Post # 1
I think I am *almost* ready to pull the trigger on ordering my dress. I’ve been thinking about it for months, and think I’ve found a style that combines a lot of elements that I am looking for. However, to get all of the aspects I want, I am heavily customizing my dress through Casablanca, so I will not be able to see how it comes together until the dress arrives, and on top of that I cannot fit into the sample that the dress is based on.
There are a few reasons I decided to go the custom route. I’ve tried on dresses in similar shapes, and I know I like that shape on myself; I also have a design/ costuming background, so I am used to designing clothing for myself and not getting to see how it will look on until the finished product is ready. This also means I’m used to having some control over what have been the most important garments of my life; wearing something “as is” isn’t appealing ot me. Finally, I work as a bridal consultant, so I think for a dress to feel “special” to me, I will need to have something that feels unique. I’m used to seeing plenty of beautiful dresses on plenty of beautiful girls, and I want something that feels personal and one of a kind.
That being said, I’m still anxious about not getting to see and touch and try on the dress before it is MY DRESS. It’s my wedding dress, this is important! It’s exciting, but there’s a bit of negative anxiety as well. I’ve sold dresses to women who have not been able to try them on before they arrived, but they weren’t customizing the design; they knew exactly what the dress would look like, even if they didn’t know what it would look like on them. Can anyone speak to what this experience has been like? Do you regret not going with a “safer” option (even if you didn’t feel strongly about the dress when you tried it on?), or was the risk worth it?
Post # 2
MadameX: I didn’t try on my dress dress before pulling the trigger. I fell in love with the Hayley Paige Guindon dress, but as a plus size bride, there were no samples in my size or close. I did some changes – raised the back and added buttons. Sounds minor compared to your changes. I tried on some similar styles, but nothing with as textured on the bottom. I was extremely anxious about it, but in the end, it was totally worth it. Good luck with your endeavor.
Post # 3
MadameX: I did, but had a 30 day no questions asked return policy to protect me. Worth it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
I ordered a custom Casablanca as well without trying it on. I just knew what I liked and didn’t like, like you. I’m so excited. I actually just got the call 10 mins ago that it is finally IN! (Ordered in January). I can’t wait to see it and try it on. Eeeeeeek!!
Post # 5
MadameX: I also ordered a custom made gown. I tried on a few that had bits & pieces I liked in the store, but nothing that really fit my style or body so I decided to just take each piece I liked & make it into one dress. I will admit I second guessed that sooo many times! Even when my dress finally did come in and I tried it on I still wondered if I made the right decision- mostly because it was loose fitting as I would have had to pay extra for custom measurements so went with a street size. However, after the fittings & alterations I was seriously in love with those scraps of fabric and can’t imagine doing it any other way!
Post # 6
MadameX: I ordered my dress from http://www.weddingdressfantasy.com before trying any dress on. I emailed and showed Tova, the seamstress/designer from the site what I would like and i gave her my measurements.
Post # 7
Although I didnt customize it, I also ordered a Casablanca (1900)before trying it on. I just knew that it was what I wanted.
It was perfect and I am glad I made the choice. Casablanca is wonderfuk and thier work is amazing. Please make sure you share your gown with us when you are done.
Post # 8
MadameX: Yup, BUT I have a VERY good idea of what looks good on my body. I do very well with vnecks, as I have a small, round chest. I know empire looks best on me because I am a pear. I wanted spaghetti straps, because strapless gives me that weird fat fold, because of my round chest. So all of these elements I was able to find in my dream dress. I got it off ebay for 500$, new with tags. I love this dress.
Post # 9
I will probably be ordering a dress from JBS and will have it customized to include various elements I like from other dresses. So I wont be able to try the dress on either. I just have to hope that the dress comes out like I envision it in my head.
Post # 10
Thank you for all of the replies so far! I would love to see photos of your customized dresses, MrsTtoB , BeckyS0 and anyone else who wants to share! I feel better knowing that I am not the only person “crazy enough” to go this route; I just don’t have any friends or acquaintances I can turn to as real-world examples of this working out.
Post # 11
MadameX: would always have to try on
Post # 12
I didn’t try on or see my dress before it arrived at my house a month before my wedding. it was completely customer and was a design we made by combining a few of the designers other dresses. She also did not offer full refunds as it was made to order.
Luckily when it came in I loved it! It didn’t really stress me out as I hate hate hate shopping. I never tried on a single dress and I am more than happy about it .
Post # 13
MadameX: I had been married previously and for that dress I did not try it on. I ordered it through a tailor in the UK and she just asked for my measurements. I was totally worried but it came in and fit like a glove! She does beautiful work – rivendellbridal.com is the site I believe, if you’re into that fantasy type of style. I would definitely recommend her.
Post # 14
I bought my dress without trying it. It was preloved and very cheap so there wasn’t a massive risk and I could have got something else if I didn’t like it. i was lucky in that the previous ownder sent me loads of pictures of it and pictures of when she wore it so I was pretty confident that I would love it and I did! I wouldn’t have bought something really expensiv without trying on though, unless there was a cast iron returns policy or I was 100% sure I could sell it on.
Post # 15
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
Yep. Bought it from the Oxfam (online) bridal shop. They had the measurements and were so helpful. I could have (with some difficulty) returned it though.