(Closed) Anyone sick of their ring?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 137
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

i still love my ring.

but i’m glad you are going to find something that makes you both happy.

Post # 138
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1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I love my ring, and when I need some extra bling, I jazz it up with stackables!

Post # 139
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know this post is older but I am glad I found it. I think it’s great. I had a say in my ring. I was so thrilled about getting engaged that I went to bluenile.com and chose the first few ideas I loved without really spending that much time on it as some people might.  She had the final say in what she got me, but along the way when I knew she was choosing, I kept changing my mind, driving her crazy. I wished I had tried stuff on at stores or looked longer, etc. The proposal was so perfect and wonderful. But the setting and prongs were not what I expected. I ended up chnaging the setting twice, but just with a thicker band and more pave stones.  She was annoyed with my obsessing over the changes but ultimately just happy I got what I wanted.

So I have a beautiful, perfect, cushion center stone ring with a pave band. Sometimes do I obsess, wishing I had a halo, or a more detailed setting, or different shape etc. I feel horrible, and I feel bad I changed anything about the ring in the first place. Then I see posts like this by the OP and I feel so much better. The point is there are soo many awesome rings out there, all so different. It is normal to second guess or envy. We cannot have them all! Especially if we had a say in the decision. I was previously married and had NO say in the ring. It was gorgeous, but not my dream ring, and I never once second guessed it because I had no control in the first place.

I love my ring so much and love her even more, as I have said before in other posts. I love what it means sooo much.  It is not about the ring and it is about the relationship. But, there is no reason to feel bad for any of the feelings mentioned in many of the posts.  

Last but not least, all rings get a whole new life to them with a band. I cannot wait for mine!!! Thanks for this post. I appreciate it a lot.

Post # 140
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@JBing: Very well said. 🙂

Post # 141
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1327 posts
Bumble bee

I love my ring, though I did pick it out. The only thing I would like to do at some point is upgrade the center diamond to a better quality one. Since it is a princess cut, quality can make quite a difference in its sparkle. But I am more then happy with how it is now and it looks even better with the wedding band.

Post # 142
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

@Genuine513:

 

That looks a lot like the ring I drooled over for months before deciding it wasn’t my style. Still love the look of it so much though!

I’m still getting used to my ring, due to a lot of back-and-forth with the jeweller, I didn’t get to wear it much after the engagement in August. For the first week, I didn’t really like it and wondered why the heck I chose it. A lot of that stemmed from the fact that the jeweller switched up the diamond so it had lost that sentimental value. We decided not to do anything about it, and after examining this diamond, have found that it doesn’t have any real flaws. It might have a couple of flecks here and there, but none that I’ve seen.

I got over the “it’s not our diamond” thing and have learned to just love what I have. Now when I wear my ring, I feel loved, special, and lucky. I probably will upgrade to a .50 ct one day, as I get older, and maybe to an asscher cut, but I will leave this particular ring alone and not mess with it. It symbolizes a lot.

Post # 143
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1996

I think getting bored is not a by-product of cost or size or love of the ring but rather a personality trait.  I like to change things up a lot!  It took me a long time to realize that I dont have a real signature style when it comes to most things:  clothes, music, jewelry, etc.  I’m super eclectic across the board.  It bothered me for a LONG time but now I’m 40 and don’t care anymore.  So I change the ring I wear on my left hand a lot.  Usually its a 5-stone, but often its a plain band, a stack with plain bands and the five stone (@Tessa:  I LOVE your stacks), a square garnet in yellow gold (that I think I’m going to have reset lower in palladium), a (new) Amora solitaire, and I have my eye on ruby and aquamarine eternity bands (my kids’ birthstones) to stack….If your guy doesn’t care that you have options, just develop a collection!

Post # 144
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Worker bee

@jholler: i know exactly how you are feeling regarding your fi making sacrifices to save up for the ring of your dreams!!

Post # 145
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

ok i figured i’d pipe in. I have a marquise cut solitaire ering. Its just what my fiance picked out. I had been hinting at the 3 stone ones but aparently he didn’t pick up on those hints and he didn’t like those. Now I do love my ring and he picked it out which means a lot because I want him to like my ring too… but i’ve always wanted the 3 stone one. Solitaire looks plain. I have a marquise cut which i think helps jazz it up a bit. Plus not a lot of people have it so I like being different…

So my solution is to get a wedding ring (like a wrap or a guard) that will fit in and put two diamonds on both sides of my Ering diamond.I just havent found one i like anywhere so i may have to get one custom. The few I found have smaller side diamonds then i wanted or don’t have any other detail other then just the 2 diamonds.

Post # 146
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hey there, I think it’s completely normal to become bored with your e-ring. It’s part of human nature! And to make it harder, there always seems to be a more gorgeous ring that comes up after you purchase yours, just like for any other purchase (better house comes on the market, new phone model comes out, etc.) Another limiting factor is our budget of course, which means that we cannot necessarily buy just any ring we desire. 

I changed my first e-ring after one year. I wanted something different that didn’t break the bank. I also didn’t want to be too bling bling because I hadn’t even thought I wanted to get married. Had to get used to the idea of a diamond. Anyway, I went with a smokey quartz cushion cut at first, which I still love. I wear it on my right hand, middle finger now, as a fashion ring. It wasn’t a good contender for an e-ring because the quartz was getting all scratched, not being as hard as a diamond. I realized the skinny band was too thin to my taste. Also, the stone kept getting loose because I wear my e-ring all the time. 

I changed to a diamond composite ring, which I even altered from the original purchase. The diamonds look amazing and the style is so romantic. The stones are secure and don’t get loose. I even ended up paying more than half the price to change it. It doesn’t matter, my money is our money. 

Try to find a style you love and just choose it as «your» ring. Lots of pretty rings out there but this one is yours! 😉

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Now:

Post # 147
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012
Post # 148
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

i keep looking at rings.

i love mine but i wonder if i will always keep looking and keep my eyes out for a future upgrade.

i know i would like platinum eventually. my anniv band is platinum but wedding band and ering are 14kWG

Post # 149
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: County courthouse

i am definatly tired of my first engagment ring. its a 1ct solitaire from helzberg diamonds that was on sale for $2000. i picked it because i knew my husband was not willing to spend more than that on a ring. now i have a very low quality diamond that i was pretty much guilt tripped into getting. its a bad quality diamond. has two visible carbon spots and has really bad color…looks slightly yellow. so now my diamond sits in its box and i wear a cz ring from helzbergs instead. its bigger (1.25 ct), sparkles more, and is a design i wanted to begin w/ (halo). i really should have stuck to my guns and picked out the real ring i wanted, but my husband made me feel like a materialistic freak for wanting to get a better quality diamond. i have even tried to sell it and cant even get back a $1000. so not worth it ladies. pick quality over quantity. now im looking into asha or moissanite.

Post # 149
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Helper bee

jholler25:  I think there is some validity to what u are saying in that yes spending $11 on a ring would make a woman feel less much less inclined to ask for a replacement. However I’m getting a moissanite and I have been looking at settings with the intent to make this my forever ring. I know my man loves me and he was planning to buy diamonds but boy does he appreciate me for choosing moissanite. Personally I don’t feel the need to have my fh prove his love my spending excessive amounts of money on me. He shows me every day that I am the love of his life and I will cherish my moissy for the rest of my life because of what it represents

Post # 150
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Bumble bee

This is why I have two rings.   I love both so I’ll wear one of them depending on my mood, but I always have one of them on my finger. One is a 1.03 ct diamond solitaire and the other is a 1.20 ct diamond solitaire.  Both are on different style bands so I like the variety.  I feel bad too knowing that I should just be a one ring person, but I’m not.  Just too many darn dream rings out there!  My husband says I am never satisfied.  LOL.

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