Post # 47
I’m not. Instead I am taking my bouquet to my Nonna, Nonno and Uncle’s grave. I was very close to my Nonna and my Uncle was like a 2nd dad to me (I never knew my Nonno). I suggested this to my mum and she told me that she had actually done the same with her bouquet (took it to my Nonno’s grave), so it will be the beginning of a family wedding tradition for us.
Post # 48
THANK GOD! Seriously I was feeling like I was alone!
I really really dont want to do a bouquet toss or garter toss.
I dont like flowers much, so I wont even be holding a bouquet (parasol instead) ^^
and I dont want a garter toss (I have one but doubt ill even wear it…)
Its just not my cup of tea really.
But my boy was even shocked when I said no bouquet. but im not budging
Post # 49
Wow, is anyone on this thread doing either of these traditions? I hadn’t given it much thought, but figured I’d do it because everyone in my family had (I haven’t formed any strong opinions about it).
So while it may seem obvious to you, what are your reasons for not wanting to do it (other than just that it seems dumb)?
Post # 50
@joygirl: For me, I dont like flowers. They dont do anything for me and they seem like a nuisance to carry around. Hence Why i wont be carrying one 🙂
Post # 51
we skipped the garter and bouquet toss and no one even noticed or mentioned it.
Post # 52
@joygirl: My reasons for each are different. I find the garter toss a little unseemly–the groom going up the bride’s dress to get the garter while friends and family look on. Awkward. On the bouquet toss, well, I’ve got a bunch of reasons. First, I think it assumes that every single woman must want to get married. And as a single woman, I never enjoyed the bouquet toss. Some women take it very seriously and I have been elbowed or shoved more times than I care to count.
The resistance I’m getting (on this and so many other things) is from FI’s extended relatives (of which he has legions). One of FI’s aunts recently said “but you HAVE to toss the bouquet” (She has an unmarried daughter) and I borrowed a line from Letters from a Pissed Off Bride: “The only things I have to do are pay taxes and die. Everything else is choices.”
Post # 53
@joygirl, we skipped the bouquet and garter tosses for similar reasons to Professor’s. The idea that every single person wanted to get married so desperately that they would compete to be the next one just struck us as a bit ridiculous.
Also, we had a small ceremony, and the single women were one in her 60s (my former sister-in-law), two in their late thirties, and my daughter (age 26), who tells me she isn’t sure she ever wants to be married. The single men were my ex-husband (also in his 60s) and my son (27). “Unseemly” doesn’t begin to cover all of the awful possibilities in that scenario.
Post # 54
We’re definitely not doing a bouquet or garter toss. I’ve been to weddings where I was already engaged, and still forced to go up for the bouquet toss. And my wedding date was already set! It was a bit ridiculous.
Post # 56
I’m not doing it. We’re 35 and 33, all of our friends are married with kids so a bouquet toss would look a bit silly. We’re doing a anniversery dance instead and I’ll give my bouquet to the last married woman on the floor (likely to be my Future Mother-In-Law.)
Post # 57
Never enjoyed the bouquet toss when I was single –made me feel like a spectacle.
Professor makes some really good points too.
If we toss any bouquet it will be during an impromptu drunken rugby match. Otherwise we will likely pass it along to the couple together the longest or somesuch.
Post # 58
We aren’t doing either one. We never enjoyed them at other people’s weddings and most of our friends aren’t single anymore. Plus, it leaves more time for dancing! Woo-hoo!
Post # 59
I’mn not doing it either, I want my Mum to have my bouquet after the wedding
Post # 60
Nope, no way, ain’t happening. Anniversary dance here. Fiance was trying to reconvince me of a garter toss recently…I told him fine then, we’ll be playing “Single Ladies” for my bouquet toss then. He HATES that song. Subject dropped very quickly. 😛
Post # 61
not doing it because I think it’s sexist. same with the garter toss. I love the idea of giving it to the couple who has been married the longest.