(Closed) anyone NOT writing an official birth plan?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Me. I want to try natural too, but I don’t know if I’ll be able to do that. And, I only want Darling Husband in the room too. Other than that, I think I’ll make a CD or something, but I don’t know.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You probably do not need one.  I mentioned it to one of my doctors (it’s a practice) and he said unless you want something super specific, the doctor and nurse staff will be super flexible with you.  They will discuss everything with you before it happens (unless it’s an emergency, but if that was the case the plan is out the window anyways). So if you don’t feel you need one, you really probably don’t :).

For the record, I am planning to go with the flow as well.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@dynamic_duo:  I feel pretty much the same as you and I wouldn’t except that my hospital I’m delivering at requires one, though they give it to you as a sheet you fill out.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I actually wrote one and posted it:) then deleted it and said screw it. I am realizing more and more as it approaches that as long as I get a healthy baby out of this-I’m good:) I understand some women feel very stronly against or for something but I don’t. I want to try it naturaly uet im not going to be devastated if we end up in emergency c section: so long as baby comes home with me and is healthy. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

yeah I’m not doing a written plan.  I told the hubby that I don’t want anyone but him in the room and then after the baby is born when they are finishing up with me and baby then my mom and his mom can come in.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

As a labor and delivery nurse, I can say that I don’t believe a written birth plan is necessary.  Honestly, when we see them, we have a joke…ugh get the c-section paperwork ready. Because more often then not, people with birth plans end up in c-sections. It’s almost like when you try to control birth down to every little detail that things end up going the opposite way.

What I do believe in is being knowledgeable about birth and your options. Know what your hospital offers and how your doctor works.  Having wishes and opinions on how you would like your birth to go is great.  Discuss with your nurse and doctor at the begining and dont be afraid to speak up as your labor goes along if you are unhappy with how something.

And if you do decide to bring a birth plan, please type it up on your own.  It’s very hard to take someone seriously when they bring in some internet generated birth plan sponsored by a formula company. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@dynamic_duo:  I would say about 10% or less of our patients have written birth plans. We do about 300 deliveries a month. 

Many of our patients have wishes for how their labor will go and express their desires while being admitted, which I am all for!

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I had my last 25 years ago I don’t even know what a Birth Plan is but can guess. I wanted to have my first naturally and ended up having a c secton before I even went into labour. The thing to take into account is it’s one thing you can not always control and you end up feeling very disappointed and a failure.  It took me a long time to get over these feelings.

A Birth Plan sounds like a good idea but always remember things do not always go to plan and a healthy baby is all that matters. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@girlygirl885:  Ha ha. My doctor said almost the same thing.  He said something like, the surest way to make sure that things go wrong is to have a plan for how you want them to go.  Something like that.  I hadn’t asked him about a birth plan and I’m sure he’d be receptive to me telling him what I do or don’t want, but I have a feeling he would mentally roll his eyes at a written plan.

 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wrote one because I was so anxious that I found it really helpful to get out what I wanted and feel like I had some sense of control.  However, I’m not taking it to the hospital.  The only major points I have are delayed cord clamping and that my husband accompanies the baby and me wherever we go.  However, I know that the cord clamping is still determined by how the birth goes and the health of the baby…

 

There’s just so many variables you can’t control!  Definitely made me feel better just to write it out, though.  Then I laughed and put it away.

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