Anyone Still Living at Home?

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I totally get where you’re coming from.  My fiance and I live with my mom (I’m 30).  And people are definitely judgemental but stuff happens and so here we are.  My dad died and my mom asked us to stay because she didn’t want to be alone.  Then we had to move and now she can’t afford the place without us, so we’re left with the choice of moving out and her losing the house or us staying here and continue paying our rent and hopefully save enough (after paying for our wedding) to buy a house and have my mom move in with us.  Either way, I’ll still be living with my mom, whether it’s my house or her house, and people will judge. You just need to learn to ignore it, people don’t know what’s going on in your lives, and eventually things will work out, even if it’s differently than planned.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Fiance and I still live at our respective parents houses. We are in our early -mid twenties. When people ask we let them know that we are waiting until we are married to live together and staying at home rent free is the fastest way to a large down payment. We plan on purchasing our first home around the time of our wedding but I dont worry about it too much because we have the rest of our lives to wake up next to each other and to fight over the correct way to put the toilet paper on the holder…..

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Out of maybe 8 friends from high school, four still live at home. We all turned 31 last year. Some are still in school (grad school) or back at home, or only children, or saving for a house, etc. Don’t feel too bad about your situation, or let other people make you feel bad about it!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We both still live at home, although in our early twenties, and in school full time. Saving for school is tough enough let alone a wedding/house/everything that goes with a house. Living together would be nice and ideal, but right now it is financially not feasable.

What sucks for us is that his mother is over bearing and because he lives in her house, he must follow her rules. I understand and respect that he must do this, but come on lady – a 10pm curfew on a friday night for your 22 year old son is NOT okay. His older brother(25) also lives at home and has the same rules…he has choosen to isolate himself and not have any friends because he doesn’t like explaining why he can’t go out etc. Its really sad, she has 5 sons and does this. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mmr66:  My sister recently moved back home to finish her degree (after living on her own for a while) and my mom still tries to control her. She’s over 30!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I do…my Fiance still lives at home with his parents too. Were hoping to buy a condo straight away while were saving money since were both reluctant to rent. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Stace126: Thank you for such a nice compliment! It’ll get better.  We were feeling so stuck here with my mom, and for a while but I’ve accepted where we are and what the situation is. And now we have a plan and have accepted that when we move my mom will lose money on this house and some people may be mad at us, but we’re going to offer my mom to move in with us for cheap, it might not be ideal but it’s the best we can do.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

*Sigh*. Darling Husband and I live rent-free in my parent’s in-law apartment of their house (which is basically the entire bottom floor of their house). I know the feeling. I am 24, he is 26. It’s over 6 months since our wedding and we’re still here… and it’s a bit embarassing. However, during our engagement, we were hit with a lot of unlucky situations, and we used up basically all of our savings. We’re working on replenishing it now, but both having entry-level jobs, it’s going to take forever to get out of here as well. Not helpful that we also live right outside of Boston – one of the most expensive places to live! It’s not easy starting out today. I can’t imagine that we’ll be able to buy our own home in under 2 years from now. But, you gotta do what you gotta do!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@kerensa: I guess what gets me is that we’re both normal, educated, respectable people who have NEVER gotten in trouble of any type. We both had the same type of upbringing, same religious beliefs, etc. Why ruin such a fun time in someone’s life?! My parents don’t exactly tell me when i can do something/go somehwere, but they do PREFER if I let them know, which I do out of respect for them, but unlike him, I don’t have to call home 10 times when we’re out on a date (not exaggerating!) ugh it gets so frustrating, but I just keep telling myself it will be worth it! haha

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont anymore only because we bought a house last year, but I was almost 31 when I moved out.  For me, it’s a cultural thing.  It is totally normal to live at home until married or you decide to purchase a home.  All my other Asian friends were in the same boat, living at home until married.  Some of my other friends used to joke and poke fun at me, but it never bothered me, I just smile when I look at what I was ablel to save not paying rent all that time.  Don’t worry, the time will come for you to move out with your fiance. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I completly understand! I am only young (19) but I had to grow up REALLY fast since I had my son at age 16. My Fiance, my son and I all live in my parents house (sad, I know). Fi is currently going to school and I start in January. Our wedding isent for another two years, and we are hoping to move out VERY soon after the wedding. My parents have a large house (5 floors) so they live in the bottom two floors, and we live in the top two floors and we share the kitchen in the middle floor. Since all they have done for us (We dont pay board, or pay for groceries, and this is going to sound reallllly bad, but she even does my laundry) we are starting to save up to send them on a vacation instead of going on a honeymoon right away, we will take our honeymoon on our anniversary. But like someone else said – you gotta do, what you gotta do!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My sisters lived at home unitl early to mid 30’s. I live in their house but only after they moved out to their Florida home. No shame in living at home still, it allows me to give my son a better quality of life.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ohhhh I so get you I’m in the same boat Im 24 n Fiance is 27 he works full time and goes to school and I’m a stay at home mom.I get embarassed when people ask as well but I’m learning little by little to not let it affect me as much.My 4 year old always asks me when he’s gonna have his own room that breaks my heart,but I know we will have our home soon.

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