Post # 1
Okay, so I’m not even engaged yet, but it should be happening in the next couple weeks. I would like an October or November wedding. I will not be hiring a wedding planner.
Anyone plan a wedding in 5 or 6 months? How did you do it? Do you have a checklist? Most checklists I’ve seen tell you to book your photographer 8 months in advance and things like that.
The wedding dress is scary too. I haven’t even looked yet (and won’t until I’m actually engaged.) Will it be difficult to get it done in time?
Any advice or help greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
@Elleymae: I had to cancel my original wedding and plan a new one (we already had people traveling in on the original date) in 40 days.
I already had the photographer, but SHE was actually the second one I had to book, since the first one got pregnant and was due on my wedding day. I booked the new one about 6 months out.
Post # 4
Also, yes, I do have a checklist, but remember times aren’t hard and fast, they can be changed.
As far as the dress goes, a lot is done by imagination. Just start envisioning a couple scenarios that you wouldn’t mind for the wedding. For example, if you get married at a ballroom. you like this style of wedding, but if you get married at an english garden, you like another style. Once you have a few wedding styles in mind, you can imagine a pretty dress you might want to wear for each one.
Really, you can do it if you are decisive.
Post # 5
Two of my best friends planned their weddings in 6 months or less so it definitely can be done but you won’t really be able to be that picky.
The first thing you need to do is find a venue. You will more than likely have to go with a Friday/Sunday reception since I’m sure most Saturdays will already be booked by now.
I just ordered my dress a few weeks ago for my October 2011 wedding. I was told it should be in at the end of July. You can definitely get a dress in time but you may be limited in your designers (mines an Alfred Angelo).
If you book soon, you shouldn’t have a problem finding the rest of your vendors. Everything else can easily be done in 6 months. To be honest, short of having our vendors booked, dress bought and invites done, we haven’t really checked all that much off of our list and we’ve been engaged for almost a year.
Post # 6
I will have had less than 4 months from engagement to wedding 🙂 Granted, I’ve been a wedding planner for a long time, but it’s FAR different when it’s your OWN.
First figure out your venue location, then vendors that can’t handle more than one wedding a day – entertainment and photography. Then officiant if applicable, then florist and bakers.
For your dress, if you’re going to David’s or Alfred Angelo you’ll be fine… don’t let them make you think otherwise 🙂 For other shops, ask. You may have to pay more, but you’ll have your dress in time.
For everything else, make a decision and move on. What’s nice is you’ll limit your ability to double guess yourself and cut down on dragging out the wedding drama.
PM me if you need more help, but searching the bee you’ll find some similar threads.
Post # 7
I planned our wedding in about 4 months. It can be done, you just have to get a bit organized before you really dive head first into it.
First, sit down and make a list of the things that are important to you two to have in the wedding. The figure out a rough overall budget, then narrow down how much you can spend on certain parts.
Don’t stress the dress! It can be done in a short time frame. I didn’t order my dress until March 28th (I didn’t intentionally wait that long) and it will be here about 20 days before the wedding. If the timing of your dress arrival leaves little time to get it altered, try to find a dress that needs minimal alterations. Some of the smaller alterations can be banged out in a few days. I would suggest looking at Alfred Angelo, they seem to have a quick turnaround for dresses. (There are more places to go to than just Davids Bridal for AA dresses, check their website to find other locations)
Post # 8
Also, I found everything but the guestbook and cake serving set online.
Post # 9
We had 8 months, but honestly did the bulk of it in the first 2. I agree with what PP said about first finding a venue. If there are all-inclusive type venues in your areas, that’s going to be your best bet. It’s DEFINITELY doable, just be flexible!
PS I actually found the checklists on the knot to be really helpful. Some of the stuff we weren’t doing at all, so you just erase it. But it reminds you of all the important things and gives you a reasonable timeline based on your engagement.
Post # 10
i think the most important one is, how much money do you have on hand? then start looking for location because they go fast mostly from june to october, in november you shouldnt have a problem, also look who you might invite (a guess count) to give you an idea of how much per person if you do a sitting down or if it’s buffet style. then after you have date, guest count (estimate) & place, then you concentrate in photographers, cake, food if not included in the place. if you are not sure, google is your best friend if not go to the book store and go through the books (dont need to buy them) also, those books and this webpage is just a guide (dont get crazy and use all your money). at the end of the day, is the marriage of you and your love one! that’s it! congrats *ahead of time* and good luck! by the way, my Fi and i talk about getting married in november, by christmas i had my dress and my ring, and half of my mental plan in action, my wedding is only 3 weeks away! yay! 🙂
Post # 11
I’m doing it in a little less then 4 months. I started planning things before we were engaged…. not buying but just planning so you know what direction you want to go in. that way when you get that ring you can just start calling people and ordering things. i would suggest start looking at photographers and contacting them to get prices and to find out when they would be free… we changed our wedding date based on our photographer so we could have her.
long story short know everything that you are going to want so when the time comes you just have to execute the plan. oh, and let someone help you… for me its my mom. the key is to keep the number of people helping you small though because when too many people get involved it turns into a mess.
Good luck! You can do it!
Post # 12
I planned my July wedding in the month of March. My gf use to be a wedding planner so she gave me a check list to make sure I was on the right path
Venue-As other Bees indicated, start looking for the venue now. Since we are having an intimate wedding and we decided to get married on a Thursday, the World was mine.
Officiant- Since I live near the Beach, there were a ton of options. Fiance and I met w/ our officiant and had everything planned in an hour. Added bonus, I can pay via Paypal.
Photographer- I combed the boards here, projectwedding.com, and weddingwire.com. Plus I Googled and Yelped. I was able to find an up and coming photographer who had a great portifolio. Plus we immediately clicked @ our first meeting.
Wedding Dress- I purchased a sample from yourdreamdress.com and I will begin alterations this week. I found the website on preownedweddingdress.com which has a ton of boutiques and individuals that sell sample dresses.
Reception- Having a wedding dinner instead of a ceremony. I had a bevy of options.
Florist and Cupcakes- Just searched for small female owned businesses. I found my cupcake designer and she had a link to my Florist.
Announcements and Invitations- Since its an intimate wedding, I called ppl instead of sending STD. I was able to order my invitations through a friend @ a discount. I only ordered 50 invitations but only 25 reception cards since my Mom wants to send invitations to friend who are not invited due to budget reasons.(My Mom is old school and wanted invitations instead of announements.)
So yes, its possible. Just work on booking your venue and vendors and purchase a dress off the rack.
Post # 13
Yea, the photographer is what I’m most worried about. I can’t book until I’m engaged and we set an actual date. The photographer I want is probably very sought after… so I’m scared about that. I suppose I can change the date based on what he can do, but afraid to go into December because of weather limitations…. concerned about people not being able to make it.
Thanks everyone, as soon as I’m engaged that photographer is getting a call. I did send an email already asking about October/November, so hopefully he doesn’t say, already full!!!
Venue I’m not AS worried about, even if that is the usual concern. We have tons of churches here and reception could be just about anywhere. I’m not picky about that!
Post # 14
@Elleymae: You may or may not like this idea; but photographers who are looking to expand their portfolios will often do wedding photography for free. Craigslist is how I got a free photographer.
Post # 15
@Elleymae: Sent you a PM.
Post # 16
We got engaged the last week of March and are getting married on a Saturday night in early September. We are having our ceremony at an amazing place, and our reception will be catered by a phenominal caterer . . . it took alot of calling around, but there were places available due to cancellations or were never booked. We’ve met with florists and musicians, but havent booked any yet . . . and we are still searching for a photographer with a style we like. It definately takes time, as we are also not planning on having a wedding planner and dont want to comprimise on our vision for an elegant affair. As far as my dress . . . I waited about 6 weeks before shopping for one to give myself a chance to lose some weight before committing to a dress. I found one right away (the woman who helped me at the salon was a great listener) and ordered it that day. I have to say, the dress was probably the hardest part about a short engagement. When you go to a bridal salon, you will see them freak out when you say you only 4-6 months to order the dress, but there are designers they can get in in time. you will be great!