Anyone not walked down the aisle by anyone?

posted 1 year ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

michelleh0686 :  I walked myself down the aisle. It isn’t as uncommon as you think, and I didn’t feel judged or pitied at all. It was my moment. A lot of my friends did the same — not because they had no one, but because they wanted to be seen without focus on another person.  The beautiful gown, the glow, the anticipation.  It is a happy and empowering moment. You don’t need someone to walk you down the aisle and “give you away” – no one owns you, girl. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I walked solo! My bridesmaids went first, then me. It went very quickly. I wasn’t nervous at all and in the pics my face is just beaming lol

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I walked down the aisle by myself. Both parents are deceased. My father passed two weeks after my engagement. I have uncles and a brother but didn’t feel like anyone could replace my father in that role. It was fine!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

My niece who got married last October, walked in alone, with 2 flower girls first. Her dad is dead, she has a couple of uncles, and 3 brothers at the time (one has since died), but I just took it as her preference. 

It had a sort of independent charm.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

michelleh0686 :  

Both of my parents are gone, I walked myself down the aisle.  I never really gave it much thought in terms of feeling weird.

However, unbeknownst to me, the officiant (hired by Dh) told the friend who was helping with the IPod, “No music!”  WTF?  So, though I was expecting to walk down the aisle to Canon in D, I was floating along to dead silence.  I was absolutely livid.

My wedding before that one was a very hastily thrown together affair (and enormous mistake).  An older friend escorted me down the aisle.

It just didn’t really matter, either way.  I’m just still really pissed about the music.  Almost eight years later.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We are walking down together. I don’t talk to my father so I don’t see the need to put someone else in that roll for a ceremony. No one is in that roll so that roll is empty for the wedding. I also think that giving the bride away is weird if she has been living on her own for awhile. Have you been paying my rent and groceries for the past 13 years? No? Then stfu about giving me away. Though if I did have a relationship with my dad I’d probably just go through with it. If a woman is 18 and still dependent when getting married then giving her away makes more sense. Anyone who decides to feel sad that you didn’t have that roll artificaially filled for the sake of apperance is the kind of negative person that you don’t need in your life. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Hi,

I did not have somone walk me down the aisle. I started at the altar with my husband. I simply greeted guests and walked towards the altar. We began at the designated time. My father is deceased. Im a grown woman, 40 (with a 13 year old), no one is “giving me a way”. I also find it awkard to walk down an aisle with every one staring. I dont like a lot of attention.

 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I walked by myself with regular music. It never once occurred to me that anyone would “talk” or feel bad for me or anything of the sort. I personally would feel that the Imperial March would be inappropriate (why would a bride be menacing?) and “costumey’, but YMMV.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

Stride down the aisle like a boss. Have a cape that you can dramatically unclasp and throw aside when you reach the alter, like Gilderoy Lockhart at duelling club. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

I walked down myself, dh met me half way and we walked up the last bit together.

i think you’re trying to over compensate for something that really isn’t a big deal. You want a traditional walk down the aisle for your fi, but Darth Vader isn’t exactly traditional.

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