(Closed) Anyone received ridiculous attacks on their choices of food, venue, music????

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 93
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@EMCasey:  Deep breathes. I am not personally attacking you at all. And I know how hard it is to make these decisions. I empathize with you completely, and I’ve tried to provide advice in a constructive way. The reason you are so sensitive to this, is that you know this isn’t the best move to make. It sounds like a very small group of people that will be affected by your policy (which is good – I thought it was more), but I’m just pointing out that you should take those 6 people into consideration. Perhaps if you know a family won’t be coming you’ll be able to include those 6 people. That’s all. There is a huge difference between a ridiculous attack and merely pointing out that you are kinda sorta breaking an ettiquette rule.

Post # 95
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@EMCasey:  I am honestly sorry I have offended you. Please show me where I have been a bully? Or nasty/snarky? I would hate for you (or anyone else) to think that. I try to give advice that is constructive and truthful.

Here are my earlier responses to you, I don’t see how they are snarky in the slightest:

1. What about people in serious relationships? I know this thread is about ridiculous attacks (lol) but I do think you should rethink this. Not inviting SO’s is not very nice (or proper). If someone is in a relationship, and you know the bf/gf you should extend an invite to them as well. It is pricey, but it’s the right thing to do.

2. Honey, no one is going to complain to your face (hopefully) but it is awfully rude to not give people in serious relationships a plus one. Regardless, that is your choice, and hopefully as you get declines you’ll be able to fix this. However, do not blame this on money or space issues. When planning the wedding you should’ve factored stuff like this in from the beginning. You could’e cut the guest list, picked somewhere bigger or more affordable – but you didn’t. You chose to pick a place where you won’t be able to invite everyone you should. I know it’s frustrating, believe me – I’d like to avoid it to, but will most likely end up giving everyone plus ones to keep the peace, but when hosting an event it’s important to keep in mind being courteous. 

3. (This was in response to you saying I don’t know NY venues….) I live in NYC honey. I’m aware. And believe me, I would prefer to avoid giving plus ones too. But when you’re friends are in serious relationships it is the proper and polite thing to do. I would encourage you to look at your guest list/budget and think of any changes you can make to at least accomodate those who are in committed relationships. Best of luck!

 
I don’t appreciate being called a bully when my response above show that is not the case. I’m just trying to show you a different side. But I see you don’t want advice. I wish you the best of luck and again apologize if you think I was ever being mean.

Post # 96
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13563 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Hey all! This thread’s not headed in a good direction so we’re going to go ahead and close it now. Thanks!

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