 BMs that they could if they wanted but didn’t have to. All of them said they wanted to at least get their hair done and probably their makeup. I’m not paying for it because I don’t care if they get it professionally done or not. I also picked out a $60 dress and they can wear whatever shoes they want/have so I don’t really feel the need to pay for hair/makeup since their expenses have been very minimal. And I didn’t want to gift it because that really more of a gift for the bride not for the BMs.
Post # 7
I am not, as I am not requiring any of them get any hair/makeup done. Several of the girls prefer to do their own look, anyways.
I’m just getting a headcount of who wants it done and providing them pricing far in advance. It’s pretty reasonable.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian
I’m actually in the exact same boat; let them pick their dresses, not at all requiring any “look” of them, just that they’re comfortable. I’m definitely getting my hair and make-up done and I told them if they would LIKE to do that, I will arrange it and let my girl know so she can bring an assistant and let them know how much it was. I also stressed that I did NOT care either way, I just wanted tohem to do/have what they wanted. They both opted to do it with enthusiasm!
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
You don’t have to pay if you’re not requiring it.
I wanted someone to come to do my hair, so i hired someone to do that. (it’s a friend who cuts my hair and works in a salon) I am doing my own hair.
I let them know that she would be there and gave them the prices if they wanted to get there hair and/or makeup done… 3 of the girls are getting their hair done and 1 is doing her’s herself. None of us are having makeup done.
The last wedding I was in, her aunt did her hair (she owned a salon) and I did her makeup. The rest of us all just did our own hair/makeup.
Post # 10
No not required, at least around here. I think it can be somewhat of a regional thing (similar to who buys the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress) but overall, I like to think there’s no one right way – everyone’s situation is different.
I’m going to get both my hair & makeup done and will tell BM’s if they want to they can, but they’re not required to. I’m just getting mine done b/c I in no way trust myself hahaha!
Post # 11
Thank you everyone! This is exactly the information I’ve been looking for 🙂 We are paying for our entire wedding ourselves and even though this would be yet another expense, I would pay for it if it was supposed to be my responsibility 🙂
I think I’m just getting mine done and letting my BMs decide what they want to do 🙂
Thank you all so much…you’ve put my mind at ease!
Post # 12
I thought I was the only one! Thanks for your input!
Post # 13
I feel the same way! I know how I want my hair/makeup to look, but I don’t think I can pull it off!
Post # 14
I think it’s nicer to give your BM’s an option if you won’t be paying. I picked ~10 dresses at Davids bridal and a color scheme and asked the girls to pick exactly what they liked. Varying price ranges and styles that will all look good together.
I think if you know you have a financially struggling Bridesmaid or Best Man, do what you can, however, especially if there are travel/hotel costs with attending your wedding.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview
I asked my girls if they wanted their hair done as well and they all did. I then told them the price I was quoted. I can’t afford to pay for their hair and makeup