Post # 1
Today I met my recently engaged friend, she showed me her ring and it was gorgeous. It was a simple swarovski cristal in a silver setting and I seriously couldn’t tell that it’s not a diamond. She told me that her e-ring was pretty cheap and that she knows that silver is a soft material and that her ring will probably last just a few years, but that she even WANTS that. She said that she prefers paying a quite cheap price for a ring that maybe just survives a few years and then buy a new ring. Doing that, she could choose if she wants a different kind of ring in a few years and doesn’t have to stick to the same one always. Also, buying 10 of those really beautiful CZ/Swarowski rings is still cheaper than buying a big diamond one.
I actually agree with her. My ring is medium-priced, but she got a point there. I love the idea of changing my ring in a few years in case my taste in jewelry changes, without paying much. I also love that you don’t have to be super scared of losing it. To me, it really makes sense. On the other hand, I know that some people are really emotional about their e-ring and probably couldn’t imagine to ever get another one
What’s your opinion on this? Anyone here who has a (relatively) cheap engagement ring and is planning to just buy another one in a few years when it doesn’t look that great anymore?
Post # 2
For me it’s a definite forever ring. I want my same ring just like a want the same man.
But I see the allure for bees who don’t know what they really want or change their style tastes all the time. but I’m pretty classic in my tastes and don’t see myself changing what I think is beautiful now.
Post # 3
Interesting! I’m all for being flexible and letting yourself change over time. Why not? I’ll probably keep my e-ring forever, but I would like to stop wearing it someday and just wear my simple gold wedding band by itself. I would do it now, but my husband would be very sad about that…
Post # 4
I want a forever stone and hopefully a forever ring. I cant tell the future, but if and when I get my ring, I want it to be the ring I have through all my life. Who knows, I may replace the setting… but I’d love to love my ring forever you know 😀
Post # 5
I understand ‘cheaper ring now and improve later’.
I don’t imunderstand repeated upgrades – expensive or cheap. It’s a bit odd to me as it puts a focus on being up to date/more blingy etc over the engagement. At that point it’s not an engagement ring really more ‘piece of bling’.
im not bashing bees who do it, but I find it peculiar.
Post # 6
My Fiance chose the absolute perfect setting. 2 years on the Bee and I still haven’t seen a setting that I would prefer and that’s more ‘us’. I love the fact that he didn’t even think twice when he saw that setting – he knew right away that it was the one, even if it’s non-traditional. So no, I want this setting forever.
I do love big rocks though, but I could never wear one in my area or at work – I’d say the average in my circle is around 0.3ct, even for wealthy women. So one day I’ll buy myself a 3ct Amora/Moissanite solitaire just for fun to admire at home 😉
Post # 7
Nope. Mine is forever just like my promise to him.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2016 - Hazelton Manor - Vaughan Ontario
My ring is expensive but I definitely plan on changing the setting of my engagement ring and the stone. I’m sure my style taste will change over the years. I talked to my Fiance about it and he has no problem with that.
Post # 9
I can see her point on getting a cheaper ring if that’s what they can afford at the time. Though personally I wouldnt want silver if she thinks she will just upgrade it to something else in a couple of years. I would want it to be durable and so i keep it as a forever ring. But it depends on how sentimental she is.
However, I’m very sentimental about my ring. If I ever ‘upgrade’ I would never get rid of my original ring, I will always want to keep it.
Post # 10
If I still had my original engagement ring I would never get rid of it (unfortunately it was stolen), but would it be the ring that I still wear everyday…I think not. I still have the ring that was made which was suppose to be exactly the same after my ering was stolen but for me it lost the sentimentality that the original had. I still have my original wedding rings and will never get rid of them.
My tastes have definately changed in the 15 years since I got engaged, not to mention I use to wear yellow gold and I now wear white. And besides my husband always intended to give me the big rock I aways wanted and couldn’t afford when we first got engaged. The way I look at it I made a promise to the man not a piece of jewellery.
Post # 11
I didn’t get an ering until after we were married, so it doesn’t hold the sentimental value of a proposal. I’ve changed it quite a few times trying to find one that’s just right. I like to buy second hand rings and resell them when I’m ready for something new. I’m incredibly sentimental about other pieces of jewelry though, such as my grandmother’s wedding ring.
Post # 12
Some people just aren’t as sentimental about stuff.
Your friend sounds pragmatic as well as creative. She should have fun shopping for new bling throughout the years.
I have a forever guy and not a forever ring, fwiw. <3 I asked him to ger me an a-band stacker as my e-ring because I’ve always been partial to stacks, and we upgraded my original e-ring for another that stacked better with my w-band. We’ve not upgraded this 2nd one and I may one day but for now am happy to just get different stackers for different anniversaries. So, in a sense, I’m much like your friend in that I have different stackers, each costing less than one big e-ring would, but I can switch them out at whim.
Post # 13
I plan on keeping my e-ring forever, but it also wasn’t cheap. Even if Fiance had a lower budget, I would likely have found a lower cost “forever ring” (even if it was just a gold band that cost $90) and played around with RHR’s as my tastes changed.
If I ever upgrade my e-ring in any way to a bigger diamond (in all honesty, I don’t really see this happening), I can’t imagine ever parting with my original. I really can’t imagine not wearing it as my e-ring.
Now wedding bands on the other hand, I’d like to swap out and play with. I’ve already ordered a very thin gold band (1mm) to stack between my band (2mm) and e-ring (1.5mm). Mostly because the pave scratches my e-ring and I want that barrier, however I plan on owning several wedding bands :). I want at least a few colored stone bands, maybe a rose gold, and a few others to swap out.
Post # 14
Not judging anyone who does change her ring, but I’ve thought about it and realized I could never do it. I’ve developed a sentimental attachment to mine. Sure, I wish we had more money so I could have gotten one of those fancy, intricate antique-like settings. But this is the ring we could afford at this point in our life and it’s the ring my Fiance worked to design just for me, so I’ll forever cherish it as a symbol of where we were and who we were when he proposed.
Post # 15
My e-ring is a forever ring.
After my mother’s death, I got her e-ring and wedding band. I have my father’s mother’s e-ring and I have my e-ring from my first marriage (I’m a widow).
I’m considering taking mom’s and my rings and having them made into a pendant since they were both solitares. Mawmaw’s is in a beautiful art deco setting that I’ve had resized for my ring finger on my right hand.