(Closed) Anyone received ridiculous attacks on their choices of food, venue, music????

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 79
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106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@EMCasey:  LOL yup. As you can guess it was mosting from the now in-laws side. My mom was easy to handle. I had to keep reminding myself that Mother-In-Law means well and it’s her only and oldest son getting married. It didn’t help much of course. Had to just keep reminding myself that. I learned a long time ago it’s never going to be just about the bride and groom, which is pretty sad in my opinion. Rest assure that, I was very vocal about how much I hated wedding planning and how ridiculously expensive it is, etc etc. I was always stressed out bc of wedding planning, but on the day of….OH MY GOD! LOVED everything. Everything turned out perfect (not exactly, I can name a few mishaps, but not going to let that ruin my day). So it will be worth it if you you really make it worth it. I was running on 2 hours of sleep for an 19 hour day on the wedding of. Didn’t matter. Wouldn’t change anything. Enjoy the day of and just grind your teeth through the rest. =)

And yes, super expensive. It’s crazy. I need to change fields. AHAHAHAHAH. GOOD LUCK DEAR!

Post # 80
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@EMCasey:  Honey, no one is going to complain to your face (hopefully) but it is awfully rude to not give people in serious relationships a plus one. Regardless, that is your choice, and hopefully as you get declines you’ll be able to fix this. However, do not blame this on money or space issues. When planning the wedding you should’ve factored stuff like this in from the beginning. You could’e cut the guest list, picked somewhere bigger or more affordable – but you didn’t. You chose to pick a place where you won’t be able to invite everyone you should. I know it’s frustrating, believe me – I’d like to avoid it to, but will most likely end up giving everyone plus ones to keep the peace, but when hosting an event it’s important to keep in mind being courteous. 

Post # 81
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@This Time Round:  Can you change your pic to an image that just says “ettitquete snob”? That way you don’t have to preface it before every comment? Lol. I think that’d be funny. Also, I notice you have a lot to say about ettiquette but you pretty much always tell brides they can practically do what they want. That really isn’t true ettiquete. Brides should keep their guests in mind and be gracious hosts. 

Post # 82
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1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I do think that when you invite guests to a wedding you should be considerate and keep them in mind. It looks to me like you’ve done that. You are offering a whole bunch of food options, seriously what is the problem? Wedding on a sunday in New York? I’m from New York and I have to say it is VERY common to see sunday weddings. It’s not even like your having it on monday or something! Even if you were, what is the worst outcome? People decline because they can’t go. You are inviting them, they know what they are going to, if they don’t like it they have every right to decline. I have seen a whole bunch of stuff on here about couples being inconsiderate to guests and this is not at all one of those.

Post # 85
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@EMCasey:  I live in NYC honey. I’m aware. And believe me, I would prefer to avoid giving plus ones too. But when you’re friends are in serious relationships it is the proper and polite thing to do. I would encourage you to look at your guest list/budget and think of any changes you can make to at least accomodate those who are in committed relationships. Best of luck!

Post # 86
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@TGold:  I love Jay Astafa – I still dream of his vegan caprese skewers I had at an event catered by him 🙂

Post # 89
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1268 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

That is one of the many reasons my husband and I eloped! Didn’t want to have to deal with other peoples ideas/opinions. Can’t make everyone happy, and my family relations are very strained, and I just didn’t want to involve them. Our day turned out great without them!

If we had gone the traditional route, I think I would had told people very little. I commend you for having a vegetarian wedding. No need to alter your belief system to make other people happy. Plus, vegetarian food is typically delicious! Those people you shared details with need to suck it up and put on a happy face. 

Post # 90
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s horrible that while planning one of the most important days of our lives we have to face people like that. I’m sorry to hear it is your Mother-In-Law… (I hear it from my MOTHER…) But as some other bees have said, she has lost the right to know the details!

By The Way, your menu sounds fantastic!!!

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