Post # 1
So in the waiting cycle, I’ve been in the full-blown depressed/resentful part of it, and it’s ruining our relationship and interfering with my happiness. After reading Mr. Bee’s plan, I’ve realized this is exactly what I need to do to take back control of my happiness. I’m vowing to lay off on engagement pressure until March, and take care of myself to be happy again.
So…any other Bees wanna join me? Make a pact and check back here once in a while to gauge our progress?
And sorry, I don’t know how this got labelled as being in the “Ring” board.
Post # 4
I suggest you post this in the “Waiting” board. You’ll definitely get more responses there.
But I’ll do it with you! I kind of already am. I haven’t brought up engagement since September and plan to keep quiet until our timeline is up. The timeline that we agreed on was that we’d be engaged by our next anniversary (March 19th) so it fits right in with your pact.
So, what kinds of things are you doing for yourself? I’ve taken up knitting and I’m trying to get healthy (gym, diet, etc.). I’m also growing my hair out.
Post # 5
I’m in! But I agree, post this is the waiting section =)
Post # 6
Seems like this found its way into the waiting section! I have been trying to keep quiet and if he brings it up to not sound overly pushy. He brings it up a decent amount, but only to tease me….but either way, I’m totally in on this! School is kinda stressful right now but I really want to get myself on track so I can be more relaxed with it! I am going to settle myself down and aim for March as well 🙂 Good luck
Post # 7
I don’t think the Plan is for me……. but good luck!
Post # 8
Hi there! I’m a brand new bee and this pact is just what I need! My SO hinted that we could be engaged by April but I doubt that’s going to happen if I keep bringing it up and getting upset all the time… I am usually such a disciplined person, but with this issue I have had none at all! Unfortunately my impatience has taken its toll on both of us. It’s great to know other ladies are in the same boat- makes me feel a touch less “crazy”.
Here is what I am focusing on for the next couple months: I am applying for my Master’s degree, I am learning more about strength training and I am planning a snowboarding trip out west.
Good luck to all of us!
Post # 9
I’m not expecting a proposal until next december, so I’ll agree to hold off until october, then I may start to go a little crazy!
I’m working on my undergrad degree, so it’s keeping me pretty crazy busy. I know my semester will be insane in the spring. I’m also getting my diving certification and going to Honduras for 13 days in late spring =) I’m just glad I have some things to look forward to! I can’t promise no wedding or engagement talk with my girlfriends though, I have one that I’ll be helping her plan her wedding! But I won’t bring it up with SO unless of course he brings it up. =) Best of luck to all of us! Keep each other updated =)
Post # 10
@Shel2523: I got my diving certification in Utila in Honduras in 2003! You will love diving in Honduras! So beautiful
Post # 11
@lizzyflitz, YAY! That’s what I’m hoping! I’m a marine science/Bio major and the opportunity arose! I wasn’t about to pass it up! I don’t want to board hack, but if you have any advice on underwater cameras or anything diving advice relates (I’m completely new at this) Please PM me! I am trying to gain as much knowledge as possible! Thanks =)
Post # 12
If my proposal doesn’t happen by the end of the year or early Jan (my bday), then yes I will be carrying out Mr Bees plan, but not quite yet, I think Christmas plans are keeping me well and truly occupied for now 🙂
Post # 13
I’m totally in !! So depressed about “waiting” (if I’m even really “waiting”) right now that I can’t even elaborate on it. So, I’m definitely in. I’m tired…been dating 3 years. I can’t really deal much longer.
Can we do something inspirational to keep each other going? Like weekly check ins or something? I have friends but none that really understand the position I’m in.
Hell, I don’t understand anymore.
Post # 14
I’m not waiting but I wanted to encourage you. I did not follow this advice and it did nothing but cause problems and put pressure on him even though he said he didn’t feel pressured. It’s super hard though I know! Good luck 🙂
Post # 15
@abirdword: I think I will do something like this.
Step 1 work on your life goal in terms of career and education.
Step 2 spend more time with your girlfriends and family.
Step 3 pick up several new hobbies.
Step 4 continue to do romantic things together.
Step 5 Go on an adventure together.
Step 6 discuss what you guys can do to improve your relationship.
Step 7 Be yourself and be happy : )
Good luck ladies! hugs
Post # 16
Adeshewa, great suggestions! I love ’em 🙂