(Closed) Anyone sick of their ring?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 77
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Sugar bee

Is it just me or this board like dripping with materialism? I am sorry that you are bored with your engagement ring. Next time you look down at it and think of all your “maybes”, you should think of the man that gave it to you. That ring should have so much meaning to you no matter the price tag it came with because of the reason it was put on your finger. He is pledging to spend the rest of his life with YOU, the center of his universe and he was so incredibly in love with you he felt he just had to get you a sparkly. I have to stop reading this board because emotionally, it is upsetting to me. As a culture we have completely forgotten what TRUE LOVE, and marriage is about because we are bombarded of images that all have dollar signs in front of them. I am sure there will be a lot of angry comments after this one but I’m shrugging it off because this needed to be said. I would marry my fiance with a naked finger, standing in a mud puddle with a plastic pancho and top hat if I had to-because in the end I would get what I wanted the most-which was him.

Post # 78
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Sugar bee

Is it just me or this board like dripping with materialism? I am sorry that you are bored with your engagement ring. Next time you look down at it and think of all your “maybes”, you should think of the man that gave it to you. That ring should have so much meaning to you no matter the price tag it came with because of the reason it was put on your finger. He is pledging to spend the rest of his life with YOU, the center of his universe and he was so incredibly in love with you he felt he just had to get you a sparkly. I have to stop reading this board because emotionally, it is upsetting to me. As a culture we have completely forgotten what TRUE LOVE, and marriage is about because we are bombarded of images that all have dollar signs in front of them. I am sure there will be a lot of angry comments after this one but I’m shrugging it off because this needed to be said. I would marry my fiance with a naked finger, standing in a mud puddle with a plastic pancho and top hat if I had to-because in the end I would get what I wanted the most-which was him.

Post # 79
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Sugar bee

Btw, this is my ring. And no, not for one second have I ever tired of being incredibly proud to wear it. I do not care that it came from Zales, I do not care that it was on SALE, I do not care that it is different-looking. I care about the man that slipped it on my finger.

Post # 80
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I agree with you and don’t think anyone should become angered after reading your comment. I commented earlier on this post and after reading other people’s comments, I’m not sure if it’s true materialism people are feeling, or just wanting their engagement ring to make them feel truly satisifed and happy because they will be wearing it forever. Personally, I would be happy with whatever my Fiance gave me, even if it was nothing like you said, because I love him. As I’m sure many others would feel.

My Fiance spent under $1k on my ring (which is from Zales also!) and I would never want to “upgrade” it, but I have nothing against anyone who does. I just don’t see myself ever becoming unhappy or bored with my ring. The money he spent on it doesn’t matter to me because I know he purchased it as a symbol of our love and that’s all that matters. I think it’s the most beautiful ring in the world and always will.

I’m not sure, but I think, no matter the cost, every woman wants to feel that feeling of satisfaction, even if that means seeing their ring as an evolving symbol of love because the most important thing is their verbal commitment and they just want to feel their ring matches that feeling of love. 

Post # 81
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Sugar bee

@Golden139: Thank you for a different prospective on the matter and I appreciate your view.

Btw sorry for the double post everyone, my computer seems to have a mind of its own.

Post # 82
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2007

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@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: You are so right! I am not a super sentimental person, I love my husband and I love my set! That’s all that should matter! Honestly, my two birthstone bands I wear have the most sentimental value because they represent the two loves of my life (my husband and son). Yes, my e-ring is an upgrade but that’s mainly because my old ring got to be pretty uncomfortable after I had my son.    And my husband felt I deserved an upgrade. =)

Let me offer another perspective as someone who’s been married for 3.5 years.  The OMG-look-at-my-new-engagement-ring sparkle will wear off.  And you will not notice it as much, i promise.  Especially when/if you have kids.  I am a stay-at-home-mom to a very active 18-month-old.  Do I think about my rings or even notice my rings on a daily basis? No, not even close.  Do I think about how much they cost, where they came from, any of that? Of course not.  I even forget to wear them some days! LOL! I still love them, but they are not the end all be all of my daily life.  Also my new upgrade was not expensive at all (my new e-ring is moissanite and it was under 1000 dollars).  But that doesn’t make it any less sentimental to me.  I’m sorry but I just don’t understand the whole he sacrificed so it’s more meaningful to me.  Then again I could never comprehend wearing 10 grand on my hand either.  But that’s just me, great for other people who do/can.  

I don’t like how in our culture the ring is SO important and WE MUST have the biggest, most expensive ring possible! Let me tell you girls, marriage is SO MUCH more than a damn ring on your finger!! It’s ups and downs and is not always easy! 

 

Post # 83
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I think you need a standing ovation! WELL SAID! I agree with you a hundred percent. I think this board IS dripping with materialism. I don’t care HOW MUCH my taste changes over the years, I will never get another engagement ring. I could care less if he wants me to upgrade or if he can afford something better, none of that matters to me. I love what he originally purposed with and that will ALWAYS come first over any “pretty new ring”. The first ring he purposes with is filled with so much emotion, love, and sentimental value. I just couldn’t imagine trading that in even if I did like something else. A new ring, is without a doubt beautiful and shiny but it’s an empty shell in my opinion. I’m glad to find someone else on here that would never change their ring even if it’s not exactly what they wanted. I’m not concerned about something that sits on my finger, I’m concerned about the man who loved me enough to put the damn thing there. This is all just personal opinions of course but it seems like people are caught in the “upgrade” phase.

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@jholler25: I think to be honest, you are WAY too hard on your poor fiance. I would never feel “good” about my ring if I knew my poor fiance had to work his ass off all day not just to buy it, but buy something so materialistic to please you. Are you saying it wouldn’t have meant as much if he just went to the store and bought you a beautiful normal diamond ring? An engagement ring only means something if your fiance works twice as hard for it and makes sure it comes with a hefty price tag because that shows love? Uh…I’m sorry but thats just wrong. It may have been a “sacrifice” for him but since when do men have to sacrifice and work like dogs just to buy an engagement ring? Thats nothing to brag about… I feel bad for your fiance since it seems like he went through a lot just to meet your materialism. 

I think we are forgetting the point here guys. Is getting engaged really about getting engaged anymore? Or just about what your getting engaged with? It used to be enough that the man cared enough about you to WANT to spend forever with you. Now it seems like it’s all about what he goes through to get you the ring, or what kind of ring it is. So sad.

Post # 84
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@TessaDL: I also agree with you!!!! Excellent points!

Post # 85
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@jholler25: your ring is amazing 🙂

Post # 86
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Am I sick of my ring? hmmm NO. I honestly stare at my ring so much I think I’m crazy and would never admit to any one (besides Fiance who is so proud of himself) how often I stare at my ring. I even take cell phone photos of my ring when I have spare moments to myself or when the lighting is unusual. The other day Fiance caught me taking a secret cell phone shot and laughed! I do this crazy stuff at work, uni, beach, coffee shops anywere. I’ve gone MAD.
In saying all of that sometimes I look at it and think… blah… so i go home and give her a clean, she wins me over with her sparkle and the love affair begins again.

Post # 87
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think some of the last posters are missing the point of this thread. this is a board about rings, in the ‘rings’ section of wb. if you are offended by posters discussing their rings, then don’t read the rings board! not trying to be rude but materialistic or not, this board is about rings, so obviously it’s focus is…rings!

also, i don’t think any of the girls who were talking about being not 100% satisfied with their rings were being materialistic. For many of them (myself included), the ring that was used in the proposal could not have been the permanent ring that we look at and love for a lifetime – for various reasons.

Since the engagement ring isn’t the original proposal ring, it’s less of an issue to switch it up or shop around for a permanent one. i know the ring my Fi proposed with would not have lasted more than a week if i had worn it (it was hollow and would dent) and the second one actually did break. I think it’s a bit high and mighty to go on about how your fiancees got you a ring that you will love forever because you’re so unmaterialistic and your love is so pure, as if the ladies with ring issues are missing the point of marriage!

 

ok, done!

 

Post # 88
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@MrsPinkBONBON: You’re entitled to your opinion, and that’s fine.  But I never asked my fiance for a specific size.  He knew I loved a certain setting, it happened to be tacori, and because he knows me so well and the type of jewelry I like, HE decided on the size.  FI got me what he wanted to get me, and that’s that.  I loved a setting.  Again, yes, it happened to be Tacori.  But that setting fits diamonds starting at a .25 ct.  He knows me, and he CHOSE to get me a ring that would WOW me.  That was his choice.  Did he sacrifice?  Sure.  Did we not have food on the table?  No.  So it’s not like I laid down the law and said he HAD to get me a certain thing, OR ELSE. He worked hard for my ring, as previously stated.  But I never said I had to have such and such size.  At the end of the day, because he knows me so well, he wanted to give me the ring that he gave me – the size and quality that he gave me- because he wanted to wow me.  And he didn’t want me to want to upgrade later.  

I have pretty much opted out of replying to this post.  But your response kind of got to me – don’t say anything negative about Fiance, especially ridiculous assumptions about how I treat him, i.e. if I only got the ring I got because I’m “hard” on him.  THAT will get me going any day…Knock me, that’s fine.  But NO ONE will drag Fiance or his choices into this without boiling my blood.  Hate on me, that’s fine.  But you don’t know him, and you definitely don’t know us.  He didn’t post anything. So don’t post anything about him.  Don’t make any assumptions about him.  And trust me in the midst of your assumptions and lack of information and respect:   I got the ring I got because he chose that for me.

I didn’t even know about the caliber of the ring until he proposed to me, so when I read your post and all of the assumptions you made about how he slaved to please me and how I’m some kind of a slave driver, I just thought, “How IGNORANT this person is!!!”

If you can’t deal with what he chose to give me, and you need to bash it for whatever reason, when you don’t know me or our life, then you are the “poor” one.  

 

 

Post # 89
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@jholler25: I’m not even going to BOTHER typing anything in response to that rant and rave you just had going there because I honestly don’t care. You can take my opinion any way you wan’t but if your not comfortable with it, don’t read it. If you don’t want people to take your posts the wrong way maybe you shouldn’t post your ring and continue to brag about how it’s 11,000. That was completely irrelivant to this post and your well aware of it. Maybe I wouldn’t have had to comment the fact that you were being harsh on your fiance because every other word that you used in your OP was practically ” sacrifice sacrifice sacrifice…SACRIFICE”. Get over it. As if anyone else’s fiance didn’t “Sacrifice” the ring wasn’t worth it in your opinion. Not ALL of us work our husbands to the core just to get a nice engagement ring out of it and I’m equally offended at your comment in which you state something similar to that. Nobody is “hating” on you so chill out. If you can’t have a reasonable discussion on the board or understand that everything doesn’t revolve around the way you think, then don’t bother to post anymore.

RELAX.

This conversation is over.

Post # 90
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

ahh dude, i feel bad for you 🙁

i got an emarald and as much as i love it i do sometimes wish i had a diamond just like evryone else.

Post # 91
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I will always remember the story of the Count of Monte Cristo. A man declares that as soon as he can afford a ring he can marry the love of his life. She tells him that she doesn’t need a ring, and ties a piece of string around her finger. She says “This’ll be my ring. And no matter what happens, you will never see it off my finger”. Many years later, after being seperated cruelly, he sees her again, and she shows him that she still has the string wrapped around her finger. To me, that will always symbolize what a promise to marry the person you love should be like.

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@MrsPinkBONBON:

I agree with you. The post that got it all started stated specifically:

“I’m just saying that if the ring is less valuable money-wise, i.e. the financial sacrifice is less, then maybe that makes it easier to see yourself with another ring on your hand?  Maybe that makes it easier to not only eye another ring, but to even swap it out?”

That is not a comment the poster made about her own preferences, but either a general remark or a remark aimed at the OP. Would this comment have been made if the OP had a diamond? Probably, if the diamond was small and therefore “cheap”. I have to assume that this is not simply a case of preferring diamonds. If the OP had a fine emerald, padparadscha sapphire or paraiba tourmaline (all easily more expensive than a diamond), the subsequent comments would not have been made at all.

In addition, this is not a “show off your ring” thread. Posting the price of your ring without being asked is distasteful in most circumstances, but posting the pictures, price, brand and size in a thread like this? It has absolutely nothing to do with the original question. It serves no purpose other than to boast.

I think this is a classic case of “The lady doth protest too much, methinks.”

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