(Closed) Anyone WAITING before they have children?

posted 10 years ago in Babies
Post # 16
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908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think the main issue with most people is age.  Pregnancy risks increase in your mid-30s and so if you get married at 30 and want 2-3 kids, you are more likely to get started right away. 

I got married at 26 and want to have my first kid around 29-30.

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Fiance and I will both be 30 when we get married.  We will definitely wait at least one year before trying to get pregnant due to my starting residency a few weeks after our wedding.  Being pregnant and starting a family during my internship year is just not a good idea!  Wink

Post # 18
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639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

we want to wait about 4-5 years.  mostly this is a financial decision for us.  we want to be solidly able to support ourselves and our family and have a nice reserve in savings before we have kids.  

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

There are lots of newlyweds waiting to have children!

we plan to wait 4-5 years because of financial/practical reasons and us still being fairly young.

In another world though, I wouldn’t mind having a baby next year or so, we’re just trying to be responsible financially (we would literally have to move in with his parents if I got pregnant right now).  But we can’t wait until it’s ‘time’!

Post # 20
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384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I figure we’ll be trying by the end of our first year together.  Mostly because of our ages.  I’ll be 31 and he’ll be nearly 33 when we get married.  By the time we get married we will have been dating 3.5 years and living together 2.5 of those years, so it’ll be similar to the couples taht wait 3 or 4 years after marriage to start trying.  Probably if we were younger we’d wait longer even though we’ve been together for a while.  Mostly our desicion comes down to age.

Post # 21
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584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We’ll be waiting a couple of years at least – we didn’t live together before the wedding and want to really enjoy a couple of years “just us.” The timeline would be different if we were older, though – I’m 24 now, so we can have a few years and still have children before we’re 30.

Post # 23
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5493 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

We’ll be waiting at least 3 years after marriage before we start trying.  I would wait even longer but at that point it’ll be a matter of the biological clock ticking.  I’m in my mid twenties and Fiance is in his late twenties so while the pressure is not on quiet yet we know it will be.  However, we really want to just enjoy each other and doing things for ourselves, (traveling), before we have kids.  Also both of us have either a graduate degree or phd so since we had more school and started our careers later we both want to be very firmly settled in our careers before starting to have kids.

Post # 24
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We’ll be waiting about 2-2.5 years now before having a kid, so we’ll probably start trying around, oh, February 2011ish…I’ll be 25, so probably 26 when we have our first.

Post # 25
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1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We are waiting a year at least that’s the plan since we didn’t live together both marriage. However we can’t wait to long due to age.

Post # 26
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We’re planning to wait about 2 years. I say 1-2 and he says 2-3, so we’ll see. It’s so hard, though! I see everyone around me having babies and my body says “want one nooooooow!”

Post # 27
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90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We’re waiting another five years. I’m 22 and Darling Husband is 24 right now. We’ve already been together for five years, just married last month. For us, we want plenty of time to enjoy each other and to get financially ready for a family. Just because we found each other earlier in life, it doesn’t mean we want to rush everything. We’re very happy enjoying our early 20s and being newlyweds without the added stress of kids.

Our labrador is our child right now, lol.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

we said probably in 2 years or so..we want to have a year to ourselves first and then we’ll see from there, but then again, who knows what’ll happen!

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Right now our plan is 4-5 years from now, which is 2-3 years after we get married!! Everyone thinks we’ll do it earlier, but we don’t feel the rush, I’m 24 (25 in January) and just want to have our first before 30.

Post # 30
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We’re waiting 5-7 years, we both want to finish up our Grad degrees (possibly a doctorate for me) and be able to travel/live like college students for a while before we have an added responsibility (even though it’s a huge blessing and I can’t wait!)

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