(Closed) Anyone not want their DH in the room when giving birth?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

eh, Fiance and I are so comfortable with each other I don’t care if he sees all the lovely parts that come out of me. I know he will get grossed out. He makes a big deal when he sees a tampon in the garbage can. Men are babies. They can deal with it.

Post # 78
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

When I gave birth my husband was still my Boyfriend or Best Friend and only 17 years old… It is truly amazing how men can change and do what they need to do when it comes down to it. I told him he could catch if he wanted to and he wanted to but when the time came I couldn’t even let go of his hand. Hopefully I can let go long enough next time for him to catch the baby 🙂 My husband said watching me give birth (and yes he did get to see her actually come out) was the most beautiful things he has ever seen. That was the first and last time I have seen my husband cry. But then again he also says he prefers my face without makeup…

Post # 79
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13095 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@LGenz: “Its like when you’re a virgin and you’re look “OMG what is he going to think of my naked body!?” and after you’re married you’re like “honey can you look at this bump on my *ss and tell me if I should see a doctor””

So True!  🙂

Post # 80
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Darling Husband will be allowed in the room but he will stay by my side! No looking for him! He actually wants to RECORD the birth! He’s like, well our kids will want to see it and you’ll want to watch it someday. No. No way in hell. I can’t imagine wanting to watch my own birth. I would be completely grossed out. There are some things I just don’t need to see my mother doing. I *just know* that some of DH’s family will want to be in the room or close by and that ain’t happening either. I don’t even want nurses and doctors in the room, lol!

I want as calm, quiet, and natural of a birth as possible. I’ve helped deliver literally hundreds of calves and it’s nearly always quiet and peaceful. I just keep an eye on them and they get up, walk around, lie down, do whatever – from what I hear, doctors and nurses are constantly bugging you and prodding you. I know that I will just want to be left in peace!

Post # 81
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t want him there. I want my mom there instead. But I have a feeling that somehow he will force himself in.

I really don’t want him there for a number of reasons. And I want my mom there FOR a number of reasons.

EDIT: I wouldn’t worry about the makeup part. He knows you are beautiful just the way you are inside and outside. That’s why he married you.

If you are concerned about the pooping part (which deeply concerns me as well!), then I would think hard about having him there. I personally don’t wanna go through that added stress that ‘oh shit! I pooped in front of my DH! NOT SEXY!’ In fact, I just heard this on the radio the other day where they were asking about your most embarassing moments. And one woman called in to say that it was the pooping part. And her hubby just does NOT let it go! He keeps making fun of her and it’s been FIVE YEARS! Hahahaha!!! Some women are ok with those types of jokes, some are not. She wasn’t, but apparently it’s too funny for her hubby NOT to make fun of it any chance he gets.

Besides back in the day (think Mad Men), men wouldn’t be allowed in the delivery room at all. They waited outside.

 

Post # 82
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I did not let anyone in the room with me during the pushing part except for the doctor and nurses.  I would not be comfortable with people looking at me so I knew it wouldnt be good for me or the baby during delivery if I weren’t comfortable.  My SO and mother stood outside by the door and soon as the baby was out SO came in and cut the cord.  🙂

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