(Closed) Anyone shocked by their Ex?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee

I recently found out a guy I dated in high school (and dumped because he cheated on me) is now bald and extremely overweight. Now, I’ve seen some attractive bald or chubby gents, but this ex isn’t one of them…

Funny how things turn out, isn’t it? 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I look at my most serious ex prior to my Fiance, and it sometimes actually has the reverse effect on me. I have zero doubt in my mind that my Fiance is THE man for me, but I see my exes posts on Facebook, he is expecting a baby, bought a house and recently got engaged, and I think ‘What does she have that I didn’t?’, because when he and I were together (broke up 6 years ago, he was 6 years older than me), he said he didn’t think he’d ever get married, and we got pregnant, and had an abortion.

Then I give myself a reality check, and remember that he liked his drink WAY too much, and I did NOT like who he was when he drank. And, of course, I now have the man of my dreams, who is going to be an amazing father and husband, who completely worships me as I do him! 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Definitely. My ex is incredibly smart and had all the potential in the world. He has decided to use his smarts to lie, steal and generally be a bum. Oh, and he’s a heroin addict too. Charming. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Me! Me! I’m shocked my ex would shirk his responsibilities to his only daughter for a good five years Forcing me to work two jobs and play both parental roles In the meantime.  what really shocks me is that he found a woman idiot to marry and support him !!! The world is a strange place ladies.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@twixie:  LOL!! you had me at chubby gents!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I havn’t heard anything about my ex in like three years. He is not exactly the type of person I care to think about. The word was that he knocked up two girls and wasn’t paying child support. I guess that isn’t very shocking though considering who he is.  No idea what he is up to now and I don’t care.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@fullyalive:  A good friend of mine learned her sweet, normal ex starred in adult movies. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was ‘engaged’ (I use that term loosely) to my ex with a ring he purchased with stolen drug money. We broke up when he went to jail for the third time. I’ve since completely turned my life around. Him, not so much. So yeah. He makes my Fiance look like superman, a prince, and a saint all rolled into one.

Post # 11
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Newbee

@Birdi:  what can I say, gentlemanly teddy bears are awesome! Smile

Oh, almost forgot about the one guy I never even dated who “thought we were close enough as friends to sleep together,” seeing as I’d “slept with boyfriends before.” He cried. A lot. Last I heard, he’s still single.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@twixie:  Agree!!!! I have to be smaller than my partner otherwise I think I’d feel like I had to wear the pants in the relationship LOL!!

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I was literally just on facebook and my ex popped up in a mutual friends photo and it was icky…from the day we broke up I couldn’t believe I had been with him as long as I had…at all really! I know it sounds mean, he’s not a bad person, just ZERO motivation, NO goals at all, and basically thought everyone was out to get him. He needed a psychiatric ward, not a girlfriend *shivers*. 180 degree turn to my SO though, and being with the people who were so wrong for me only has made me appreciate how wonderful he is even more. Definitely learned from my whacked out exes, eek!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Shocked by him? Not so much. Shocked by who he wound up with? Most definitely.

 Apparently only one of us believes in upgrading. And it’s sad. He wasn’t a bad guy; he could have gotten any number of girls who would have been nice to him and not alienated his friends.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Coral99:  OMG!!! I wonder if his bedroom behavior gave him away?

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

I’m actually impressed by the progress my ex has made since we broke up.  He’s much more mature and responsible for his own life and actions than when we were together, and a much more attentive father to his child.  I think when we broke up, he had to realize that I’d been doing all that stuff for him, which gave him a wakeup call.

That said, I feel ZERO attraction.  We’re good friends, but I just cannot believe we were ever together romantically (though we were, for 7+ years).  He’s got a lovely wife who I think suits him well, and I’ve got Mr. Wonderful.  I’m just so, so glad we didn’t stay together.

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