(Closed) Anyone not thrilled about your soon to be sister in laws?!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Jlee28:  I’m with you.

 

I’m marrying a man who has 4 brothers! So, he’s one of 5. The other 2 married additions to his family are so traditional, conservative, obsessive….mostly about children. One of them already has one and…ugh

 

In general I hate having to do stuff with “the girls of the family” so it’s really irritating. I have much more in common with his brothers. That’s mostly me complaining about stupid crap though. One of the ladies came from a rich family and got to attend a school that taught her film editing and filmmaking (my dream job) and she’s thrown it away wanting babies everywhere.

 

 

 

 

 

Ugh

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@Jlee28:  I’m with you! My Future Sister-In-Law is so outspoken and aggressive with her opinions that it’s really inappropriate sometimes. I once flat out told her to shut it because I was so fed up with her, and she’s held back a lot since. I don’t really suggest doing that if you want to maintain a good relationship with them, but it did put the kibosh on her argumentative ways.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Jlee28:  I think you’re just going to have to gently refuse to be involved in their bickering. Just get used to saying “Well, it seems to work for her” when they talk crap about each other. 

My SO has two sisters that I’m not close to. We have fun when they get drunk, though 🙂 I just do my best to be nice and stick close to my SO. I was invited to one of their birthday parties, which was a “girls night”. Yeah. No. She & her girlfriends are WAY rowdier than me. I have no interest in going to crowded bars with MY friends, so I wasn’t going to do it with people I don’t know!

Post # 7
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629 posts
Busy bee

Fortunately, I love my Future Sister-In-Law (SO’s sister). I wish she didn’t live in England. However, being a huge realist, I picture the type of women SO’s brothers will marry, and that makes me nervous, specifically his younger Chassidic Orthodox brother, who will probably marry a woman who has trouble accepting his Reform convert SIL.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I love my SIL, but I totally know what you mean about the bickering! my relationship with my brother has always been one of working together, joking around, acting like 3 year olds when we’re hanging out together, while every so often, Darling Husband and his sister feel like they need to one up each other, end up bickering, and it’s really irritating!

Post # 9
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1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Jlee28:  That sounds stressful. Fiance has a brother and sister who are stark contrasts, but both of them can be a little annoying. The brother is MEAN…like he won’t even speak to me at all and I don’t think he ever has. If we’re in the same room he never acknowledges me and will talk to everyone but me. Even if I say something as simple as “hello, how are you” or “see ya later” he just ignores me. He’s been in and out of jail and has issues, so I try not to take it personally but I prefer not to be around him. Thankfully he lives on the other side of the country now. And his sister is much friendlier, but she’s one of those people who can be too dominating sometimes. If you disagree with her it’s like the end of the world and she can be rude and competitive with silly things. Once she said “I’m going to be making more money than you soon because of my career path. Your field doesn’t have the same potential”…STFU!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Jlee28:  I am kind of in the same place as you but I don’t have a problem with any of my SILs (All 8 of them!) but two of them have issues with each other on a more personal level than you are talking about.

I am pretty outspoken myself and close with each of them so I just made it clear that I love them both equally and refuse to talk badly about each of them. BUT if they’d ever want advice or help fixing their issues, I’d be there immediately. 🙂 Usually, if you are forceful about not wanting to be involved they’ll stop putting you in the middle. Just keep saying it everytime they try to pull you and ignore the rest of it.

Post # 12
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

UGH YES.  my Darling Husband has 4 brothers, so there are a lot of sister in laws.  The only one I actually loved and got along with, has just finished divorcing DH’s brother.  So sad, because the ones that are left are not my cup of tea.  No matter what I do, I can’t seem to make a connection with them

Post # 15
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Jlee28:  HAHAHA They are all pretty great! But it did take a bit of getting used to since I am an only child LOL 6 of them are FI’s sisters and they are all very protective of him and even baby him a bit (LOL!) I ALWAYS keep my mouth shut but it isn’t always easy especially when they give us their “2 cents” when we haven’t asked! 🙂

Post # 16
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5191 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Jlee28:  Oh, I  just acquired 2 loons (actually, one of them really has been deemed medically as a loon but she’s not in a long term facility so I see her a lot). My husband does not like to interact with his sister or SIL but his family is close so when we get together, which is frequently, I just kind of smile, act cordial, and stay silent. One of them is delusional and dangerous with unpredictable outbursts, the other one will try to find out every second that you have free time so she can ask you to do favors for her. I don’t mind helping her out once in a while, but it gets out of hand if it’s something unimportant. 

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