Post # 1
My Fiance and I have both always thought we wouldn’t see each other until I walked down the aisle. However, our ceremony is at 6:30-7 then cocktail hour is from 7-8 then the reception starts at 8.
If we don’t see each other before the ceremony we have to squeeze all our “together” photos in during cocktail hour. I’m sad because I think our cocktail hour is going to be pretty amazing and I want to enjoy that extra hour with our guests.
My question is, for those bees that waited until they walked down the aisle to see each other, do you wish you had just done a first look so you wouldn’t have to cram pictures in? Also do you wish you saw each other first so you wouldn’t be so nervous?
I think we both want to wait but we’re torn about missing the cocktail hour.
Post # 3
We did a first look and I dont regret it one bit. It was one of my favorite moments of the day and it didnt take away from our ceremony one bit. I suggest you do it so you can enjoy your guests through out the evening
Post # 4
i didnt do a first look – and i dont regret it but i also didnt plan on attending my cocktail hour, (we did pics and then had a sitting/waiting room with all the food that they were eating during the cocktail hour and drinks) but that was the plan anyway – we wanted to be introduced when everyone was seated in the reception area.
i did however get to talk to my husband before the ceremony – we got a cute picture of me hididng behind the dressing room door and him on the otherside. i kept yelling at him to not look in the lense haha i know he could see my reflection.
Post # 5
I didn’t do a first look and I don’t regret it at all! The look on his face when he saw me walking down the aisle is something I’ll never forget and everyone I love got to witness it as well. I’m sure whatever you decide will be special no matter what though!
Post # 6
We didn’t do a first look either and we both don’t regret it. We did pictures with everyone but each other and our families before the wedding, so it take nearly as long after with just us and our families and the entire wedding party!!
Post # 7
We’re not married yet, but we don’t plan on doing a first look. I think it’s worth it that things will be a bit more rushed. I’ve dreamt about that moment for a long time; the moment where I’m arm in arm with my parents and I see my Future hubby waiting for me at the other end of the aisle. I picture the look on his face A LOT. I know that lots of people say that a first look doesn’t ruin that moment, but it’s just not for us. I know we won’t regret it. Good luck with your decision!
Post # 8
@penguini: I was in similar situation with the same time frame for our ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception (albeit one hour earlier than yours). Fiance and I had been set on not seeing each other before the ceremony and wanted that special walk down the aisle; however, we started getting a bit worried about cramming all the photos into an hour and wanted the cocktail hour time to mingle with our guests, so we looked into a first look.
Once we started looking into a first look and seeing other people’s photos (search First Look in the WB search bar and you’ll find lots and lots of info), we were sold. There are so many great ideas out there of how to set up the first look so it’s a special intimate moment between just the two of you (and your photog!) It also has the added benefit of being able to truly take the moment in, hug and smooch each other, and share a few sweet words, without anyone else around. FI and I are now totally converted as we love the idea of having that private time together before the chaos of the wedding! Not to mention, we get all the photos out of the way so we can just enjoy ourselves and mingle with our guests.
It’s definitely something to look into – if you search WB, you’ll find lots and lots of bees who have done it and come away with absolutely amazing pictures. And it’s a pretty unanimous opinion that it does not diminish that feeling when you start to walk down the aisle…. just something to think about!
Post # 9
Thank you all for responding! I think we most likely will not see each other before but I am still a little bit torn. All your responses were incredibly helpful though!
I’d love to hear more brides perpectives on this as well.
Post # 10
We didnt do one and I dont regret it at all. I loved the anticipation of the ceremony. I didnt feel rushed either. We took some bridal party photos beforehand and me with his mom and sisters and him with my brothers and the photos after the ceremony with everyone went by quickly. I felt like we had enough time for just the two of us.
Post # 11
We didn’t do a first look and definitely don’t regret it. We LOVED that moment of me walking down the aisle and both of us seeing each other all dressed up and smiling. Wouldn’t trade that moment for anything!!! We were able to do pics afterwards with enough time to make it to the reception on time. (During the one hour cocktail hour after the ceremony) It worked out great!
Post # 12
I have the same exact timing as you. Ceremony @ 6 30, CH @ 7 and then reception @ 8. My fiance and I will not be seeing each other before the ceremony. We already live together so we want to keep some tradition and def some excitement. I think doing the first look works for some couples but I feel that nothing can compare to your future husband seeing you walk down the isle for the first time.
Post # 13
I went back and forth on this topic so much. Darling Husband and I both wanted to have that feeling of seeing eachother coming down the aisle, but our ceremony was at 6pm too and if pictures took too long I didn’t want my guests waiting until 9pm for dinner. I ended up posting here asking if anyone regreted doing their first look. I wanted to know if anyone had thought it was a bad idea after having done it, or if it changed the feeling for them at all.
This thread made us decide to do a first look and even typing this I remember how that moment felt. It was unlike no other moment that day. (Honestly I have goose bumps and my eyes are welling up and it was 4 months ago lol) It didn’t change the walk down the aisle. That walk isn’t about seeing eachother, it’s about the slow anticipation of what the end of the walk brings. Darling Husband was still crying when I got to him. 🙂
Post # 14
this is exactly our situation too! so this is what we are doing
photographer will photograph our first look at 5pm
groom/bride shots 5-6
group shots 6-630
family shots 630-7
cake cutting 9
first dance/daddy daughter dance 9:30