(Closed) Anyone NOT sending response cards with invites?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 32
2424 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@NAvery:  I did something like this too. Most people just RSVPed online or called. The people who didn’t RSVP are people that I’m fairly certain wouldn’t have returned a pre-addressed and stamped RSVP card either, so I don’t think it was a waste.

I also included hotel information on the card with the RSVP instructions.

Post # 33
5284 posts
Bee Keeper

We included a small response card that directed insured to email us to RSVP if they were coming or not and there meal choice

Post # 34
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@stephko99:  Our invite tells people to RSVP on the website.  If they can’t figure that out then I figure they will call me or one of our parents and I can add them myself.

Post # 35
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I had set up a dedicated email for rsvp’s and it really did work out great, also we added our phone number, just in case, out of 75 invites, we only had 2 call on the phone, the rest were via email,  for us, it worked out great

Post # 36
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

For my wedding, with several elderly relatives, I did not include a response card. Instead I said to email or call to RSVP. I found that a lot of people RSVP’d verbally, so I just kept a spreadsheet of who was coming or not. I only had 60 guests and most of them were relatives so it worked out well.

Post # 37
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We didn’t do response cards. We did entirely online RSVPing (our invitation had our website on it and said RSVP online. Screw decorum, it WORKED and saved money and decorum is so old fashioned!). About 90% of the guests were able to figure it out. A few (mostly international relatives who don’t speak much English) we had to call (and then we RSVPed online for them w/ their food choice), but it was SO no big deal, it was so few people, and that happens with response cards too! My favorite part, other than saving money, was that all our responses and food choices were already in a system, our site let us export the list and print it out and hand it straight the the caterer without having to think about it or add things up or anything!


Post # 38
2552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@stephko99:  I think it depends how many people you are inviting and how well you know them if you expect phone calls. RSVPs on websites have seemed to have gone well on the bee. I’m personally not doing response cards or website RSVP. We only have 25 guests and for them, the invite is more of a formality. If something turns up and they cant come, they will call for sure.

Post # 39
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@stephko99:  I am not doing it! We are going to put something on the Reception card. After talking to my mom and other recent brides in my social circle, it is a waste of money. I would consider your guest list, as everyone has different cultural expectations, but for me- most family members have already said something about whether or not they are coming (so we will probably just call, or send an email to confirm) AND most other guests are young enough to handle the website RSVP or send a quick FB message. 


Maybe this is tacky for some, but a friend of mine said she spent so much money sending out RSVP cards (actually, she only sent them to the older relatives, and received none of them in the mail-think of all the wasted postage) and only 30ish people RSVPd. 150ish showed up at her wedding haha she just told me to hunt them down, because I am going to have to anyway when they don’t return the RSVP card I paid for. 

Post # 40
17 posts


I am planning to make my own invitation and not going to send out the response card 🙂

Post # 41
13905 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I prefer response cards, because they remind me of needing to send a response.  With online RSVPs, I always put it off and forget it needs to be done – but if I see the envelope on the counter, I remember to send it back.

It’s up to you whether or not you send one, but I personally would much prefer receiving a response to a formal setting than being told to log online and RSVP that way.

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