Post # 1
Has anyone else ruined their proposal?
I don’t talk about my “proposal” very often because , to be frank, it’s a very sad and embarrassing story.
But in light of my own sadness I thought I would share the slightly funny and incredibly embarrassing story of my engagement.
March 2012- My boyfriend and I had been together a little over a year and I knew he was the one. Most nights he would come to the parking lot of my job and we would have lunch together in my car.
For a week or so he started to be very quiet, kind of short with me and wasn’t coming to have lunch with me. Forgive me but I was freaking out! I couldn’t help but think he was planning on breaking up with me! I gave it a few days and I just kept feeling worse. I came home one night and asked him what our plans for the weekend were and his answer was “umm, let’s not make any plans. Just play it by ear” and walked away.
I was so sure he was leaving and I was terrified!
So I begged him to come have lunch with me and he agreed. When he got in my car I immediately started to cry. He was so confused and asked what was wrong. Somehow through my tears I managed to say “Are you leaving me? You have been so quiet lately. I love you so much and I want to marry you. I want to spend my life with you. What did I do wrong?”
He laughed and just said “Meggan, I need you to hold your crazy in until Friday.” and I just kept crying. After 30 minutes of tears he finally reached in his wallet and pulled out a receipt for a jeweler here in town and he sighed. “I was going to propose this weekend but the ring is still at the jewelers. I’m sorry I made you so sad, will you marry me?”
I felt SO stupid. And I started to laugh uncomfortably. Of course I said yes but I really wish I wouldn’t have ruined the surprise!
Has this happened to anyone else? Or am I the only Bee to jump the gun haha
Post # 2
awww! poor you, that’s funny and sad at the same time. I think I would do something similar! 😛 and ruin my own proposal. I always ask him where we are going and why whenever we go out. I just need to let him do his thing 🙂 At least you’re married now! 🙂
Post # 3
mbee7: seriously! I’m such a freak. I spent 7 years with my ex right before him and I was so paranoid. I left my ex because he didn’t treat me well and I know my now DH was the one. Sometimes when peopl ask us we just make some crazy proposal story up off the top of our heads just for the fun of it.
Post # 4
I just posted this: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/he-proposed-very-lowkey-putting-it-lightly-anyone-else/#axzz3CGixSqwE
I definitely ruined my proposal so to speak but at the end of the day we are engaged and everyone I’ve told the story to thinks its sweet.
Post # 5
mggBoyles: I guess I’m a little confused as to why him buying a ring meant that he had to start acting differently and stop eating lunch with you. I know that’s not the point of the post, but it bothers me. I feel like he brought “your crazy” on himself lol
Post # 6
IzzyBear: lol he definitely brought it on himself but the poor guy was probably A. nervous and B. trying not to give anything away.
Post # 7
I didn’t ruin my proposal, per se, but I feel like an idiot looking back because I had my one and only waiting meltdown exactly 1 week before he proposed, so I get it.
He was already planning it, but pretended he hadn’t even looked at rings yet to throw me off. He managed to calm me down without blurting out the news…
Post # 8
IzzyBear: the truth is we are horrible at keeping secrets from each other and he didn’t want to give it away.
In fact I just called him out on acting to giddy about something and it turns out he just bought me a Timeturner necklace (Harry Potter memorabilia, I used to own one and it was stolen out of my car)
He wasn’t being rude, just distant. i totally get it now that it’s happened lol
Post # 9
i wouldn’t say i ruined it. but I knew the proposal date 2 weeks before the actualy proposal. DH was tired of me keep asking him when.
We agreed we were getting married and when, but he wanted to “propose” before we officially planned anything. I told him I wouldn’t book vendors until I had a ring. Turns out, I still had to wait another 3 weeks for the ring. The week before he asked if I was ok with a proposal without a ring of which I was completely ok.
Post # 9
ezasabc123: exactly! He’s horrible with secrets.
LadyBear: lol I wish I would have kept my cool for another 5 days! Love makes you do crazy things ha
Post # 11
mggBoyles: gotcha. It cracks me up when people act all funny about things because they’re afraid to give away something. It’s like, dude if you just acted normal I wouldn’t have noticed anything. Haha.
Post # 12
I have a friend with a pretty similar story. Her then SO bought the ring and hid it in an old video game collector’s edition box (big enough to easily hide the ring box in.) She hadn’t paid attention to it for MONTHS and then ended up picking it up while cleaning with him in the room. He was freaked she was going to find it. She didn’t (kind of oblivious to the idea) but she did pick up on him being nervous/afraid. He moved the ring to another location she didn’t look in, and similar happened a week later.
They ended up having a fight because he wouldn’t tell her what was wrong, and both took the day off work to cool down. He ended up purposing that day (still his cute, original idea) and they both laughed at the reason for the fight after the purposal.
Even my DH got realy weird the night of our purposal. Plans started changing the day before and I was suspcious, and then he told me to go down to the car prior to him, which is unusual (as he was retrieving the ring) It has to be hard to have really great news for your best friend (which my DH was by the time we got engaged), and trying not to spoil the surprise. It might just be easier to withdraw a bit trying not to spoil the surprise.
Post # 13
mggBoyles: My friend was with his girlfriend on a vacation in California. He was going to propose to her on top of some great overlook with the Pacific Ocean below. On the drive up all she did was complain…why are we driving to the middle of no where…I hate this music, why do we always listen to your music. She is doing her best to pick a fight with him.
She is very lucky he was madly in love with her. Because he still proposed, LOL, and she felt sooooo bad!!
Post # 14
IzzyBear: yeah! He was and is still my bestfriend. We still suck at keeping secrets lol.
KoiKove: the funniest one I’ve heard to date is my friend was having stomach cramps the day her SO was going to propose. They had a long drive to the beach and all of her family was meeting them there for the surprise. She kept saying she didn’t want to go and he kept begging until she finally agreed. After the proposal (she said yes!) they stayed in a hotel that night and she still didn’t feel very good. Later that night she woke up and her stomach was in knots. She literally POOPED THE BED WITH HER BRAND NEW FIANCÉ IN IT! He just laughed but how’s that for the first night of being engaged lolol
Post # 15
mggBoyles: I think it’s adorable and hilarious. I love your story!