Post # 1
I’d like to know if there is anyone out there who is NOT sending reply cards? Fiance and I are having a small wedding (anticipate 70 coming) and we’re on a tight budget. While I like the idea of reply cards and have used them in the past, I don’t think they’re necessary and consider them to be an "extra" plus yet another thing that will be recycled post-wedding. I’m trying to cut down on the amount of waste that we’ll incur and I’m thinking reply cards are just one more thing we can cut. I should mention that our wedding will be a destination wedding for most invitees (we’ll be living in and having the wedding in Scotland) and 99% of people on my side use email, and the one percent that doesn’t probably wouldn’t send the reply card back anyway (my aunt and uncle). On top of that, they or we would have to purchase international stamps which might further complicate things. My FI’s side all live in Scotland and I don’t think most of them would be bothered about not having a reply card. I love receiving mail, but honestly, I love money in my pocket more.
So my questions are:
what are your thoughts on the reply card?
How do you expect ppl to RSVP without one? And how would you word this?
Thanks a bunch!
Post # 3
Reply postcards are inexpensive to print (4 per page, put them through a copier or lazer printer) and to mail (27 cent stamps). They also don’t produce much waste.
But that doesn’t mean that you HAVE to send them. Many wedding websites allow you to have an RSPV function. You could also just provide your phone number and email address in the invitation. We had a wedding of similar size, and since we primarily invited only close family and friends, our guests mainly replied by calling, emailing, or telling us in person. Most also sent in their reply card, which was a helpful double check. ("Your friend said they would come – does that mean only them, or are they bringing a guest? Are they bringing their children?")
If you are doing a seat assignment or plated dinner, you will need to know a precise headcount and meal preference. The RSVP card will be very helpful. But if don’t need to know that stuff, then you don’t really need to use them. You know your wedding and guests best.
Post # 4
We just included an email and phone number for RSVP. So far, so good.
Post # 5
We invited 250 guests to our wedding and plan to have 183 attendees (in 10 days!) and did not send out reply cards.
We made our invitations and considered reply cards a waste of time, paper, and money. Instead, we used a Web site (http://www.mywedding.com) and told guests on our invites to RSVP at the site or to call me (most everyone RSVP’ed online, with only a handful of people who left me voice messages). When I received voice messages, I just entered in the information myself online.
I thought it worked perfectly. The bonus is that when you have people RSVP right online, they spell their own name/guest’s name (so you can’t spell it wrong) and can’t forget to tell you their meal choice. Plus, you have led them to your site, which has all the information they need about the wedding, regardless of whether they have (or lost) their invite. Bonus number 2 is even better: mywedding.com will then export all this information into an Excel spreadsheet for you! You need not type anything at all if you don’t want! (We are even exporting this information straight onto printed escort cards.)
So, basically, you have a believer in me!
Post # 6
like cricket, we are using the website or phone for our guest responses. we’re including our website and my phone number as RSVP options. i will miss the mail, but feel that saving paper and trouble for our international guests is worth it.
Post # 7
We did not do reply cards — we did it all online through our website and gave a phone number as back-up for those without internet access.
Post # 8
Check out http://www.seal-n-send.com/ – I used them for my invitations. They are ridiculously inexpensive and include the reply card. They are an eco-friendly option because they dont need an envelope and the reply card is attached. If you have any other questions about it let me know. I already got mine back and I’m very happy with how they came out.
Post # 9
PM me if you’d like to see our website and rsvp wording.
Post # 10
We also did an online RSVP and phone number option. I think RSVP’s are classic, but also outdated with today’s technology. I think it’s just more convenient for people to RSVP online especially for 350 guests 😀
Post # 11
I’m not – I’m having people RSVP via email. I have a small guest list, so anyone I don’t hear from I don’t mind contacting myself.
Post # 12
Thanks a lot. I’m glad that I’m not the only one that considers reply cards a non-essential. As mamamiya pointed out, they are a bit redundant in today’s world. I was thinking of also sending a pic and a handwritten note to our guests telling them how excited we are to get married and hope they can join us for our wedding. The rationale behind this is 1) it’s a personal touch as our invites won’t be handmade, 2) my Fiance and I have been away from our friends and families for 2-3 years and thought a nice pic of us together would make them happy. Thanks again for all the suggestions.
BTW. WinniBride, I checked out seal-n-send, and I liked a couple of the invitations, but I think I’ll probably go with my first choice, http://www.weddingpaperdivas.com
@Cricket, thanks so much for http://www.mywedding.com I’ve decided to create our own wedding blog so Out of Town can check out things online. I plan on making a guide booklet for their Out of Town bags, but the website will help them plan things out prior to coming. YAY!