Post # 1
I’d enjoy hearing your experience of planning your wedding 1 or even 2 months before your actual wedding day.
This is the timeframe that FH and I are looking at.
I’m not wanting to have an expensive (nothing over $2,000 total. Not including Honeynoon) or a lengthy wedding.
I would love to have the people there who we are the closest to.
Preferably 80 guests, 10 am wedding, brunch or light refreshments reception, and to be able to celebrate joining our lives and our love.
I am very excited to hear your story and advice! Thank you!
Post # 2
Honestly, my first reaction is the time frame isn’t a huge problem, but you probably cannot feed brunch to 80 people plus whatever else you are wanting to do for under $2000.
Post # 3
What’s the rush?
unless you do a backyard type of event there’s no way you can properly host 80 people for $2k
Post # 4
where are you located? planning in a couple months if you are flexible on dates would be no problem, but I agree, hosting 80 people for $2000 would be pretty difficult. For examply I had 30 people at my wedding and it’s hard to say exactly what food and alcohol was because it was included with the venue which included table, chairs, cake, set up, take down, basically everything, and it was $100pp. My entire wedding of 30 people was about $7000… I can’t imagine hosting 80 people for $2000 so you may need to adjust your expectations before you really get into planning!
Post # 5
Is this a backyard/private deal, or do you want a venue?
To get a venue on such short notice, you may have to settle for a weekday or holiday, and then many of your guests may not come.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2020 - North Carolina
I think it’s possible. I live in NC and you can rent a beautiful public park or pavilion for less than $800. So if it’s a backyard affair you won’t have to pay that. If you dont serve alcohol then you don’t have to pay for security if it’s less than 100 people or an ABC license. I was looking at some catering places and as long as you dont need servers you can order food for a buffet setup for less than $1100 for 100 people.
Post # 7
charlie057 : Thank you for taking the time to reply! What are your thoughts on a light refreshments reception instead of a brunch? The venue I want can hold 80 people and includes chairs and tables. $600 + tax fri thru Sunday and between $300 and $350 during the week. We dont have a huge budget so were trying to keep costs low. Maybe cutting down guest list to family and closest friends is best? So then less than 80 people?
Post # 8
futuremrsmoore : This is wonderful and encouraging advice, thank you! I’ll be keeping this in mind 🙂
– coconut honey
Post # 9
thunderbee : Thanks for your reply! Either or. But my preference is a small venue.
Post # 10
sollyb : I am in the Nashville, TN area! Sounds like I definitely will need to adjust my expectations. I had a friend who recently got married and wanted to keep her wedding as low key and cost effective as possible. They had a 10 am wedding with veggies and hummus, crackers, and small quiche like things to eat. Also they had cake and water with lemon. What’s your opinion on weddings like this? Doing what’s within your means? Thanks for the reply! Y’all are the best!
Post # 11
futuremrs2020 : Great question! Well, I have a co worker due to have her baby at the end of September. Which is when we originally wanted our wedding to be. She and I cant both be out of work at the same time, so I’ve had to move the wedding up. She will be out of the office for a long time after she has baby, so technically we can have the wedding anytime we want in September, October at latest BUT we’d only be able to take a Sunday to honeymoon because I want be able to take several days off while she is home with baby.
Or we could wait until end of November or December to marry because my co worker will be back in office my then after baby is born. But… because of our convictions we have been saving intimacy for when we’ve made a marriage commitment to each other. Waiting to marry after September feels like forever.
This is also why we want to marry sooner rather than later. Not to mention we can spend as much time together enjoying each others company without having to leave each other at the end of the night – once married. Which sounds like heaven 🙂
Post # 12
coconuthoney : My opinion on that type of wedding doesn’t matter at all! It’s completely up to you what you want to do. How long would you be looking at for the wedding? A lot of weddings are centered around food and drinks, but you don’t have to make yours centered around that, but just know that if peopel get bored/hungry they probably will leave. Just an idea to break it down though, how quickly $2000 would go for 80 people:
Marriage license: $99.50 in Nashville
Someone to marry you: give or take $200
Chairs/table/venue for 80 ppl: $300 (on the low side)
Appetizers for 80 ppl (i’m doing sams club prices for budget, and this is extremely light on food):
- Wraps- $90 (3 packages)
- Veggie trays- $50
- Fruit and cheese trays- $115
- Pastry Trays- $40
Drinks: In my opinion you need to at least offer coffee and tea in addition to water for a 10am wedding
- Coffee and tea- Give or take $100
- A lemondaide would also be nice, but not 100% necessary.
So that brings you to abouth $1000 without any attire, cake, music, flowers, etc all of which are not 100% necessary but make for a nice touch.
So I guess I will take back what I said about you can’t do it for under $2000, because yes you can, but depends how fed you want your guests to be, and if you want it to look like you “cheaped out”
Now I know it is none of my business and I said my opinion didn’t matter, and it doesnt, but if it were me, I would go to the court house and get married, and then go to a beautiful restaraunt for dinner with your families.
Post # 13
coconuthoney : i think doing a more casual wedding like your friend with the morning weddings then “light lunch” is totally reasonable. I don’t know if you could do it for under 2k, but probably not too much more. Honestly I think we’ll probably dtart seeing more and more of this type of thing as lots of younger people can’t afford to do a big wedding extravaganza. It wouldn’t bother me to attend a wedding like this at all!
Post # 14
Just to add to Sollyb’s post, you don’t need $200 for an officiant, ask a friend or family member who is already a guest to get certified online! That’s what we’re doing, and fiance’s sister is thrilled to have a special role.
I’ve also seen weddings where in place of gifts they ask guests to bring a brunch dish? You could do that
Post # 15
I think you would be doing well to have 80 people be available and RSVP yes at such short notice.