(Closed) Anyone planning on not having the same E-ring all their life?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

For me it’s a definite forever ring. I want my same ring just like a want the same man.

But I see the allure for bees who don’t know what they really want or change their style tastes all the time. but I’m pretty classic in my tastes and don’t see myself changing what I think is beautiful now.  

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Interesting! I’m all for being flexible and letting yourself change over time. Why not? I’ll probably keep my e-ring forever, but I would like to stop wearing it someday and just wear my simple gold wedding band by itself. I would do it now, but my husband would be very sad about that…

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I want a forever stone and hopefully a forever ring. I cant tell the future, but if and when I get my ring, I want it to be the ring I have through all my life. Who knows, I may replace the setting… but I’d love to love my ring forever you know 😀

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I understand ‘cheaper ring now and improve later’. 

I don’t imunderstand repeated upgrades – expensive or cheap. It’s a bit odd to me as it puts a focus on being up to date/more blingy etc over the engagement. At that point it’s not an engagement ring really more ‘piece of bling’. 

im not bashing bees who do it, but I find it peculiar. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

My Fiance chose the absolute perfect setting. 2 years on the Bee and I still haven’t seen a setting that I would prefer and that’s more ‘us’. I love the fact that he didn’t even think twice when he saw that setting – he knew right away that it was the one, even if it’s non-traditional. So no, I want this setting forever.

I do love big rocks though, but I could never wear one in my area or at work – I’d say the average in my circle is around 0.3ct, even for wealthy women. So one day I’ll buy myself a 3ct Amora/Moissanite solitaire just for fun to admire at home 😉

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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dalia88:  Nope. Mine is forever just like my promise to him. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Hazelton Manor - Vaughan Ontario

My ring is expensive but I definitely plan on changing the setting of my engagement ring and the stone. I’m sure my style taste will change over the years. I talked to my Fiance about it and he has no problem with that.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

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dalia88:  I can see her point on getting a cheaper ring if that’s what they can afford at the time. Though personally I wouldnt want silver if she thinks she will just upgrade it to something else in a couple of years. I would want it to be durable and so i keep it as a forever ring. But it depends on how sentimental she is. 

However, I’m very sentimental about my ring. If I ever ‘upgrade’ I would never get rid of my original ring, I will always want to keep it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2002

If I still had my original engagement ring I would never get rid of it (unfortunately it was stolen), but would it be the ring that I still wear everyday…I think not.  I still have the ring that was made which was suppose to be exactly the same after my ering was stolen but for me it lost the sentimentality that the original had.  I still have my original wedding rings and will never get rid of them.

My tastes have definately changed in the 15 years since I got engaged, not to mention I use to wear yellow gold and I now wear white.  And besides my husband always intended to give me the big rock I aways wanted and couldn’t afford when we first got engaged.  The way I look at it I made a promise to the man not a piece of jewellery.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I didn’t get an ering until after we were married, so it doesn’t hold the sentimental value of a proposal. I’ve changed it quite a few times trying to find one that’s just right. I like to buy second hand rings and resell them when I’m ready for something new. I’m incredibly sentimental about other pieces of jewelry though, such as my grandmother’s wedding ring. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee

 

Some people just aren’t as sentimental about stuff.

Your friend sounds pragmatic as well as creative. She should have fun shopping for new bling throughout the years.

 

I have a forever guy and not a forever ring, fwiw. <3 I asked him to ger me an a-band stacker as my e-ring because I’ve always been partial to stacks, and we upgraded my original e-ring for another that stacked better with my w-band. We’ve not upgraded this 2nd one and I may one day but for now am happy to just get different stackers for different anniversaries. So, in a sense, I’m much like your friend in that I have different stackers, each costing less than one big e-ring would, but I can switch them out at whim.

   

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I plan on keeping my e-ring forever, but it also wasn’t cheap.  Even if Fiance had a lower budget, I would likely have found a lower cost “forever ring” (even if it was just a gold band that cost $90) and played around with RHR’s as my tastes changed.  

If I ever upgrade my e-ring in any way to a bigger diamond (in all honesty, I don’t really see this happening), I can’t imagine ever parting with my original.  I really can’t imagine not wearing it as my e-ring.

Now wedding bands on the other hand, I’d like to swap out and play with.  I’ve already ordered a very thin gold band (1mm) to stack between my band (2mm) and e-ring (1.5mm).  Mostly because the pave scratches my e-ring and I want that barrier, however I plan on owning several wedding bands :).  I want at least a few colored stone bands, maybe a rose gold, and a few others to swap out.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Not judging anyone who does change her ring, but I’ve thought about it and realized I could never do it. I’ve developed a sentimental attachment to mine. Sure, I wish we had more money so I could have gotten one of those fancy, intricate antique-like settings. But this is the ring we could afford at this point in our life and it’s the ring my Fiance worked to design just for me, so I’ll forever cherish it as a symbol of where we were and who we were when he proposed.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

My e-ring is a forever ring.

After my mother’s death, I got her e-ring and wedding band.  I have my father’s mother’s e-ring and I have my e-ring from my first marriage (I’m a widow).  

I’m considering taking mom’s and my rings and having them made into a pendant since they were both solitares.  Mawmaw’s is in a beautiful art deco setting that I’ve had resized for my ring finger on my right hand.

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