Post # 1
I’ve been engaged for about 9 months, and our wedding is just under a year away. I have been looking at dresses, and dresses, and dresses, and I have now narrowed down my picks to try on.
My mom asked me the other day when I wanted to go try on dresses, and it just terrifies me! I don’t know what it is, but I just get really nervous and try to change the topic instantly.
I’m not sure if I’m just worried about not liking one, or it being too expensive, or just feeling fat in them, but something is going on.
I love looking online, but when it comes down to trying them on, it’s freaking me out. Anyone else like me or am I strange? HAHA! *It’s ok to say I’m strange. I can take it.
Post # 3
@heather5743: Don’t be scared! They are really flattering! And I had a ton of pictures of dress styles I liked, but tried on anything anyone wanted me too. You never know what you might like!
Just have fun, relax, maybe have a mimosa (or two…hee hee) before you go!
Post # 4
I’m going this weekend and I’m nervous, too! I’m really excited, but the fact that I’ve looked at hundreds of dresses online makes it really overwhelming. Plus, I’m taking a few people with me, so I’m a bit nervous about everyone critiquing me and being the center of attention in that way. I think once you go, you’ll have fun! It can just be sort of overwhelming to think about actually making a decision (at least for me!)
Post # 5
You’re not strange! I was also dreading trying on dresses. I think I was worried I’d look terrible in everything and end up feeling really bad about myself. I definately put off that task! Once I bit the bullet, however, it actually ended up being fun and I felt so pretty when I found my dress. My advice is to be open to trying on different styles. Wedding dresses are built differently than normal dresses so styles that I thought would look horrible on me actually looked really good. I never thought I’d end up with the style of dress I did, but it looks so good. I’d encourage you to go ahead and pick a date in the near future and just do it. I had no idea it took so long for wedding dresses to arrive so if I were you I’d start now so you have a little more time to work with.
Post # 6
@Mrs.tobe: HA! I might need a mimosa to calm me down! Thanks for the kind words!
@MM423: Yes, it is very overwhelming! I agree! I’m sure it’ll be fine when I get there. It’s just the getting there part that’s making me so nervous. Good luck and let me know how it goes this weekend!!
Post # 7
I too dreaded trying dresses on…still not sure why…but after that first one I was hooked! They are so flattering and beautiful on. Try on everything. OK not everything, but many different styles. What I bought wasn’t exactly what I thought would look good.
Post # 8
@cafegirl: Great advice! I think I should just go do it soon. It’s probably not helping just thinking about it all the time! That’s probably making it worse.
@mshoagie: I’ve had a lot of people tell me I might go in thinking I want “this” style and end up hating it and choosing a different one. Good advice. I need to keep my mind open to different styles.
Post # 9
I felt the same way, except a little more stressed about it since I knew I was in a time crunch (we only got engaged in the middle of February for a June wedding).
I even had a few nightmares about it. But.. once I had narroed it down to a few styles, and made my appointment… I tried not to worry about it too much.
I ended up being able to go with my mom (which I hadn’t planned on or even really wanted) on a weekday when it wasn’t so crazy. Looked at a few, tried my favorite on – bought it and went about my day.
That night I slept for the first time in a week 🙂
It’s definitely a strange thing – it’s an expensive dress you wear once, but you look at the photos and remember for a lifetime – that’s a lot of pressure.
Add in whacked bridal sizing and regular ol’ self conciousness and trying to figureo ut how to put the strapless longline bra on by yourself and it’s a little scary.
But you’ll be fine! Drink lots of water that morning, take some aleve or advil before and enjoy it 🙂
Once it’s ordered- STOP LOOKING 🙂
That’s the best advice anyone can give you!
Post # 10
With the thousands of dresses out there, you have no reason to be nervous about not finding one.
You are under no obligation to buy anything when you try on dresses. A this point, I’ve tried on at four different salons. Each time, I’ve left with the consultant’s card and 1-2 favorite dress designers/styles written on the back.
By the way, my first outing was with 3 girl friends and it was fun, but I didn’t try on dresses that I picked. Every outing since, I’ve gone alone. It’s far easier when you work one-on-one with a consultant.
Post # 11
You are so not alone! I was absolutely terrified of wedding dress shopping and refused to go for many months. I had friends bugging me and bugging me about it, and I would get so upset when they even brought it up. I always felt silly because it seems like the process should be fun and exciting, but I just felt really overwhelmed by it all and didn’t want to go.
That said, I actually had a GREAT experience. I had only two appointments at two shops, only two friends came with me, I only tried on fourteen dresses, and it was only one week from my first appointment to when I bought my dress. It was easy, pain-free, and even exciting! And don’t worry too much about not liking what you think you like now. This was one of my greatest fears, and it was totally unfounded. If you know what you like and what looks good on you, then wedding dress shopping will be EASY, and the consultants will love you! They certainly loved me, and I ended up buying the dress I’d been eyeing since getting engaged.
Good luck and enjoy the process!
Post # 12
You are not alone in being scared of dresses. I am terrified that I won’t find one that looks good on me, or I will have to settle on one that I don’t love because it looks “okay.” I am carrying around a few more pounds that I would like to and it makes it really hard to find dresses for any occasion let alone a wedding dress.
Post # 13
@thewheelsonthebus: Great advice, especially the stop looking part!! Whatever dress I end up loving the most, I definitely want to try it on another time or two before I decide to buy just to make sure it’s definitely what I want. I don’t want dress regret!!
@Jeannine @ Small Chic: Thanks! I will try to have fun! My mom is buying my dress, so she’s coming with me, and I may have my Maid/Matron of Honor there, but if I need to go by myself so I can think, I might just do that. I bet it’s a lot easier one-on-one too.
@T.R.Bride: Glad to know I’m not the only one that keeps putting it off! I’m glad you had a great experience. I hope I have one too!
@Mrs.LetsGoPens: I know what you mean about the few extra pounds. Ideally, I’d love to lose 20 pounds before the wedding. I’d like to lose some before trying on just so I’m not so focused on that. I’ve been trying hard, so hopefully it pays off soon! P90x is my friend and enemy all at the same time. LOL!
Post # 14
I feel the same way. I’ve gone once, and ended up having a great time. I’m still nervous to go again though. I think what makes me the most nervous is the possibility of finding a dress I love, but not wanting to make a decision yet. I’m afraid that if the salesperson is pushy or if it’s a really good “one time deal”, I’ll end up getting it and possibly regreting it.