(Closed) Anyone WAITING before they have children?

posted 10 years ago in Babies
Post # 31
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825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We’ll be waiting at least 2 years. I’ll be enrolling in grad school right after we get married, and he wants us to have more money saved up before we have kids. Plus we’d like to savor living in an impractical loft and taking long vacations before we have kids to think about ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 32
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6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We were planning on waiting 3 or so years before trying for a baby, but honestly, one day a few months after the wedding we woke up and thought, “Why wait?”  Most of the things we wanted to accomplish before having children we had already done (savings, debt paid off, new house, and travel).  The rest of the stuff we planned on doing (like going to Peru and my husband finishing his grad degree) can be completed with children.  In fact, my husband is still on track to graduate with his Master’s right before the baby’s first birthday, and now we’re planning to wait to go to Peru until all our kids are old enough to enjoy it.  In the meantime, we’re planning lots of other baby-friendly trips.

Really, we knew we wanted to have kids, and everything we’ve done up to this point has kinda been preparation for starting a family.  We just realized there was no point in waiting for some “perfect time” to start trying when we’re in an awesome place right now.  For us, at least, there wasn’t really a purpose to waiting any longer, so we just altered our plans to something we were happier with.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 33
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109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We want to wait until I’m 24 to start trying and ill be settled into my career. Which should be 3ish years from now, but Fiance will be 29. But, both of us coming from INCREDIBLY fertile families ( i’m talking there more accidents than planned kids) we will probably have kids before that and although we are using birth control and stuff if we get pregnant oh well.

Post # 34
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I want to be married for at least 2 years before getting pregnant – not before having kids, but actually being pregnant. I want to have at least 2 years to focus on just our marriage, because I know as soon as I get pregnant, it’s all about the kids for the next 20-something years.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Mr. M and I will have been living together for 3.5 years and together for 4.5 when we get married. We have discussed having children, I would like to start ASAP, he would like to wait…so I guess we will be waiting at least 6 months-1 year before we start trying.

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

im 26. he’s 28.

after our wedding in September 2010, i will be 27. he will be 29 (in October).

BUT, we just bought our first home this past August.

I’m starting law school (at night-still working a full time job) in May 2010.

We are well adjusted and can’t wait to have children… but we want to be more prepared financially and enjoy a few years together as well.

We know it’s a HUGE commitment when you decide to try and become parents… we’re trying to cautious about what we can provide our children and also be mindful of my age as well…

I, ideally, want to start trying at 31-32… since I will hopefully have had worked as a lawyer for a couple of years by then. The Fiance, on the other hand, would like to start trying when I’m 29-30… cuz he heard that it’s harder for a woman after that… I don’t believe it though… I’m healthy and I think having children in your thirties is a privilege that I hope to have in my future J

 

Post # 37
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3331 posts
Sugar bee

We’re waiting.  I’ve got another year left before I’m done with my grad program and ideally, we’d like to have a house first.

Post # 38
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1813 posts
Buzzing bee

oh, and for you young brides that say a couple of years…my SIL says that every year they say “maybe in 3 more years” hahaha   So, just know you might change your minds either way!  She hasn’t mentioned it lately, and she just turned 29, so I don’t know if they are trying but assume they will wait until she graduates (career change).

Post # 39
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2408 posts
Buzzing bee

we’ll be waiting at least a year or two before trying for kids. since we’ve been apart for the entire length of our relationship, i want to get some good old fashioned us time before we go adding little ones to the mix!

Post # 40
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443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’ll be waiting, but not too too long. Probably about 2 years since my fiance will be 35 by our 2nd anniversary, and he’d like to be “done” having kids by 40. I guess you can’t always plan these things, but that’s the timeframe we’ll be trying to work with…

Post # 41
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2206 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am 26 and just finished law school, so I will wait 6-8 years.

On the other hand, two of my close friends got married this past weekend, and are trying on the honeymoon! She is 34, he is 36, and they are both secure in their careers. He makes more money, and she will be able to return to work whenever she wants.

Finally, two other friends got married last year, and have been trying for about 6 months, though they are both women, so “trying” is slightly different. ๐Ÿ˜›  The one who will carry the baby is ready to move on from her career, and is in business school part time and hope to graduate while she is raising their child as a mostly stay at home mom.  My other friend is also an attorney, and now feels secure at work.  The security was the trigger for children.  Both are 26.

So, three different situations. Just thought I would share!

Post # 42
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1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We want to wait about 5 years after marriage to start trying.  We’re both pretty young and want a chance to be more settled into our careers and be more financially stable.  We won’t live together until after the wedding, so we want to enjoy married life for awhile, just the two of us. 

Post # 43
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it depends on the age of people getting married. My Fiance and I will be 24 and 26 when we get married and he just started his own company so I want to give him time to build his company and a little financial security before we have children. I figure if we wait 3 yrs and then start trying I will porbably have kids by the time I’m 28. I just think that if I was older I wouldn’t to wait so long.

Post # 44
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5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’ve been married for over a year and probably won’t even think about trying for another year or two.  I’m not going to lie, though, if my hubby decided tomorrow he wanted to start trying I’d probably consider it ๐Ÿ™‚ Timing wise, though, there are still some things we want to do, like finish our house, before we start making babies.

Post # 45
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1108 posts
Bumble bee

Boyfriend or Best Friend and look to be on the path to get married well before 30, which is our “ok, we can start thinking about chillins” age.

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