(Closed) Anyone skipping or skipped the seating chart?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 46
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have never been to a wedding with a seating chart, so I’m def. not doing one.

Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@cyndistar3: I completely agree with this.  I guess where I come from they aren’t common and I think people I know would be unhappy with being told who they have to sit with.

Post # 48
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have been to many with and without. I prefer assigned tables. It is always chaotic and ackward for guests that really don’t know many people. I think the extra work is well worth it for guests to be comfortable and not have to worry about where they are sitting.

ETA: I have never been, or known anyone to say that they were upset that there was a seating chart. It is pretty common at large events and I would never feel upset that they told me where to sit.

Post # 49
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Bee Keeper

We arent doing a seating chart for everyone, but having some of the tables reserved for wedding party/ family of the bride and groom.

I personally have never been to a wedding with a seating chart assignment and have never felt awkward or weird about sitting. I thought about doing one but it doesn’t really make much sense ( outdoor reception/buffet style food) for our venue. We are having to cut some corners here and there, and that little “extra” is something we both decided we could probably do without.. minus the reserved tables for our grandparents and elderly family members AWAY from the speakers lol. PLUS- our guest list is going to be around 130-150 with family and close friends… all of which are extremely outgoing and  fun people. I don’t foresee a problem there! I definitely foresee a problem with my FI’s frat brothers and army buddies at the open bar trying to swoon my single bridesmaids! haha.

Post # 50
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

as far as worrying about family/friend drama goes…   we had some in my family, and my brother and I talked about it before he and his fiance made the final decision not to have one…

if people can’t get over their petty fights/nonsense for a FEW hours for the wedding of someone they love, they shouldn’t bother going to the wedding at all.  Not having a seating chart meant it was THEIR responsibility to act like mature adults, no burden or blame at all could be placed on the couple for putting Aunt Sue next to Cousin JimBob who are fighting over who should have won American Idol or whatever… 🙂

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I personally really don’t like weddings without assigned seating. I find it really uncomfortable and chaotic.

Post # 52
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We did a twist on the seating chart.  We made one with a big chart at the front of the room with just the names and table numbers. We then put big numbers on the tables and did not tell everyone exactly where to sit at the table.  We did, however, put boxes on the tables that had children so “KIDS ONLY” with little games and toys to keep them occupied. So while the chart took time to put together, I recommend unsing EXCEL or another computer spreadsheet so you can move names around at the last minute (you will end up doing this).   It is fun to put people together you’ve always thought would have a lot to talk about, and I love that kids are going to have little presents too.

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@HappilyEverAfter54 Hey, girl. Just wanted you to know the “non” seating chart went wonderfully. With having music, people didn’t even really sit except for dinner, and the extra seats made it where everyone sat with people they liked. Just for you, I actually went around at one point and talked to everyone, just to see who they sat with… Literally everyone sat with their friends. We had an Army peeps table (with 1 extra chair) then a grandparents and aunt/uncle/parents table from grooms side…then same for brides side. 2 bridal party tables, a table of peeps from my dance class, then our other close friends table (all knew each other well) with 1 extra chair at each table… It was perfect. I will put pics on here for you when they come back from the photog…. Laughing

Post # 54
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We didn’t have one. I’ve never been to a wedding with one that I can recall.

I figure people are adults, they are perfectly capable of choosing where to sit. I prefer to choose who to sit by. We had an extra table or two so there was plenty of room for people.

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Where I live, no one does a seating chart, and I had never heard of one until I went to an oot wedding.  I’m not stubborn by nature, but when I found out a small group our friends from “home” where assigned a table, I kinda got mad.  I don’t like being told where to sit at a wedding.  This is completely silly, but I actually like sitting with random people and talking to them.  At this wedding, as soon as we had eaten dinner, all the guests were all over the place and no one cared. Just seems like one more thing to worry about that doesn’t make a difference in the end.

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