(Closed) Anyone spending the holidays without your ‘normal’ family?

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
1616 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Can you guys come up with the money to fly here out to join you? I am sure your husbands family would welcome her to join their celebrations. 

Post # 4
11 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

We’re spending Thanksgiving with his family in Dallas, but Christmas together at home.  Last year, we invited his family and some of our closer friends over for both holidays.  Next year, I think we’ll probably do Thanksgiving again with his family and perhaps try for Chirstmas with my family.

I’m not big on travelling for holidays.  it’s so expensive and I’d rather be able to spend more time with the people I love during other parts of the year.  (Living in Texas, it’s great to get back to the midwest in August!)  But with our family growing in multiple ways next year, both with the marriage and my sister having a baby, I think that my stance on family holidays is going to change.

I still try to send family members flowers around the holiday, in addition to gifts, especially family members who I may worry about being lonely, like my grandma.  I like the idea of her having something to look at on her kitchen table throughout the holiday week that lets her know that she’s in my heart.

Post # 6
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I feel you. I have never NOT spent Christmas with my parents, but my mother is grieving and refuses to celebrate anything. So my new husband and I are on our own, and I’m not sure what we’re going to do! ๐Ÿ™

Post # 7
3132 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Though I’ve lived across the country from my parents since college, I always flew home for the holidays – except for the past two years, when I lived in Japan.  Even then, we Skyped together on Christmas in 2008.  Christmas last year, though, was miserable.  My stupid internet provider decided I hadn’t paid them, and so they cut off my internet – just a minute after my parents called.  They had set up the computer in front of the Christmas tree and everything.  I was on a miniscule island in the middle of nowhere, so I couldn’t get online anywhere else.  It took them a week to get my internet back up, and by then I had already left for my vacation in India.  I celebrated it without anyone at all, and I had to work on Christmas.  ๐Ÿ™

This year, I can’t afford to fly home for Thanksgiving or Christmas, but I’m staying in town here and joining my BF’s family.  His family is massive, but this will be the first time I’ve met most of the extended family, so I’m pretty nervous.  I’m scared I’m just going to feel like an outsider the whole time.

Post # 8
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yup, we are.  This is the first year, we are spending both holidays on our own.

We moved across the country two years ago and we were able to be home for Thanksgiving because our wedding was the weekend after.

Like you, we can’t afford it to fly home.  Makes me and my DH sad. But it’s okay. We’ll make the best of it.

I tell him that we are starting to make our own traditions as a family instead doing the same thing every year.  Instead of his/my family traditions… we now will have ours. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@twocatcupcake: My Fiance is living out of state right now for work and he’ll be spending both his birthday and Thanksgiving by himself for the first time ever! I’m super bummed that I won’t get to see him and I know he’s kinda upset about it. He figures he’ll get together with some lone friends/co-workers and do something though, so it’ll all work out ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
1524 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

This will be my first Christmas away from my parents and brother.  I expect I’ll be pretty sniffly on the 24th.

Post # 11
2631 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This will be my first x-mas with DH and his family! I am excited and nervous at the same time. haha.

Post # 12
386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My sister moved to California, and just started a really great job at a brand new restaurant, and although she asked for the time off to fly to NC where my Mom is and we’ll all be meeting for Christmas, she is not sure that she will get the time or if she will be able to afford the $600+ plane ticket.

It will be the first Christmas where we haven’t all been together at some point during the day, and it will be very strange if she’s not able to make it.

Post # 13
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance and moved from Oregon to Colorado about 2 years ago to be closer to his family. It was a big adjustment to be away from ALL of my family for the holidays. But, we have my FI’s son here for Christmas every year, and his family is my family now too. Hopefully we will be able to spend the holidays with my family one of these years, but probably not for a while since my future stepson is here for the holidays, so we can’t travel. 

Post # 14
4211 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I will not be with any of my family for Thanksgiving this year and that is a first. My first thanksgiving with DH and his family my mom was also there so this will be new to me and Im a little sad but I know it will still be fun!

Post # 15
7086 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

This one is a hard one for me.  This is the first year that my son will not be coming home for Christmas.  He is in boarding school in MN and wants to do things with his friends this year.  He is a senior so I can’t blame him for wanting to go and I said yes.  My mom has decided to not come down either as he is not coming down.  My brother and his family transfered with the army last year and cannot come home and that just leaves my dad, who is going to his step daughters this year.  The one bright spot is that we will all be connected through the web cams and I’ll take that over nothing anyday!

Post # 16
5259 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We usually go to my aunt’s for Thanksgiving, on my Dad’s side of the family, but this year we got invited to an old friend’s house across the state.  I am pretty excited!  I wish we had more time off to stay, but I am happy for the change.  My Dad’s side of the family is 50 and up, otherwise 10-13.  It just isn’t that much fun without anyone near our age group.  (Not that that couldn’t be fun with a different mix or something.)  They wear the same clothes every year, they have the same food at the same place.  Then, they play a card game I don’t know or like, it just isn’t that exciting.  I am just excited to do something new and see old friends and people my age.  We were little kids together, and I don’t have many lifelong friends from moving so much – so I LOVE them!  For me, it is a good thing not to be around my family!!! 

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