Post # 32
Oh Ladies! I am right there with you all… flying solo is SO HARD! My fiance is 15 hours away by car…so is Future Mother-In-Law… My mother is all the way across the country… about 5 days drive 🙁 All of my Bridesmaid or Best Man live in other states across the country… I don’t have any friends here to help with planning… Talk about frustrating. BUT I am learning that there is a silver lining= TOTAL CONTROL! HAHAHA There is something to be said about not having people constantly in your ear trying to sway your decisions… It always can be worse ladies…
Maybe some of the girls on here that are in the same area could get together to help eachother out? Just a thought 🙂
Post # 32
Hoping to find some encouragement. I’m in the same boat as most of you. My mom had died when I was 11, and I have recently stopped talking to that side of my family. It was pretty toxic and they weren’t very nice to my dad (I’m not at all a Miley Cyrus fan, but “Butterfly Fly Away” is the story of me and my dad). So now I’m all alone. My fiance has been helpful, but he’s very cautious about money and gets moody. I’m by no means a high maintenance girl, so I’m not planning an over the top extravaganza (like his cousins) but I don’t have any clue what I am doing. His mom has offered to help, but she is always so busy. And my bridesmaids don’t live around here. We’ve mainly been corresponding through texts. I haven’t even gone dress shopping yet, because it reminds me of how much I miss my mom.
Post # 33
I feel bad that you aren’t excited to plan your wedding. I feel like this should be a happy time for you. Try to parlay your creativity into projects that you will enjoy doing first and foremost so it will help you Get the ball rolling.
I feel like you should talk to your fiancé about how you’re feeling regarding the wedding planning and really tell him how much it would matter to you if he was to offer his help in planning things that he actually enjoys doing as well. Maybe make a small list of specific things you need your fiancé to do and then divide them up into tasks so once every week he gets something done which will help you. I would also do the same for your own tasks. Make a list of things you need to get done and plan accordingly. Get a calendar and write down the one thing you need to accomplish every week until your wedding comes around.
Sometimes you have to realize, this is your wedding and other people aren’t going to be as interested in it as you are or should be. Take that with a grain of salt and also look at the bright side… You don’t have to deal with a whole bunch of other peoples opinions on things and you can do whatever you feel best represents you and your fiancé.
As for the car situation, I bet that is quite a hurdle to deal with. Is there anybody that might be able to loan you a vehicle so you can get out there and shop for your dress? Public transportation is also an option, as you probably wouldn’t be carrying anything around except for your purse while you go to try dresses on. I’m not sure where you live, but it’s definitely something that should be possible To accomplisH.
The long list of things to do for a wedding can overwhelm anybody, but like I said, planning and breaking down the items into tasks is the best way to go forward with it. That way it will seem a lot more manageable to you. Most likely, you will just need a car to pick up your dress and transport it from the store to your home when it arrives.
Good luck, bee! Stay strong and start looking at inspiring images or videos that will help spark that motivation within you. Start with things that innately excite you. For me, that’s usually my make up, my dress, the way I’m going to style my hair and nails… Look for cake designs that you can decide on and fun decorative items you can use to customize your own wedding.
Post # 34
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Edit because I can’t read. Never mind.
Post # 35
I’m in the same boat too… planning a wedding by myself (of course with a lil help from the fiance but we all know there’s only so much a man knows about wedding planning!). My immediate family and best friends live in a different country so it is difficult to get them involved. I do sometimes wish my mom was closer so she could be more involved as that would’ve made her really happy. I am the first to get married and she is excited about this.
I try to get my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man involved by sending them pictures of wedding ideas/inspirations and asking them for opinions. They have offered some help but for now I am quite comfortable planning it myself. I dont want to burden them with too many things especially since my Maid/Matron of Honor is also planning her wedding which is 5 months after mine. I may have to reach out to them soon though when the wedding gets closer! I am getting quite nervous and dreading the inevitable stress I might have to go through. Forgot to add I am having a destination wedding (live in the UK, wedding in New Zealand). The logistics and time difference is quite a pain in the a**.
I think there are pros and cons of planning a wedding by yourself. I am a control freak and quite opinionated so doing it myself, I get to avoid many conflicts. Anyway, good luck to all the Bees planning by themselves. 🙂