(Closed) Anyone sick of their ring?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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39 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I feel the same way.  I feel horrible saying this because I also feel guilty and have never spoken up because my diamond was his grandmothers so it has special meaning and I was always afraid to hurt his feelings. I dont want to sound selfish, but its small and I am always jealous when I see other e-rings.  My ring wasnt anything that I had said I wanted when we were ‘talking’ about rings.  but of course you accept the proposal and I’ve always felt horrible about never saying anything.  Recently I brought up my ring (not that I wasnt crazy about it ) but that I want to get a double wedding band and he jokes and says I can get the 2nd band for our 5 year anniversay…boo…I want it now πŸ™ does that make me selfish?

Post # 18
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1993 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am probably going to get bashed for posting this – and I’m not meaning to open up a can of worms on the whole diamond/non-diamond thing, but this posting just made me think a little….

As I read the title, I thought, “OMG!  I am SO NOT BORED with my ering!”  I am so proud of it, it is the most beautiful possession I have, and the most meaningful.  I know that the person I love more than anything in the world not only put it on my finger intending to make me his wife, but he WORKED SO HARD TO AFFORD IT!  It makes it even more meaningful to me, if that’s possible, because I am so proud of what I know he had to do to be able to give me something that he knew was exactly what I had my heart set on, and yet at the same time, more money than he had ever spent in one transaction (i.e, not financed) in his 30 years of life.

I don’t mind sharing that my ring is a GIA VS1 Jcolor 1.51 carat round stone, with excellent cut that has more fire than anything I’ve ever seen.  It’s set in a tiny cushion halo Tacori setting.  Altogether, my ring cost Fiance over $11K.  Aside from being gorgeous and from this wonderful man that I want to spend my life with, it touches my heart to know his sacrifice to be able to give me this ring.  He works offshore, and he had to work a lot of days to give me this ring.  A LOT.

I have bought non-diamond stone rings over the years, and I’m not comparing them to moissanite, but I’m just saying that if the ring is less valuable money-wise, i.e. the financial sacrifice is less, then maybe that makes it easier to see yourself with another ring on your hand?  Maybe that makes it easier to not only eye another ring, but to even swap it out?  

Don’t hate on me.  We all know there are “Diamond Bees,” and there are “Asha Bees” and there are “Moissy Bees,” it’s all your personal preference.  My personal preference, obviously, is a diamond and I cherish it’s sentimental value, and I also definitely appreciate it’s financial value, because I am honored that he wanted to put such a ring on my finger.

We are not rich by any stretch, and I am definitely not boasting…If anything I guess that’s my point….The value of the ring is so high, that I would never think of being bored with it.  FI worked his ass of for it, and maybe if he hadn’t, if the ring were less valuable, then it would be easier to part with.

This just made me think…Please don’t be snarky, I’d like to just see how others feel and hear different viewpoints.  

This is my ring…Thank you, sweet Fiance.

Post # 19
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3774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@Bittersweet1030:  Umm…no.  Not even a little bit.  You are the one with it on your finger.  You should love your ring and he should be able to understand that.  I absolutely recommend being honest and telling him you want a new engagement ring.  If you don’t you are going to end up with two wedding bands and still want a new e-ring.

Post # 20
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6392 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I still love mine, but my mom’s been through a couple sets :). Have you tried putting a jacket on yours? It could give it the appearance od being a halo without having to buy an entirely new ring. Don’t feel bad, though, you just got tired of the ring, not your Fiance :).

Post # 21
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3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

My is extremely intricate, so I guess I can’t say I’m bored with it. I noticed the other day that I wasn’t “in awe” of it anymore. It comes and goes honestly. Some days I’m like, WOW this is awesome… can’t believe it’s mine. Other days I’m like, look there’s my engagement ring… so what. I’m sure I’ll love it forever though πŸ™‚

Post # 22
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3774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@jholler25:  I think I understand what you are trying to say.  Your Fiance worked very hard to give you something that you love and you can’t imagine ever wanting something else.  I think that is fantastic and am happy you are happy.  The point I was making and I think the OP was making is that sometimes you just want something different, and that is okay too.  I admit fully that I am the kind of woman who’s style and likes have changed several times.  My dear husband has repainted many a recently painted room because I wanted to try something different.  I am not the kind that places great sentimental value on things.  I really like my set but if they were lost or stolen tomorrow I would enjoy the opportunity to shop for something else.

Post # 24
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1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I do love my ring, I just wish the stone was a tiny bit bigger. It’s .33ct and it looks kinda silly on my hand because my fingers are really chubby. I think a half carat would look a bit better in relation to my fingers.

Post # 25
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1993 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MrsFuzzyFace:  Thank you for understanding!  Yes, I see your point…I think it is funny you would enjoy the opportunity to shop for a new ring:)  I laughed when I read that because I am overcome with a crippling fear of something happening to my ring if I have to take it off;)  I don’t like wearing it to the gym and lifting weights with it on, so I leave it at home.  The entire time I am at the gym, I’m worried:)  And it’s insured.  And we have an alarm.  

I even ordered a special small heart-shaped silver jewelry box, monogrammed with FI’s last name initial, & lined in soft black velvet from Pottery Barn that is just for my ering.  It doesn’t go in the normal jewelry box.

To each her own, that is why posting and reading these boards is so interesting to me:)

Post # 27
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1335 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@agirlwithdreams7: You definitely deserve to be 100% happy with your ring. I can honestly say that I have never felt bored with mine and love it more each day. It’s the exact ring that I wanted. It isn’t very flashy, expensive, or a high carat weight, but it’s me and I love that it symbolizes us πŸ™‚

Post # 28
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

aw im sorry you’re feeling bored of your ring, but there’s nothing wrong with that!! just like we have different tastes in the type of handbags we like or shoes we wear, the same can apply to rings too, imo.  personally, i do really love my ring (she’s still new though so not sure about a year from now lol). i HOPE that i never get bored of her, but i do find myself still “ooo-ing” and “ahh-ing” at other ring styles.

the way i see it though, you should keep the original ring for its sentimental value as the ering he proposed with, and get something else as a RHR or you can switch it up for the fun of it. i have a few rings myself and i admit, i dont wear my ering everyday (not a huge ring person), but when i do, im always reminded of the thought and effort my Fiance put into getting it for me.  but on other days, i just feel like something different, nothing wrong with that. there’s nothing in the “rulebook” saying you have to wear your ering on your left ring finger forever and always.

that’s just me though, i hold a lot more sentimental values in things. if you’re ok with switching it up totally, nothing wrong with that either.. just keep in mind your taste might change again so its nice to have more than one style to wear and keep things fresh =) hope that helps!!

Post # 29
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9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@jholler25: Maybe I’m not understanding, but I’m not sure how your finace spending 11K on a ring has anything to do with OP being bored with hers. Just because a guy spends a ton on a ring doesn’t mean he loves or values you any more than someone with a moissy, asha or CZ ring. You are seeming to focus on the financial aspect of the ring’s true meaning. I had a diamond ring and it bored me to tears because everyone else had one, and I ended up with a sapphire for my ering. It wasn’t 11K but it’s very nice and it makes me happy and not bored. It wasn’t a huge financial sacrifice and that made me much more comfortable with the purchase.

There was just another woman who posted because she wants a less expensive opal ering because she finds opals interesting and she isn’t interested in diamonds. Her finace is focusing on the cost and insisting on a diamond because it’s most expensive. Expensive doesn’t always equal valuable.

Post # 30
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63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can’t even imagine ever changing or “upgrading” my engagement ring. Apart from the fact that it’s really gorgeous (we chose it together so I could make sure I love it), it has sentimental value for me and can’t be replaced by any other ring. That doesn’t mean I’ll never wear other rings but they are just jewellery and not another engagement ring.

Post # 31
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9028 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@jholler25: I dont understand why you posted pics or price of your ring. Are you trying to say that because your ring is so expensive that makes it impossible for you to be “bored” of it? People have buyers remorse all the time, and can regret a purchase regardless of how much it cost.

 @agirlwithdreams7: If I was your Fiance, I would be sad that you were already getting bored of your e-ring and thinking of upgrading or changing the ring. I would have never told him that

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