(Closed) Anyone picked out/designed their own ring? How does a proposal work, then?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We picked out my original ring together, had it set, and then he took it home with him.  

To confound matters even more, the weekend we went away was picked by us as the “engagement weekend”.   

That didn’t stop me from being insanely excited about getting engaged.  I knew it was happening that weekend, I knew what my ring looked like, but I just didn’t know WHEN or HOW he would propose.   It was still exciting, wonderful and special!!

Don’t let socities’ “expectations” of the “perfect” proposal make you think that your proposal is any less special, wonderful or beautiful. Each couple does it THEIR way and that is what makes it great.  A heartfelt honest propsal with or without a ring is still a wonderful proposal.  

Post # 17
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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ceedee18:  I ordered my own stone so we could check out moissanite and then gave him the stone. Then we picked out a ring together and I had it custom done to what I wanted and he ordered it and got it set and I even saw the empty ring before it was set. I knew what day it would be ready and sure enough he proposed. Honestly we were both so nervous and acted kind of stupid, and you know what: It was still the most amazing and beautiful moment of my life and I can’t imagine having been any happier with it no matter how it happened. 

I say give him the ring and then let him propose when he wants. from my experience you’ll still feel surprised. You can know it’s coming, but still when it’s happening you realize it was never real until that moment.

Post # 18
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

ceedee18:  make sure you don’t check on it if you leave it somewhere for him, because then you’ll know when it’s gone and that something is coming. 

Post # 19
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

MY DH proposed with my diamond set in a really simple setting (that our jewler put it in for free to give back later) then I wore that until we had finished designing the ring together and it was time to put my diamond in my real ring. Little did he know that I secretly figured out when/how he was going to propose anyway, but it was still super special and I still bawled. I loved hearing about how he chose the diamond and I really loved that we designed the ring together. We even got his wedding ring custom designed and made by the same jeweler.

ETA: This was all even after I gave him a detailed spreadsheet of what I liked and disliked and we had tried on rings before (on another note I may be a bit of a control freak haha!)

  • This reply was modified 7 years, 8 months ago by AllieBee12.
Post # 20
2590 posts
Sugar bee

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ceedee18:  We picked out my pawn shop ring in May.  I had a family diamond switched onto it, and I didn’t see it after that point until December when he proposed.

Post # 21
8601 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I picked mine months ago- I think it’s coming soon! I dont sweat the surprise thing- Ill still be surprised when he actually proposes! 

The thing about you making it though… I make jewelery too/take classes but I am not a crafts(wo)man with a whole career of experience and there for i will not be setting any diamonds for years. Are you sure you wouldnt rather just design it and have someone else make it? That would put some surprise back into it because you won’t know when it’s done! 

Post # 22
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My boyfriend and I designed my future engagement ring together (although it was basically what I wanted, because that’s what he wanted as he knows I have to love it). We picked out the centre stone together though. We are currently not engaged but I know that a proposal is coming in the next month or two (eee!). After designing the ring and picking the stone we left it with the jeweller and he was going to custom make my ring. I’m not sure how much contact my boyfriend has had with the jeweller since then or whether he has seen pics of the final product or even whether he now has the ring. Even though I know what the ring will basically look like it will still be just as special when we finally get engaged. 

I think design/make the ring and give it back to him so he can propose in his own way. It won’t be any less special that you know exactly what it looks like because the feeling when he asks you to be his wife will be special enough and exciting enough 🙂 



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