(Closed) Anyone planning a wedding different from what they pictured?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Are you planning/have had the wedding you always dreamed of?


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  • Post # 32
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I never in a million years imagined that I would get married in my hometown. When I lived in Boston, I thought I’d get married in Boston, and now that we live in California, I thought we could pull off a California wedding. But his extended family is much better off than mine, and I would have had barely any relatives in attendance had we planned a wedding in CA, while most of his relatives are happy to have an excuse to visit New England. So, a New Hampshire wedding it is.

    Also we are having a backyard wedding, which I never imagined for a variety of reasons…but it is going to be a classy affair, not a barbecue or anything, so the actual details won’t look much different than I had envisioned. If anything we have more freedom since I won’t have to work around venue decor.


    Post # 33
    57 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    During the first year my now husband and I dated, we went to visit his father in Puerto Rico twice.  His dad works for a hotel chain there and they have GORGEOUS wedding spaces.  I always envisioned we would get married there.  But, when we finally got engaged, and started to look at pricing, we realized it was a little unrealistic.  We ended up getting married (last weekend!!) at a vineyard in central virginia, it was the complete opposite of a beach wedding but completely gorgeous and I don’t regret it in the least!

    Post # 34
    8700 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I always imagined a HUGE 200 person wedding in an elegant ballroom!

    We had 42 people for a luncheon in the banquet room above a restaurant!

    Post # 35
    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    oh gosh! I think about this every time I sit down with my big binder with all my notes and planner!

    I have my childhood dream… but it was very important to FH that we not use it because it was like identical to his first wedding… creepy… i was there and he seemed so old. never imagined I would marry him.  dumb girl-hope she is happy with her new man.

    buuuuut that rant aside.  still no.  wheneverFH and I talked about our wedding, we always talked fall.  we wanted sprays of fall leaves and we only have little boys (multiple twins in my family) so we were going to have them going down the aisle dropping leaves in our church where we met.  leave on the four wheeler.  no poofy dress.

    however the proposal was spur of the moment and ring shopping online and our minister wanted us to wait 6 months so that the church community couldnt speculate on our rushing a wedding (he is trying to get liscensed and eventually work in prisons so reputation is critical right now) but we dont care! we are so excited to be married it doesnt matter!

    so we are having a january wedding with all the rustic elements of the original plan but with a more wintery color scheme.  champagne, mocha, blush, and clover are the colors.  still leaving on the wheeler.  I have been gifted a very formal dress so we ran with it.  Formal, late evening reception.  yep.  its different.

    Post # 36
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I wanted to elope. I planned a wedding for 225 people. 

    Yes i would say that it was a little off from what i would have liked….

    In the end everyone else enjoyed it. I kept my smile on for the day and i’m just happy its over with and i get the rest of my life with my hubby. 

    Post # 37
    335 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Oh boy… where to begin. When we got engaged I was all set to have an outdoor, early Fall wedding. Wear a simple chiffon dress. And under NO circumstances would we get married on a golf course.

    Guess what we ended up with? A Winter wedding, on a golf course! As soon as I saw the venue my mind was changed completely. Then I fell in love with a princess ballgown and the rest is history. My wedding is going to be nothing like what I had originally set out for, but I wouldn’t change it for the world!

    Post # 38
    5317 posts
    Bee Keeper

    To be honest I only had the vaguest sense of what my wedding would look like. It basically amounted to wearing a white ballgown of some kind, and facing a guy in a tux with an indecipherable face.

    I knew someone who eloped to a small rustic irish chapel when I was a kid, and after that I vaguely thought I might like a rustic chapel too (I was atheist but never considered that weddings might happen outside of churches). Well, of course they do, and FI’s atheist too. There’ll be no chapel. But it wasn’t like I was all gung-ho about this thought in the first place.

    I was so unspecific in my expectations (other than yes, I thought I would get married someday), I guess I can’t answer whether it’s different or not. It’s actually real, and detailed, and my groom has a face 🙂 but I did kinda anticipate that…

    Post # 39
    408 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Yes! I always wanted to elope or have a SUPER small wedding (10 people max) with a boho-type theme in the Colorado mountains (I used to live there) in the spring, now I’m planning an extremely upscale hotel wedding for 100+ people in the winter in Boston (FI’s idea, I’m fine with whatever he wants really haha!). I’d still love to do a mountain wedding-type photoshoot with just my Fiance and I sometime in the future though, I’m thinking for our 1 year anniversary! 


    Post # 40
    725 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Yup, i have always wanted a country house wedding with a gothic theme, i had originally started planning a lovely gothic wedding it was all black, red and white with candleabras and skulls in a lovely country house, i was going to be wearing a red dress with a black veil and it was just going to be so classy and everything i ever wanted….

    Well i planned my wedding and realised how boring it was!! and it just wasn’t me and my Fiance  at all,so i changed the theme (to superheros) the venue, i even changed my dress (mainly because i fell in love with an ivory dress) and i made the right choice i am so excited for my new wedding.

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