- 3 years ago
- Wedding: restaurant
My fiance and I only have around $4k for our entire wedding, and we live in Maryland so it’s been really hard to find wedding venues that won’t eat up that entire budget. I keep finding pretty places that are $2k or so to book, but then it has a $10k food minimum and that’s OUTRAGEOUS! Personally, I think the reception is a glorified party, and $4k should be doable, but the wedding industry says differently.
What we were thinking: September 17, 2016 is our wedding date, and we would like to rent a house in OBX from a Thursday- Sunday or Monday so that we can go a little early and set up. Our bridal party would stay in the house with us, everyone else would either have to rent a separate house or get a hotel. And then we would have the ceremony at the house (preferably on a large back deck because I don’t want people on the beach to be in the background of the pics or disturbing the ceremony). We would give everyone at least 1.5 years notice to save up. We wouldn’t have a formal sit-down dinner, just basic hors d’oeurves and then a dessert bar and lots of drinks. The actual wedding itself would probably be standing (still open to suggestions) and we would try to keep it to 15 minutes. We would string lights throughout and have some candles, and a few chairs for elderly people but overall we want the ocean to be the backdrop and we just want people dancing.
-Would Sept. 17th be considered “off season”?
-Are there local hotels near Duck, NC that guests can stay in?
-Is it totally rude for me to bring a note to the neighbor’s houses and ask them to be quiet for the 30 minutes during the ceremony? (I have nightmares of wild screaming parties going on next door and drunken college kids overpowering our vows)
-Can we still expect guests to bring presents since we are giving them plenty of heads up to save, and the drive is only about 5.5 hours away? (most people wouldn’t have to fly)
-Is it wrong to go ahead and book the house before I have my bridal party set, and then ask them to help pay for the house? We figure that its cheaper than renting a hotel room, and I don’t want to pick a bridal party yet because I’m in my mid 20s and my close friends change often.
-I want my friend to be my photographer, but I’m not sure I can afford to put her up in a hotel while we’re there, and I don’t want her to have the eat the cost herself. She doesn’t HAVE to be my photographer, I just really would want to make sure I found a good one because the pictures are the most important part for me.
-What would you do if it rains- Have the wedding inside? Or are there tent people that can build a tent to fit the shape of the deck you’re on?
I would LOVE any advice on this!!