Post # 17
I wish we could skip it, but Fiance is all about “tradition”. Stupid traditions that I don’t particularly like apparently. He also wants to put his foot down about “here comes the bride”. Personally, I can’t stand it, but at least it’ll make him happy. Maybe the reason we never argue is because I give in on the very few things he’s adamant about.
Post # 18
@BrianneG: Sorry about “Here Comes the Bride,” but kudos to you for recognizing stuff that feels essential to your groom. I got out of what my Fiance knows as “traditional wedding music” like “Here Comes the Bride” and “Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring” by being Jewish. But I had to give in on having guests stand when the bride walks in (not necessarily traditional for Jewish weddings) because Fiance can’t imagine otherwise.
Post # 19
We skipped the garter toss (because a good friend of mine made it for me), but did the bouquet toss. It was really fun…but then again, I am one of the first of my friends to get married and so there was quite a large contingent standing behind me. It was hilarious, all my neices (from ages 6-10) were back there, and the pictures are just priceless.
Then again, I loved my bouquet and wished I could have kept it. My friend who caught it dried it and put it in a pretty vase at her house, so I get to visit with it.
Post # 20
i have negative connotations with the garter toss and bouquet toss. we had family members who were in their 30s get married and had a bouquet toss and garter toss. it was so awkward because the only people at the wedding who weren’t married were 20 and under (i was the oldest at 20 and my cousins and sister were 14 and younger). in the end the people who caught the bouquet was my 5 year old cousin and my 3 year old cousin caught the garter because nobody wanted to touch that thing.
needless to say, i won’t be doing either. i don’t think i’m going to wear a garter either, but i’m not sure yet.
Post # 21
No bouquet or garter toss for me
Post # 22
I always feel kind of bitter.. like even if I do catch it, is that going to speed things up? At almost all of the weddings I’ve been to lately, the single ladies just dread it for one reason or another. Most of them are a lil older and in waiting-type relationships so I totally get it.
Post # 23
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Not gonna do it.
I got pressured into doing that too many times when I was single. It was humiliating. No way will I subject my single guests to it.
Post # 24
Definitely NOT doing it. I always hated being dragged out to the dance floor to try to catch the bouquet…I found it very degrading.
Instead, I’ll probably have all the couples out on the dance floor dancing, then slowly eliminate couples by how long they’ve been together, till we get to the couple that’s been together the longest.
Post # 25
My idea is to create a toss bouquet out of single dollar bills and attach a twenty to the garter, at least that way someone will want to catch it, and its not because they are waiting to get married. I mean who doesn’t want 20 bucks? I was really agaisnt the toss myself because I was always so embarassed having to get up there. But, being from the South, people just exspect these things. grr. . . So I feel this is a fun compromise for my family members insisting we have it.
Post # 26
I would love to skip the bouquet and garter toss, I brought it up with the SO today… and he was shocked.
We’ll see who wins that one 😉
Post # 27
We have maybe 4 single ladies on the list… one of whom gets married the next month. Of those 4 single ladies- one is mother, who would get up and try to catch the bouquet and she would throw elbows….
So No, we are not tossing the bouquet.
Post # 28
I don’t like it as a guest and like it even less as a bride. No tosses for us!
Post # 29
I’m not doing it!!! My opinion is this: I’m 29. Most of my friends are in their late 20s/early 30s. Singling out the single ladies at this point may make them uncomfortable. I know that a lot of my friends are not proud of their single status and I think we can have a lot of other FUN activities that won’t make people feel uncomfortable (Like a photobooth!!!!). 🙂
That being said I don’t judge people that DO do the toss! I think you just have to know your audience! I bet that lots of people have a blast with it!
Post # 30
Nope! No bouquet means no toss, and if I wear a garter, it won’t be public knowledge. I really don’t enjoy them, and since I’m the only one who feels strongly about it, my way goes.
Post # 31
We are. All our friends that we are inviting are in relationships, except for my Maid/Matron of Honor. And, my Maid/Matron of Honor is obsessively self conscious about being single. I don’t want to throw her up with my younger girl cousins to catch the bouquet, I feel like it would make her inifinitely more upset about being single than she already is. I know that sounds dramatic, but it’s true!