Post # 1
I’m freaking out a little after finding out that our venue will reserve a time slot and set up chairs for our rehearsal, but the catering manager does not help run the rehearsal….. Before spending $500 on a rehearsal and day-of coordinator, does any have experience with running your own rehearsal? Does the officiant come to the rehearsal and take care of that usually? (we still have yet to book an officiant) Is this something we can do on our own?? It sort of relieves me to think about having someone there to tell us when to go here and there and just keep the days running smoothly….?? Maybe the $500 is worth it….?
Post # 3
Hmmm……we got married in a church and so the priest really ran the show and it wasn’t hard at all.
At the time of your rehearsal is the venue going to be set up for your wedding as it will be the next day?
Post # 4
They just said they’d set up a few rows of chairs, so it doesn’t sound like it’ll be fully set up, no.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t recommend running your own rehearsal – but I’m sure it can be done. Do you have a friend that can do it for you? Someone with a commanding voice that can get people’s attention?
I’ve done it a few times for a couple different friends – it’s kind of like herding sheep. Everyone is excited and chatty and no one really wants to pay attention – so you need someone to both know the plan ahead of time and then help people learn where to stand, etc.
Have you hired your DOC yet? I would think they would be the most likely person to run that for you. (Or maybe that’s what the $500 is you were alluding to)
Post # 6
Hmmm… I hadn’t considered this either. I think I figured I’d be running it! I’m certain our officiant will be directing some (she’s done a ton of weddings) but I think having a group meeting and spelling out the details right before the rehearsal would be reasonable. How hard can it be? Herd people down the aisle. Yada yadas in front of the officiant and bam! Married!
Post # 7
How many do you have in your wedding party? If it’s large, I wouldn’t do it yourself. People just don’t listen and tend to goof around unless someone who looks authoritative and in charge! Officiants usually don’t like to do it either. No matter what you do, you will be seen as a bridezilla when you tell people what to do (even if you’re right!). $500 for a coordinator is money well spent for the wedding day too to handle all the problems that come up. My best friend does it for a living and she can handle the most obnoxious people ever without being a “wedding Nazi”!
Post # 8
Some officiants attend, some don’t. Running a rehearsal is no biggie so long as you’re patient and expect that no one will take it as seriously as you do. I do think a DOC is a good idea. I posted a lengthy explanation as to why I regretted not having one in a previous post that may be helpful in deciding if you want one. http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/day-of-coordinator-doc-did-you-hire-one-or-wish-you-did.
Post # 9
I definitely would not recommend it. I have been to rehearsals where the bride or her mom ran it and it was a nightmare. People do NOT like to listen at rehearsals! If you want it to be quick and painless, appoint a “point person”. It doesn’t have to be a DOC – it could be a particularly feisty aunt! Just someone to be the “bad guy” when others have their own ideas!
Post # 10
I plan to do my own rehearsal dinner as I’m a very organized person. My grandparents were florists & used to do a ton of wedding coordination.
Don’t waste the money on the rehearsal if you don’t have to. Just plan it. You can do it
I think your first step would be to determine how you want the ceremony to go. Then determine any additions – poems, songs.
Do you want anything special? – Do you want the bridesmaids & groomsmen to walk one at a time; as a couple; or want all groomsmen and all bridesmaid? The order you want them to stand up there.
Pronouncement of Marriage
Post # 11
We’ll probably have FH’s stepdad run it–he has that booming, authoritative voice, lol. We’re doing it the morning of our wedding, too (can’t get the venue the night before). Hopefully, it’ll all work out!
Post # 12
We pretty much ran our own and it was fine. My best advice is to do it backwards. We had everyone stand where they would be for the ceremony, parents in seats etc so they all knew where they would end up. Then we had them do the recessional, ending up where they would start. And then we did it in the right order, since at that point everyone was lined up and ready to go. Does this make sense? We didn’t really go through the ceremony too much, just hit the high points and figured it would all come together and it did.
Most people have been to weddings before and know what to do, so as long as they know who to walk with and where to end up, things will be fine.
Post # 13
I did mine along with the help of our officiant. I told everyone where to stand, sit, etc… and he told everyone the order, how to walk over to the table where we signed the wedding licence, etc…
We had a small wedding party too. 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 2 Groomsmen. Plus both sets of parents and our MC was there to practice playing the music on the CD player.
Post # 14
I ran my own rehearsal. I did it exactly like ladyox mentioned where you have people line up first, then do the recessional, and then the processional. After we did that once, I had everyone do it again in the correct order.
I highly recommend you build a rehearsal script ahead of time so you can make sure you cover all of the elements of the ceremony with everyone including your Fiance. I had both of my parents walk me down the aisle and then my Fiance came to meet me and escort me up to the officient. We had to practice that a couple of times to make sure he grabbed the correct arm so we would ultimately end up in the correct positions for the ceremony.
Best of luck!