(Closed) Anyone skipping or skipped the seating chart?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Unfortunately too many families have issues they have to deal with. Having no seating plan may leave your guests in the awkward position of trying to find 4 seats together for a family when there are only pairs of seats left open together.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Love, love, love the sign!!!! I may steal it. Hope that’s cool? lol

I’m not doing a seating chart either. I wouldn’t say I’m having an informal wedding, but not a black tie affair either. I just want it to be fun. Most everyone in each of our families get along, and if they don’t – they can find seats on opposite sides of the place!! lol

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have no intention of doing a seating chart, but I want to check in with the venue coordinator to see if that generally works out okay in the space. I think if it turned out that we were at the absolute max capacity, I would need to do something with it, but if I can get away with it, heck no, I’m not doing one! Seems to me like everyone who’s coming is a reasonable adult, or a child in the hand of a reasonable adult, and everyone can sort it out. Can’t think if I’ve ever been to a wedding with assigned seating, but maybe I just didn’t notice.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@julies1949: This exactly. If you have the perfect number of chairs it is inevitable that families will get split up, and if you have extra chairs that means extra tables, and extra centerpieces, and extra linens…those costs add up.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yep! We’re not having a seating chart, it’s an outdoor reception in a tent so people can stand up and eat for all I care.I would have only had one to make sure no one ended up alone or without a place to sit with people they know.

At the last wedding I went to with a seating chart I was seated with all the people I would have chosen to sit with anyways… but at another this summer I was seated with the one other couple I knew from nursing school, and the bride put us with her other friends from college who we had never met. It was kind of cool because she put us with people we would have things in common with from all going to the same school but wouldn’t have known to sit with otherwise. It made the night much more fun.

I think it depends on how formal the wedding is and how much people will be in their seats, whether or not it’s a buffet etc.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ooh sounds fun, you could really go either way then huh? I think that sign is so cute and adds to the lightheartedness of the event. It might help people be more social.

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Where I am from and the location of the wedding, no one does a seating chart. I am going to have more tables than needed that way people can sit with whomever they would like. Chances are after dinner people will be up dancing or talking with others, so it isn’t going to matter. Also, we are doing buffet, so people will be getting up to get their food. We are just going to reserve tables for parents and whomever they would like to sit with.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We had sort of a unique situation…

I was planning on having a seating chart. Some big poster with everyone’s name and their table name, and then a name card at the place setting. 

It turns out that I had no no no time to do the big poster style list of where everyone was seated, but we did set out the name cards and so then I guess everyone had to wander around till they found their name, but in the end they were all seated satisfactorily. We had only about 70 people (and 16 of them were wedding party + SO) so I don’t think it was too bad. 

We had a pretty casual affair so the seating chart wasn’t really to avoid conflicts it was just to avoid people being bored. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee

I’ve been to tons of events with open seating and it was a chaotic mess everytime. Yes, it does make everyone feel like they are back in the high school cafeteria since people always get separated and have to sit by themselves with people they don;t know or aren’t comfortable with.

Even family holiday dinners where there is more than one table requires a seating plan of some sort.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I personally don’t like it. I just went to a wedding without a seating chart and everyone wandered around not really sure where to sit and bigger groups of people had to try to find a table with enough seats for everyone. It was just awkward and chaotic.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We’re not having a seating chart! Where I’m from, it’s very rare for the guests to have assigned seats for dinner…and I agree that it takes a lot of stress off not having to plan that out! Of course, we are very lucky that we don’t have family conflicts or anything like that. The only tables we’re ‘reserving’ are the head table (obviously), a table for his parents and grandparents, and a table for my parents are grandparents. Other than that, it’s a free-for-all. 🙂

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